First of all I don't point things anywhere. I actually think and
consider my actions before I take them. Don't insult me because I have
made some good decisions for my life. And yes women do decide when the
sex is on, and I already see that some of women cain't even fathom that.
To straight up atack me shows your immaturty when you don't know me or
understand me or what I am saying. It is the prejudgement of others
that dooms us in the long run. Sure, all of us make mistakes, and that
is acceptiable. But to straight up challenge me in an intellect duel is
immature on your part. You don't know me. And for your also unknowing
imformation, I have been in love, married, and have had a kid before. He
was still born. That was one of the worst moments of my life.

CAN WE ALL JUST DAMN WELL GET ALONG<<LOL<<<<HELL WE ALL NEED NOT TO BE
BITCHY<<<and its the WEEKEND,,calm yalls BUTTZ DOWN,,,,,Love Yall,,damn
SMILE

Thanks loves. I was just tring to give some advice for the future
and all and get attacked by some one that don't know me at all. But yes
daddy should support. That's the right thing to do. And if he was any
kind of man he would.

One handy trick I told my friend about..His ex has custody of the
child(why? only God knows cuz she's useless)he didn't want to be paying
child support cuz we BOTH knew it wouldn't go to supporting the child.
So I asked how much per month he was ordered to pay, when he told me I
suggested he go out and spend that on stuff for his son; diapers, food,
clothes and all that and submit the receipts... that way, his son got
what he needed and my friend felt better knowing that's where it was
going.. for anybody out there, mother OR father who has that same worry
about the custodial parent being irresponsible with the support payments
this works..and the court can't bitch about it and for those whose
agreements aren't completed yet..PUT IT IN if yer not sure about he
other being responsible with the money..it don't matter how it gets to
the child..as long as it does.

that's a good comment animal. it's sad to say but alot of people would
not use it for the kid

Hey king some mom. I get child support for my children and spend it on
them for there needs.

that's great. i wasn't talking about all moms, just some of them. it's
crazy how some people act.

I know what u trying to say King, some just want the money for
themselves. My kids dad has issue with that.

i think that is part of the problem too chica. a hard working dependable
mom like you has to put up with stuff like that because of a few rotten
ones. the same things go for dads. if i had kids i wouldn't have any
problems whatsoever taking care of them, i would want custody. i haven't
had any kids because i didn't feel like the home life would be real
stable with the girls i end up with, it's not an accident that i don't
have kids.

You are still young and when u meet that person the fruit of that
relationship will grow. I had so much issue with my kids dad, he
actually left me when my last child was a year old, of course for
another women who he got her pregnant. But i moved alway far with my
children and did forget him. His nasty ass, does not leave me alone
bother me about taking the kids alway from me. I least i made sure he
give them the child support by taking him to court.

I'm not suggesting there are not irresponsible women out there. But to
put it all on women and say that she is ultimately responsible for
making the final decsions about sex is assine. There are many different
situations, but most women have sex with love and committment in mind.
You are simply trying to put all women in the same small, narrow mined
category. Sorry, it just doesn't fly! Obviously, you have not met a
strong-willed, intelligent healthy of mind woman, because let me tell
you sweet cheeks, some of us aren't going to lay down just because a guy
buys us dinner!

J

i'm sorry to hear that he won't leave you alone. why does it seem like
the ones that cheat on you never want to let you go when you leave lol

Because they know what they are missing out on! That sweet ass.

Hi J, its true i committed myself into that relationship for 10years, I
hate that! the only best thing came out was the children. And some
women screw it up for others.

you put a spell on him huh chica lol did you hypnotize his soul with
that booty

Yeah backing that ass! But there nothing there anymore.

nothing left of your ass or the relationship with him?

Hi Chica Girl!

What can I tell you? There are things about this subject that just stick
in my craw!! So here's a few more


P.S. Mr Nuter,

If two people have unprotected sex, the man carries half the
responsibility in making the decsion to do so. Obviously, the law feels
the same way because pentalties for "absent" parents are getting
stiffer.

I reiterate, most and I say most, not all, women are with a man out of
love and committment. It's doesn't always work out, pure and simple.
So for a man to think he has no responsiblity to the upbringing of a
child that might come from that union is ignorant.

Also, there are women who do not use the support wisely, but others do
and even if they use it on groceries, or paying bills, that it is still
gong to the support of that child. Many women need it just to make ends
meet and survive.

So please people if you want to put down women/single mothers and say we
are all irresponsible for our actions and deserve the hardships of
raising our chldren without the support emotionally and financially of
their father's you are wrong. That kind of attitude is part of the
problem with the youth in today's society. Our children are an
investment in our future, they are precious, regardless of how they got
here and deserve to be loved and nutured by both parents.

ain't no one put down single mothers jane. he basically said what you
said,"it takes two to tango". you are also right about the money part
but no one is disagreeing with you on that one either

I'm sorry KB, but the statement that was made "women decide when the
sex is on" spoke volumes about his mentality. He's not alone, many men
have the same attitude. That attitude in men is in part responsible for
so many women with children that live in poverty and struggle with
decsions like do I buy food or do I get medicine for my sick kid?!!

The situation does work both ways, and there are women out there who
don't want the responsibility of child rearing, but more often than not,
that's not the case and it's men who turn their backs on their children
because they have the same attitude that she layed downed, it's her
fault she got pregnant.

J