freshmoutainair

thank you for letting me know what you have gone thru..

i hope you find that speical guy

mish

i agree with you of what you speak of it is very important on what you are really looking for & try to find that right person

jessssz....***hangin my head in shame***...I guess I am the female version of Shallow Hal because, if I am not physically attracted to someone... I don't think I am gonna be one bit interested.

I agree Dawnette....the physical attraction has to be there!

i agree looks are the basis of all attraction there may be a mental connection but if you cant get going when you look at them then its only going to be a mental connection. i do believe i wrote a poem about this not long ago.

i think that everything has a starting post which is what my eyes see. But as i said that is just the starting point.
I can be in a relationship with the hottest woman in the world, but if we don't get along all that physical attraction dissapears faster than a macth consumes itself.
If I'm with somebody i need to keep up the campfire all night long, and just the mere physical attraction is not the best fuel

Looks fade after time!! I would rather be with someone that has beauty in the heart. I do think there has to be something that catches your eye...but it can be something like a smile, or something they said, it doesn't have to be their looks.
Inner beauty for me is the key, you can keep shining and it will never disappear. Outer beauty does fade and if that is all you have...then you are in big trouble!! Once in awhile, you will find someone who is blessed with both and don't even know it

Looks do fade over time...
It is what is inside that counts to me...

I base first impressions on instinct. It's hard to judge a book by it's cover but actions speak a whole lot louder than words...

Honesty, intelligence and great sense of humor. Oh, and the ability to play a mean accordion... :)

You don't f**k a personality. While I agree that personality is absolutely crucial, so are looks.

Not over age 30.

I'm 35.

Congratulations on your engagement!

first impression~~~~~appearance and looks
that lasts until they open their mouth, then, are they intelligent and well spoken
if they fail the above, there is rarely a third impression

The initial first physical attraction is usually what makes us want to know more about someone. Men are normally more visual anyway.
But if a person can't carry on a decent conversation or make me laugh I don't care how good they look, they won't hold my interest. Or they could be really hot and have a negative personality or too needy.. Who wants that.
You may feel lust at that initial moment when you first see them. A real relationship is more than sex and more than just talking.. It's a balance of all things.

Must like dogs

there has to be chemistry of course

but if he is not compassionate of others

and able to hold an intelligent conversation...

then I have to move on....

If she responds to my email with a cheerful hello I’m impressed.

If she doesn’t reply then she’s a arrogant stuck-up nincompoop.

onegoofydame your a hottie for sure... but on the topic there must be an attraction