At what age should a guy and a girl start planning for marriage? To get into a serious relationship that is
marriage bound.

100 years old---its not the age its the ''maturity''--it comes with ''self awareness'' unfortunately we

humans do not spend hardly any time devoted to personal consciousness. most of us are emotionally

wounded by the time we reach the age of six, what i mean is we have formed limiting core beliefs and

favorite feelings and we spend our waking moments playing social intercourse to validate those beliefs

and recycle those favorite feelings and emotions and then we put the blame ''out there''--ie the drama

triangle, of victim, persecutor, and rescuer and end up all victims---that's my story and i am sticking to

it---i can just hear our audience now ''no no not me''---

At whatever age it is when that individual has found their 'niche' in the world.

80

I have to concur that there is no 'age'

people mature at different rates, though in our society, most have not 'matured' to a point of handling marital responsibility until they are at least in college


but after that,, if one is responsible enough to handle it,, there is no proper age,,,

It's relative to your maturity not age.

69. Definitely 69. Definitely.

H2O!!

Never

Ahhhh, rock...you disappoint.


I really expected you to say "whatever the age you are 6 years after you've been dead and buried is".

ohhh... I thought the topic ,was what is the right age to start thinking about..
master....ohhh.. nevermind..

M,
I was gonna do my whole spiel about 'better dead, than wed'...
But, figured I was getting predictable.

Thank you, for showing that I am.

i would start with right around the time you no longer feel the need to ask.

Being on the same page, same channel, right moment in time.

Doesnt matter. The concept of marriage itself need to change enough to feel desireable and not a legal trap surrounded by barbed wire of divorce laws.

If the marriage would be something like a lotto win... A trip to some place like "Las Vegas of marriage" so if you get married, you can book a half a year honeymoon with all expenses paid your employer is obliged to treat it like maternity or paternity leave so you wont lose your job etc. And then you have the opportunity to walk, sleep and make love in beds and beautiful places especially designed for the honeymooners, which you may never come across again in your lifetime later on. A sort of a half year of dreamlife. And ONLY legally married have a pass to enter this once in a a lifetime life in paradise. Second marriage or 3rd wont count anymore, so that the system could not be abused. Now this would change my views towards marriage.

Marriage as it is now wont alter your life for better. You most likely are already living together, you already have all the benefits of togetherness. Marriage will add to this only 1 beautiful day... and then its time to pay up. Helluva way to start a new life - being in debt up to your neck before you even had a chance to take a house loan. And living with a debt is guaranteeed to cause tensions. She would like to keep spending, and he would like to get this friggin debt off. Very hard to do without hurting each others feelings in the process...
Nah, good luck to all soon to be married folks out there... I won't be joinin you just yet.

if she laughs at your cattleprod joke marry her immediately because most women turn violent when you stick 'em with a cattleprod.

It seems to me that a lot of people use to marry in their early 20's, but now it is nearer 30 in my opinion. I think the financial side has a big influence on when people marry. Here in the UK property prices have sky rocketed in the past 10 years and rentals are expensive, people need more money to marry these days. I don't believe there is a right age when to decide to marry, marriage requires a lot of thought before entering in to because it is one of the biggest decisions you will ever make. Remember the proverb,

Thus grief still treads upon the heels of pleasure:
Married in haste, we may repent at leisure.

I don't think there's a right age because it often changes depending on a mood or circumstance two people have.

A lot of people in my generation are getting married, in my opinion, two young and in most cases, because they are pregnant before the vows. Stuff happens I guess. Money is a big factor before a man proposes, could very well be children too.