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Topic: the number one reason people get dumped
RainbowTrout Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 13869	Mon 07/07/14 11:33 AM
The friendship you thought you had was just wasn't really there.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Mon 07/07/14 12:00 PM
The friendship you thought you had was just wasn't really there. Sometimes before anything romantic starts.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Mon 07/07/14 12:06 PM
Because I sabotage the relationship by not accepting change and subconsciously creating problems to cause the relationship to fail so that everything can remain the same as it has always been .... It's always the other person's fault of course... lol I always blame myself for getting involved in such phuckery.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Mon 07/07/14 12:41 PM
Id have to go with impatience we are in an instant gratification culture, where sex is easily obtainable and the foundation of just about every image thrust at us in media and advertising we have sex on the brain and constantly want it how and when and why we want it,, and when someone else offers it,, too often, we feel we are missing out not to accept when we have to put in 'work' instead of just having 'fun' we get impatient and walk away,,,, imho,,

Scoobert Joined Sat 09/28/13 Posts: 12895	Mon 07/07/14 02:50 PM
Feelings and emotional connection lost, that originally got the 2 of us together in the 1st place.

seethestar Joined Sun 06/15/14 Posts: 92	Mon 07/07/14 03:02 PM
Id have to go with impatience we are in an instant gratification culture, where sex is easily obtainable and the foundation of just about every image thrust at us in media and advertising we have sex on the brain and constantly want it how and when and why we want it,, and when someone else offers it,, too often, we feel we are missing out not to accept when we have to put in 'work' instead of just having 'fun' we get impatient and walk away,,,, imho,, I couldn't agree more.. especially when you're not someones' usual type

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Mon 07/07/14 06:54 PM
One person gains weight and thus eats the others snack pack. I mean...really....how can a relationship survive this? Simply put...it can't.

RainbowTrout Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 13869	Mon 07/07/14 07:04 PM
The friendship you thought you had was just wasn't really there. Sometimes before anything romantic starts. Exactly. I mean here you are with someone you used to be able to talk to about anything way deep into the night only to find that some subjects are taboo. It is like we just don't talk about those things in mixed company. So I take it we are just not one, any more? Is that what you are saying?

kc0003 Joined Fri 05/11/07 Posts: 26382	Tue 07/08/14 06:53 AM
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MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Tue 07/08/14 09:08 AM
Texting

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Tue 07/08/14 09:11 AM
The friendship you thought you had was just wasn't really there. Sometimes before anything romantic starts. Exactly. I mean here you are with someone you used to be able to talk to about anything way deep into the night only to find that some subjects are taboo. It is like we just don't talk about those things in mixed company. So I take it we are just not one, any more? Is that what you are saying? Yeah pretty much. Things change.

jacktrades Joined Tue 09/11/12 Posts: 4395	Tue 07/08/14 10:01 AM
Often I think people just start taking each other for granted and forget to try anymore, eventually leading to one of the couple finding someone new or becoming tired of the relationship. I agree with this.

smartwithsparks Joined Sat 06/14/14 Posts: 2439	Tue 07/08/14 10:03 AM
Failure to attach

Thomas27 Joined Sun 10/21/07 Posts: 4860	Tue 07/08/14 10:06 AM
Failure to attach Or too attached... Let me breathe dammit!!

0ldhag Joined Sat 05/31/14 Posts: 1145	Tue 07/08/14 10:57 AM Edited by 0ldhag on Tue 07/08/14 10:57 AM
... you're just not hot enough. . Speaking about myself here, too I think when it all comes down to it, maybe your right. For me I think it's because i'm not bitchy enough. My past boyfriends did everything they could to keep their ex's who treated them like crap...I think those women were on to something though and knew how to really keep a man... I've decided recently to take the same approach.

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Tue 07/08/14 11:23 AM
Her thinking she could touch my remote control.

HoneyFly Joined Mon 01/27/14 Posts: 1962	Tue 07/08/14 11:34 AM
Not sure about #1. I do know when one is ready to go to the next level, the other failed to take part.

dreamerana Joined Sat 09/21/13 Posts: 21544	Tue 07/08/14 11:48 AM
Many people take things lightly and relationships are formed on a superficial level. It comes easily and leaves easily because they don't take time to really know each other. They don't put in effort to make it work. Those who come with self doubt start feeling this is too good to be true and do things to sabotage the relationship instead of accepting that someone can love them this much, on their moody days and all.

carteblanc Joined Mon 05/26/14 Posts: 144	Tue 07/08/14 11:58 AM
Even if two people share similar values and similar ideas as to what they want out of their relationship, they may have different ideas as to the timing when they were to move to the next level, which could be a problem if one of them is not patient enough to keep pace with the one with a slower timetable.. JMO

dreamerana Joined Sat 09/21/13 Posts: 21544	Tue 07/08/14 12:05 PM
Even if two people share similar values and similar ideas as to what they want out of their relationship, they may have different ideas as to the timing when they were to move to the next level, which could be a problem if one of them is not patient enough to keep pace with the one with a slower timetable.. JMO Because they don't take the time to understand where the other on is coming from and why they need the time.