Well heck son, you need to find yourself a rich girl.

Don't sign one of them there prenups.

Why not? I thought they were to protect your assets

They do, but she'd be the one with the money, so when they divorce, he'll get half.

He has no assets. If she does, he wants it all! Get it? Get it?

Hell no
I work damn hard for what I have got and I have to think of my kids
If hes as nothing. That's not my problem.


Sorry

Would I marry again???

I have been asking myself this question for years and years since the breakup of my current, which is also my 1st marriage.

We all have our reasons for getting to this stage..... be it his or her fault, or both parties for causing the marriage to break up in the first place. Most of us would like to think that it was the other person who caused it in the first place, and I am guilty of that. But then I have to remind myself it takes 2 hands to clap. Somehow, somewhere.......things went downhill.

I would like to think if I were to ever marry again, I would be the wiser and clearer about things. And it will be for good....and for the last time in this life time.

I guess I would like to marry again......uh, but first I have to get 'un-married'!

Oh no...... he is not going to get any if I can help it!!!
I worked to accumulate those and they are going to either stay with me or go to my children and their children when I go.

Hm...my uncle was married five time before he....mysteriously had an accident...


I'm very competitive...two down....four to go for the win


Whose with me? Anyone? Hello? Is this thing on?

All I hear is crickets...

Yeah me too...kind a makes you sad.

But Iam, it would just be a marriage of convenience, you could atill go play with No1. I'm not the jealous type.

We would have thought that once bitten twice shy, twice bitten, uh! .... but hmmmm 4 more to go........ ouch!

But then again, I must say I admire your 'courage'...

Well, as Grandpa said once "Son I admire your courage, but I can't say much for your brains"

I was going to go back and edit the 'courage' to 'foolishness', but I am glad you realize that yourself ..... lol!

Im separated recently have a 2 year old my now ex wife started duckin around on me dont now if i want go through that again

you are just now separated and not yet divorce

that ink isn't even dry yet


yes I do wonder if it makes a difference

whether it was the slow demise of your marriage over time ( which was mine)


the fighting over the petty things

the not so petty things

or was it because that bond of trust was broken

I'd love to be married. I've been trying to be married since I was six.

Someone above talked about how little most of us understand marriage when we are young, and that's a good way to put it. I'd say from my own point of view, that a better way to put it, is that I did always know what marriage is, or what the marriage is that I wanted and still want. What I had to learn the extremely painful way, is that what I want is vastly more complicated and subtle than just sexual attraction and living in the same house, and that actually achieving it is way harder and requires way more wisdom and understanding of self and life and others, than the mechanics of marriage includes.

The marriage I've always wanted and never had, is a dedication to each other in exactly the ways that the traditional American marriage vows say: in sickness and in health, and so on. Where the people involved are in it all for each other, and not as too many seem to be, to touch a series of bases as in a game, to own a certain set of things, or to feel certain sensual experiences on a regular basis or whatever.

It reminds me a little in a funny way, of a quote from Pirates of the Carribean:

"Wherever we want to go, we go. That's what a ship is, you know. It's not just a keel and a hull and sails; that's what a ship needs. Not what a ship is. What the Black Pearl really is, is freedom." -Jack Sparrow in The Pirates of the Caribben: Curse of the Black Pearl."

There's another aspect to this as well, which I think needs to be seen as completely separate from the emotional parts, and that's the legal part.

I think that the legal part of marriage, actually makes it harder for most people to be married. It certainly obscures and interferes with a person's ability to completely recognize their own personal obligations and needed dedications and understandings. So I don't know that I would ever again go to the authorities and sign up for all their nonsense.

But dedicating myself to the entire existence of the woman I love, that I am ready to do at once and forever.

Marriage is a word that for most of us brings to mind church weddings, a piece of paper and rings. So, as No1 pointed out in his usual clever way, let's change the word to commitment.

When we marry what are we saying? To me this means commitment. I commit myself to you and to us. I open myself up to you with the full knowledge you may hurt me and break my trust. I "assume" you are making the same commitment to me at the same level with the same meaning.

We firmly believe this the first time we marry. But then the trust is broken and we realize this word 'commitment' means different things to different people. How do I find someone who has the same meaning as I have?

Now we want assurances now rhat we won't be hurt again. Sadly, that just doesn't exist.

It's tough when they turn to ducks..

No, I wouldn't

She'd probably say "Why are you still on Mingle?"

"Well, those are my friends, I like these people."

"They're not your friends, pay more attention to me."

"Well, no darl'in, I won't stop on Mingle."

"I want a divorce!"

At which time I'd be back on Mingle, so why go through all that just to end up where I started? No sir, it just don't make sense.