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Topic: WHY MEN ARE AFRAID OF COMMITMENT(Women,take note)
sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 03/02/14 08:01 AM
I guess its an 'aw poor men' thread, since women are supposed to take note. Hopefully its really a 'women, get away from these men fast and find another pronto since these are signs of great immaturity'...but I doubt it. Im assuming the list only applies to men because the author forgets that women are also human and meet the same qualities if they are as foolish. my comments have been along the lines of men take note because I figgered a need for perspective...lol

uche9aa Joined Mon 08/15/11 Posts: 1986	Mon 03/03/14 06:50 AM
I hate divorce

BrandNewJourney Joined Tue 02/25/14 Posts: 6055	Tue 03/04/14 12:08 PM
Those same reasons could also be applied to a woman. Just a few edits here and there. The only problem I see is if someone is hanging onto the past, or the what could be, then they really never started a relationship fresh. Which I think should be a no brainer. You can't hold an entire gender responsible for the actions of one bad apple. The bad apples are many,not one True indeed.

Scoobert Joined Sat 09/28/13 Posts: 12895	Tue 03/04/14 02:08 PM
Or 5.) They're already married. Either to wife, or job... Well just saying...lol

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Tue 03/04/14 02:09 PM
CAUTION: although I think its certainly probable that some people are 'afraid' of commitment as a society we also have to be careful every time someone disapproves or dislikes or isn't interested in something, that it has to do with 'fear' some just have no interest in commitment, and I don't see anything wrong with that,,as long as they aren't misleading others its where they are in their life journey...

regularfeller Joined Sat 11/10/12 Posts: 2394	Tue 03/04/14 06:47 PM
What a pile. I never considered the high rate of divorce in determining whether I should commit to someone or not. Nor did I dwell on someone "hurting me in the past" (man up). Missing out on a more beautiful woman? You may be lucky the woman you are with let you in her britches in the first place. And last but not least...the fear of responsibility? Come on maaaaaaan! This wouldn't be why a feller won't commit to a gal but it would be a BIG REASON a gal won't commit to a feller. Can't remember the last time I heard a woman say she was just crazy about a man that shirks responsibility. My REASONS for not committing to a woman are: 1) When I was younger I was a douche bag. 2) Mature me was able to discern when I was not be the best choice for a particular woman. (e.g. one is a homebody, the other a party animal)* 3) Conversely, I was able to discern that a particular woman was not the best choice for me. (e.g. one wants kids, one does not)* ***Examples in citations 2 and 3 are for illustrative purposes only and do not reflect the authors personal feelings or experiences

LowRange Joined Sat 12/28/13 Posts: 664	Tue 03/04/14 06:53 PM
This must be for the boys club, Men don't think like this....Hogwash! A man always takes responsibility period A man learns from his past mistakes and tries not to do a repeat and move on The woman I am with becomes the most beautiful to me High rate of divorce is true, maybe don't get married, or not right away? live, learn, and quit bit chin... Bravo

HeadnHeart Joined Wed 06/02/10 Posts: 1270	Wed 03/05/14 11:33 AM
This must be for the boys club, Men don't think like this....Hogwash! A man always takes responsibility period A man learns from his past mistakes and tries not to do a repeat and move on The woman I am with becomes the most beautiful to me High rate of divorce is true, maybe don't get married, or not right away? live, learn, and quit bit chin... We need reality,not sounding good Your perception is your Reality. Obviously yours is pessimistic. Mine is not. It says nothing about being perfect, which is also included in my perspective.

HeadnHeart Joined Wed 06/02/10 Posts: 1270	Wed 03/05/14 11:38 AM
This must be for the boys club, Men don't think like this....Hogwash! A man always takes responsibility period A man learns from his past mistakes and tries not to do a repeat and move on The woman I am with becomes the most beautiful to me High rate of divorce is true, maybe don't get married, or not right away? live, learn, and quit bit chin... not ALL men.. only GOOD one's happy belated b-day by the way Thank you Z, but you know that I can and have "Mangled" a few things...

HeadnHeart Joined Wed 06/02/10 Posts: 1270	Wed 03/05/14 11:41 AM
This must be for the boys club, Men don't think like this....Hogwash! A man always takes responsibility period A man learns from his past mistakes and tries not to do a repeat and move on The woman I am with becomes the most beautiful to me High rate of divorce is true, maybe don't get married, or not right away? live, learn, and quit bit chin... Bravo Thanks, LR.

Zero_Effected Joined Sat 12/02/06 Posts: 18395	Wed 03/05/14 03:04 PM
Thank you Z, but you know that I can and have "Mangled" a few things... who HASN'T I still you though.. in my own evil way

markc48 Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 5536	Wed 03/05/14 03:19 PM
Commitment doesn't last.

ApiphanySeason Joined Tue 03/04/14 Posts: 133	Thu 03/06/14 08:18 PM
@lionsbrew.... AMEN!!!

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48947	Thu 03/06/14 08:28 PM
Commitment doesn't last. Are you saying that you were released from the facility?

uche9aa Joined Mon 08/15/11 Posts: 1986	Mon 03/10/14 12:59 AM
Commitment doesn't last. Are you saying that you were released from the facility?

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33339	Mon 03/10/14 03:18 AM
Many people have difficulty handling responsibility. I don't think it's right to always look for causes or blame in past relationships. Mostly causes of things going wrong in adult life are to be found in someone's childhood. This can cause relationships to not work out until that person get his childhood issues sussed. That's part of becoming a (emotionally) mature, well-rounded person. Doesn't mean there's something wrong with that person. Everyone has childhood issues and we're supposed to work these out in adult life. And sometimes it takes a relationship (or more) to do this. And some never learn.

uche9aa Joined Mon 08/15/11 Posts: 1986	Mon 03/10/14 07:04 AM
Many people have difficulty handling responsibility. I don't think it's right to always look for causes or blame in past relationships. Mostly causes of things going wrong in adult life are to be found in someone's childhood. This can cause relationships to not work out until that person get his childhood issues sussed. That's part of becoming a (emotionally) mature, well-rounded person. Doesn't mean there's something wrong with that person. Everyone has childhood issues and we're supposed to work these out in adult life. And sometimes it takes a relationship (or more) to do this. And some never learn. Well spoken

anote Joined Mon 12/09/13 Posts: 1715	Mon 03/10/14 07:08 AM
This must be for the boys club, Men don't think like this....Hogwash! A man always takes responsibility period A man learns from his past mistakes and tries not to do a repeat and move on The woman I am with becomes the most beautiful to me High rate of divorce is true, maybe don't get married, or not right away? live, learn, and quit bit chin... well said

sweet2sarcasm Joined Thu 01/09/14 Posts: 745	Mon 03/10/14 07:49 AM
Guys who are afraid of commitment aren't men..... Or are afraid of being men...

Candiapples Joined Thu 07/18/13 Posts: 1941	Mon 03/10/14 05:23 PM
In todays world with all this selfishness, greedyness and coldness.. Who wants to get hitched really?. Marriages only last as long as the money lasts. Its a bleak view of the world I know