Do they ever work? It's so frustrating to go into the relationship knowing that it's doomed from the start and do it anyway.
I'd love to hear other peoples experience on the subject.

well this coming wed i'm getting on a plain 6 months pregnant to meet a guy that i met on here... i'm happy that we have clicked so far... but yes theres that thought in my head.. wow hes miles away.. i live in oregon and will be going to North carolina... and my mom asked me.. what happens if hes not what you expected and you are stuck up there for a week.. i told her well then i just made a really good "friend" but so far i dont see that happening... i find this guy very attractive and fun to talk to.. so wish me luck every body.... watch out thumper here comes trouble..lol

never had any luck with long distance relationships

Howard...

You never know where it can take you. She might be right in your own back yard or over 1000 miles away. I know couples here that it has worked for. Quite a few couples, actually. You just have to be willing to let it happen.

i have a very close friend & she lives in TX 2yrs ago we broke it off we had everything in common except where to live she had to move up here in missouri granted she had full custody of her chidren & don't for my son.but i agree won't work unless you either move or willing to travel back & forth..

Im toooooooo far away from ANYONE to have a relaionship with anyone...

i gave up everything for this women in florida and it didnt work out ..

I got ya' all beat in the distance stakes.

6000 miles plus.

Tom...

I know NO one that lives in Germany

I am in a new relationship with a guy I met online, he came to L.a from Iceland to meet me and we fell in love. Now that we met and are in love the distance is making me crazy,however there is talk of marriage and me moving there to be with him. I think a long distance relationship can work if there are plans of someone willing to move and start over for the good of the relationship. But there is no way it can work for longer than a few months because we are all humans and being lonely is not fun for any of us. So far we talk every day and send photos and emails, we even made a naughty movie so that we can have something as a reminder of our connection. I never thought i would click with someone online and i think that if you find someone special to you, no matter where they are in the world both parties have to do all they can to make it work. It is clear that we are not finding anyone in our area other wise we would not be online.

Doomed from the start? If that is the case, then it shows how some people are not willing to give 100% into the relationship. So why even bother if your not ready for that kinda commitment. Hell why even bother if she lives next door??? I been with my lady for over for months now and we still going strong. Well actually it's growing together. She lives over 400 miles from me and we don't see any differents in how we feel about each other whether I lived there or not. It's all about sharing and giving of yourself freely. Allowing the person be themselves and come to you by there own free will. It's not that a long distance is doomed, it's most don't know how to work with one onther and don't want to deal with the waiting part. if it was the other way around for most of the people on this site. Id say there would be more people that would have found somone by now...

wow thats so cool.. and so true.... i know that sometimes things dont work out like we plan but i really hope that things work out great for this guy and I.. hes someone i can see myself getting along with vary well.....and good luck tonguekiss hope everything works out the way you two hope..xxxx

Best wishes to the ones who have realized that distance shouldn't matter, if you truly love each other, then both of you are going to be willing to work on things. Remember it takes work on both sides to make any relationship work, whether it be a long distance relationship, or someone local to you. It's what the two of you decide to put into the relationship

In my experience long distance relationships don't work, but who knows for others, never give up hope, they might be right down the road or all the way across country, either way there has to be someone for everyone. It just depends how far your willing to take it. Whether that's a distance issue, or a commitment issue.

Wow, so many different opinions. The girl I'm dating lives 3 hours away. She has made it clear from the start that she doesn't plan on moving till her kids are out of school. I get to see her every other weekend and once in a while I can make the trip during the week. It's frustrating because we want to see each other more but can't. I can't see myself doing this for years. It's very hard.

It does depend on circumstances and is harder with children.
I believe if you really love each other you will find a way...
It can work out!

Ahhh, Howard, if it is right and true, it will all work out.

My ex-husband moved here (NC) from NJ to be with me.

Ahh, Preggers, you are coming to NC! Come to Charlotte to visit?

It sure can work! my last relationship moved me from coast to coast. It didnt take THAT much work...just alot of trust, communication and LOVE. Although the relationship failed after 4yrs the greatest love of my life came along...my youngin!

They can work. The lady that sits across from me moved from NYC to the midwest and she's quite happy!

I think they can work if you both want them to.