People get married for different reasons. You'd be surprised. In many countries, marriages are arranged by the parents, sometimes even before the birth of their child. In the western nations, we believe in having our own choice. I know some of you have been married multiple times. Please share with us (if you dare :-) ), why did you get married and, if more than once, why each time? Knowing what you know now, would you still do it?

first time, I fell in love with my best friends and we wanted the same things in life

second time, I mistook caring deeply for someone who was alone and in need with falling in love, but we didn't really have a strong friendship to build off of,, it was mostly one way

Besides love, other reasons people get married is to fulfill the expectations of society, have a child by a certain age, gain parental approval. Any of these describes your reasons?

Based on what i've seen in the last six months ...

I'm gonna stick with 'better dead, than wed'.

nope, my parents never stressed marriage and other kids certainly didn't,,,,

I didn't really think about it UNTIL I met the one that caused feelings to evolve into thoughts of having our own family and sharing a life together,,

she tricked me I tell you! she tricked me.....hmm.. now must choose my words carefully here.. ..
.. she was a really good cook
. and she kept a clean house
. and she was beautiful and intelligent.
.. and she was great in..hmm... don't want to upset anybody here...
.. let's say... that room you go and sleep ...in... but sometimes you don't sleep... at all..... hope that PG friendly enough..

It was the old "bait and switch" technique. She used it quite effectively.

Simple, cos she was the best I've ever met!

To share my life and love. He just wanted to share my money.

I married my best friend...
So for love, compatibly & to have 2 children in wedlock that would have a good life.

We are divorced. But I never regretted marrying him.

Because i was stupid... lol

First time I was young and stupid, second time apparently I was still stupid and actually believed he loved me........ .....and knowing what I know now I obviously would not have married either one, but that's the chance we take, if not for them I would not be the person I am now.

we were young and we were in love.. stayed married for a very long time.

we don't regret that at all. We're friends and always will be.

I wouldn't change a thing! Even if I could go back and do it all again, with the knowledge I now have.

Why?

Change one little thing and I might not be where I am now. Yes, I want more, but I am very happy with my life. With my beautiful daughter and my AMAZING granddaughter.

Yep, I'd still do it.

Now, would I do it all again going FORWARD????

@($&^@ NO I wouldn't! My bull$hit meter has become a finely honed instrument. I will not settle... ever again!

Ha ha ha You guys are awesome! I love how most of you are still positive even after the heartache and aggravation you endured. You see the bright side. Sometimes, that's hard to do when you've been through the battlefield of love.

Not even with Liam Neeson Purrrrr lmao

If Liam can get past my meter... He is IN! Rawr

I suppose I could have been clearer... Yes! I would get married again. Just not to either of the previous a$$hat$.

Been married once. Basically because it's what I'd always dreamt of, like most girls I suppose. Fall in love, get engaged then married.
Also wanted to be married when we had children. Guess I'm old-fashioned that way.
And also partially because I wanted to have/do what was normal, or expected of you. Had rough teenage years, my parent's divorce, my mom moving abroad with her new husband etc., I needed security and stability.
So a mixture of things.

Second LTR we didn't get married. (THANK GOD for that now! LOL)

Would I do it again, he||, yes! But only if it feels really right. It would have to be different from the first time. I don't need the security anymore, I stand on my own two feet. So it would just be about the right vibe between him and me. I'd take such a commitment far more serious now, because of what life taught me, also you are different, wiser, when older.
And I'd really love a hand-fasting.

To me this is so important, that it could be a potential deal-breaker .. Meaning I'm prolly doomed as few men want to get married again. But I do. For me it would be the ultimate statement of committing.
Ironically my most favourite song is "I'll never be nobody's wife", has been for almost 2 decades. Isn't it ironic... I'm so doomed!!

Hummm because I was totally in love with him... to me there is no other reason to marry someone...

It's complicated but I'd say STUPIDITY. lol. I've only been married that one time. I've almost jumped again but things never happened. Who knows, maybe I prevented it. I don't know. I think it was my age early 30's and the feeling that I had to get married. He asked and I accepted. But never felt it was right. I blame myself. No one else but it's a part of my life. You can't turn back the clock and it's now a part of who I am today. The good and bad.