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Fri 07/18/14 05:34 AM
Topic: is the rebound girl usually less attractive than the wife

I do not think that is true and I am sure that is not true in your case you are a very attractive woman maybe its just when someone is just getting out of a relationship they are not ready to jump back into another commitment and they want to keep it light.


thank you that's very nice of you but this happens to me all the time
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Fri 07/18/14 05:04 AM
Topic: is the rebound girl usually less attractive than the wife
it really seems like this is what happens to me all the time I'm the rebound girl all the time
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Tue 07/15/14 12:04 PM
Topic: the number one reason people get dumped
Sugarcoating is t he worst.. I hope t he truth came out in the divorce proceedings
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Mon 07/14/14 06:47 PM
Topic: the number one reason people get dumped
Yeah,

People think this stuff is easy but it's not
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Mon 07/14/14 06:12 PM
Topic: the number one reason people get dumped


One person gains weight and thus eats the others snack pack. I mean...really....how can a relationship survive this? Simply put...it can't.



lol

omg

some of the things people claim to be breaking up about are just as silly though


To you it's silly to me it's truth gimme a break whoa
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Mon 07/14/14 05:30 PM
Topic: the number one reason people get dumped




I cant name just one reson, so i'll name three..:tongue: , but they are, in fact, very intertwined:

* lying, deceiving,not being able to be what they really are (for
various reasons: fear, high demands, underlying agenda etc.)
* not communicating properly about positive and negative aspects of the
relationship
* not being able to deal with the differences (communicating,
adjusting, accepting, transcending them)
I won't lie about anything here or to anyone, but firstoff are you wanting a MAN or a remote control robot, television? Most of my friends on here (Ladies) know or have kept up with me in the forums see me at least for who i am and not what they want me to be. Everyone has their preferences on (who they want to date) but for Changing that person th what you want? Yes in a relationship both should be true and content with each other but most Marriages are going to be Divorces from the Words (I DO) if a person is changing for you or that's expected! Find the person you want to be with before this happens, there at least ONE! Don't put your expectations on the other(you both loose) and if Children are involved from this coupling (they are the worst losers of all)! Think!!


If "being who he is" means allowing him to wish I was beyonce they he step off and step out..

....no way around it
Agree- So stop picking those type of (losers) to date!! You are the one that chose them! No is in my Vocabulary! Besides you talk of cosmetic surgery (why?) that's not going to change a damn thing but your looks and you are a beautiful young lady to be down on the Men you yourself chose to be with! Cool- Fool the words of today -ahhhhhhhhh to be young and foolish again in my prime. Hell no ,i wouldn't trade my life now to be Young and Stupid again!!


Thanks that's nice but still.. it's important to be aware of this stuff
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Mon 07/14/14 05:18 PM
Topic: DO U WANT TO DATING WITH FOREIGN BOYS AND GIRLS
I'm not into language barriers
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Mon 07/14/14 04:47 PM
Topic: the number one reason people get dumped


I cant name just one reson, so i'll name three..:tongue: , but they are, in fact, very intertwined:

* lying, deceiving,not being able to be what they really are (for
various reasons: fear, high demands, underlying agenda etc.)
* not communicating properly about positive and negative aspects of the
relationship
* not being able to deal with the differences (communicating,
adjusting, accepting, transcending them)
I won't lie about anything here or to anyone, but firstoff are you wanting a MAN or a remote control robot, television? Most of my friends on here (Ladies) know or have kept up with me in the forums see me at least for who i am and not what they want me to be. Everyone has their preferences on (who they want to date) but for Changing that person th what you want? Yes in a relationship both should be true and content with each other but most Marriages are going to be Divorces from the Words (I DO) if a person is changing for you or that's expected! Find the person you want to be with before this happens, there at least ONE! Don't put your expectations on the other(you both loose) and if Children are involved from this coupling (they are the worst losers of all)! Think!!


If "being who he is" means allowing him to wish I was beyonce they he step off and step out..

....no way around it
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Mon 07/14/14 03:44 PM
Topic: the number one reason people get dumped
Edited by seethestar on Mon 07/14/14 03:45 PM



I cant name just one reson, so i'll name three..:tongue: , but they are, in fact, very intertwined:

* lying, deceiving,not being able to be what they really are (for
various reasons: fear, high demands, underlying agenda etc.)
* not communicating properly about positive and negative aspects of the
relationship
* not being able to deal with the differences (communicating,
adjusting, accepting, transcending them)

Those are facets resulting from a lack there of that is... the physical unattractiveness they tip toed around in the first place..

Come on, did you really think that showing him "the real you" would result in him not contiuing to compare you to other women?

the op was 'why people get dumped' not look at other women.


Well. What I mean is the undermined attitude people have towards physical attraction is usually their blind spot when confronted with rejection.
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Mon 07/14/14 02:51 PM
Topic: the number one reason people get dumped

I cant name just one reson, so i'll name three..:tongue: , but they are, in fact, very intertwined:

* lying, deceiving,not being able to be what they really are (for
various reasons: fear, high demands, underlying agenda etc.)
* not communicating properly about positive and negative aspects of the
relationship
* not being able to deal with the differences (communicating,
adjusting, accepting, transcending them)

Those are facets resulting from a lack there of that is... the physical unattractiveness they tip toed around in the first place..

Come on, did you really think that showing him "the real you" would result in him not contiuing to compare you to other women?
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Mon 07/14/14 02:48 PM
Topic: the number one reason people get dumped

I cant name just one reson, so i'll name three..:tongue: , but they are, in fact, very intertwined:

* lying, deceiving,not being able to be what they really are (for
various reasons: fear, high demands, underlying agenda etc.)
* not communicating properly about positive and negative aspects of the
relationship
* not being able to deal with the differences (communicating,
adjusting, accepting, transcending them)

Those are facets resulting from a lack there of that is... the physical unattractiveness they tip toed around in the first place..

Come on, did you really think that showing him "the real you" would result in him not contiuing to compare you to other women?
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Mon 07/14/14 09:32 AM
Topic: the number one reason people get dumped
Looks are ALL that matter
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Mon 07/14/14 08:12 AM
Topic: the number one reason people get dumped
Edited by seethestar on Mon 07/14/14 08:13 AM
that's because beauty is the ugly truth of it all.. it really is.. anything else is secondary
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Mon 07/14/14 07:15 AM
Topic: the number one reason people get dumped


Often I think people just start taking each other for granted and forget to try anymore, eventually leading to one of the couple finding someone new or becoming tired of the relationship.


I agree with Josie but I think taking someone for granted or making them feel like the friendship is not important even for a shorter term relationship as well as a marriage or LTR

I think it's the #1 reason even over cheating because taking someone for granted often lies behind the cheating behavior


It begins and ends with beauty
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Mon 07/14/14 06:43 AM
Topic: the number one reason people get dumped
Edited by seethestar on Mon 07/14/14 06:46 AM
Well.. all in all you really still have to be beautiful to land 'em.. and when they get tired of ya, or you so much as sense their eyes wandering (looking at other women, porn hanging with single friends) you CUT 'EM LOOSE NOT JUST give 'em enough rope to hang themselves. .

...I remember some loser wanted to take me to a flippin' Beyonce concert.. I told him to never call me again. I think he wanted to be with me that night while fantasizing about her..
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Mon 07/14/14 06:28 AM
Topic: the number one reason people get dumped
Edited by seethestar on Mon 07/14/14 06:28 AM

fantasy is not infidelity. On the other hand if you think he has to fantasize about another woman to enjoy sex with you, thats different. That would be more like not a match than the infidelity being the problem.

would it be wrong if he fantasized about being in the tropics while having sex with you in his bedroom? its just imagination. As long as he knows he's with you why worry about the things that pass through his mind. At least hes thinking about something instead of a bump on a log.

At the same time, if he is chronically checking out other women while dining with you or something similar, thats disrespectful. Its also a sign that he is not fully IN the relationship with you.


It's NOT ok EVER.. I think true equal love is reserved for the extremely beautiful.
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Mon 07/14/14 06:06 AM
Topic: the number one reason people get dumped

Fantasies are exactly that (unreal)! There are a lot of beautiful Women here on mingle and in all countries around the world!! But how good are they where it counts(on the inside) that's all that matters to me!! Age plays tricks on a person as they grow OLDER, some hold their looks well but the body has a different outlook on your physical capability on or in a relationship! Then there's the mentality on why you want a relationship in the first place, love,money companionship, whatever your material needs are even raising children ! This nowadays goes for both Men and Women! Of course Vanity rules every time( i'm too good) for him or her? Good question here is, How the Hell Will You ever Know if You Don't Try?


You don't try.. the minute I sense a guy is looking elsewhere he can stay away from me.. which is why in order to not get dumped.. I'm going to invest in plastic surgery.. (since vanity rules)
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Mon 07/14/14 03:42 AM
Topic: the number one reason people get dumped


Ill say that a number one reason people get dumped is because (IMO) of self loathing. .

BUT, how can you honestly feel comfortable watching a movie starring Jessica alba, only to go home and have the man you're sharing yourself with more than likely fantasize about her?


Fantasizing over someone in a movie is one thing ( i'd probably have fantasized over the lead actor too) but for me it's when you walk past a pretty girl... because that girl is more 'real' then the ones in the movie, she/those are the ones that concern me regarding his fantasizing...I truly believe in the end, men aren't satisfied with what they have ..but of course, it goes both ways as well I guess..


It's unacceptable in both situations. I've dumped plenty of guys over it.
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Sun 07/13/14 11:30 PM
Topic: the number one reason people get dumped

Delusional




Reality
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Sun 07/13/14 11:07 PM
Topic: the number one reason people get dumped
Ill say that a number one reason people get dumped is because (IMO) of self loathing. .

BUT, how can you honestly feel comfortable watching a movie starring Jessica alba, only to go home and have the man you're sharing yourself with more than likely fantasize about her?
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