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Topic: WHY MEN ARE AFRAID OF COMMITMENT(Women,take note)
Candiapples Joined Thu 07/18/13 Posts: 1941	Thu 03/13/14 02:28 PM
In todays world with all this selfishness, greedyness and coldness.. Who wants to get hitched really?. Marriages only last as long as the money lasts. Its a bleak view of the world I know Really sad and bitter truth you stated there.Women seldom endure when there is short-fall in money matter.Majority of them though.Its no money,no love,no marriage,divorce to the rescue Interesting how this idea is placed as a generalization for all women. In fact an unfair way to look at it, to place ALL women in the same category. We are all individuals and personally, thinking like this is a huge problem I have been seeing. I was married for 22 years and we began our relationship with near nothing financially. We had our ups and downs in that, yet remained together through the toughest times. His cheating is what ended the relationship, not the financials because that was NEVER a factor in the relationship. I personally do not care how much money or how many things you have. I want to know you as a human being above all else!! Well my staement wasn't directed at an particular gender

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33339	Thu 03/13/14 02:34 PM Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Thu 03/13/14 02:35 PM
In todays world with all this selfishness, greedyness and coldness.. Who wants to get hitched really?. Marriages only last as long as the money lasts. Its a bleak view of the world I know Must be an American thing as it gets mentioned so often on Mingle. I don't know anyone who got married cos of money, nor do I know anyone that got divorced because money ran out. I do know a woman that has to work her @$$ off because her husband has to pay alimony for his kids from his first marriage. If that wasn't the case, she wouldn't have to work so hard. So she has to work her @$$ off because of HIS past! But they have a great marriage, love each other tremendously. And they make it work - together. Most women that get divorced, end up in financial dire situations, so money really isn't the reason for divorcing. Financially most would've been better off staying married. They don't, cause money isn't all that important, happiness is. So they prefer to have little money and more happiness than the other way round. Guess this is different in the States. I live in Canada. You are on Mingle enough to know that lots of people marry for money and end up in financial ruin because of that person. Its quite common and not just in North America. The money is gone and guess what?? Right, so I'm talking crap? Like I said, I don't know this situation at all and I do know lots of divorced ppl. Sure it'll happen, but I haven't heard of it. Probably happens more often among wealthy/rich ppl, which is a relative small group. And yes, I find out here that apparently ppl marry for money. But like I said, most are Americans here, not Dutch or European.

TawtStrat Joined Fri 11/16/12 Posts: 3581	Thu 03/13/14 03:03 PM
I'm fine with commitment. Just can't seem to meet a woman that wants it from me, or will give it to me. Saying that, "commitment" means different things to different people. To me it's not about money or marriage. I'll commit to a monogamous sexual relationship in a heartbeat but I'm not jumping into anything more than that, such as living together, without spending a good deal of time getting to know her and thinking about it. If I did get someone pregnant though, I would step up to the mark but that would be a crossing a bridge when I come to it sort of thing for me.

Maria195 Joined Fri 10/04/13 Posts: 7361	Thu 03/13/14 03:19 PM
"(3)FEAR OF MISSING OUT ON THE MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMEN:Somen men will not commit because they dont want to miss out on the most beautiful woman that is yet to show up.You may be a nice person & beautiful in your own way,but something still tells him that there is someone out there who is more beautiful,nicer & sexier than you.(4)HIGH RATE OF DIVORCE:You all know how women like single motherhood these days." Sometimes men/woman never happy with what they have at home. But this never been my case. I always been faithful in the past and still loose, but sometimes I think that maybe I rush unto things and probably it wasn't what God had for me.

AirFree Joined Sat 03/08/14 Posts: 7	Thu 03/13/14 10:14 PM
.. well one thing is for sure.. I know that you don't know how to quote properly.. .. when you quote. at the very bottom. of the quote. you're quoting. is the word quote. start your reply from that point.. then it will work for you.. what your doing now is putting words in my mouth... and I was making a general statement.. not a pointed .statement... not aimed at anybody.... not you . are anybody... just my comment on the. .topic... now that sounds like some honesty. Thanks for the tip on how to leave a reply which is actually not the button you hit. Guess I missed that instruction pamphlet

OralManOnly Joined Mon 03/10/14 Posts: 131	Fri 03/14/14 10:00 AM
At least I will never have the issue with getting anyone pregnant :) I'm fine with commitment. Just can't seem to meet a woman that wants it from me, or will give it to me. Saying that, "commitment" means different things to different people. To me it's not about money or marriage. I'll commit to a monogamous sexual relationship in a heartbeat but I'm not jumping into anything more than that, such as living together, without spending a good deal of time getting to know her and thinking about it. If I did get someone pregnant though, I would step up to the mark but that would be a crossing a bridge when I come to it sort of thing for me.

OralManOnly Joined Mon 03/10/14 Posts: 131	Fri 03/14/14 10:06 AM
most men have unrealistic unrealistic expectations and 'try' to date way out of their league. That's why lots of unattractive Str8 men turn to hookers. "(3)FEAR OF MISSING OUT ON THE MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMEN:Somen men will not commit because they dont want to miss out on the most beautiful woman that is yet to show up.You may be a nice person & beautiful in your own way,but something still tells him that there is someone out there who is more beautiful,nicer & sexier than you.(4)HIGH RATE OF DIVORCE:You all know how women like single motherhood these days." Sometimes men/woman never happy with what they have at home. But this never been my case. I always been faithful in the past and still loose, but sometimes I think that maybe I rush unto things and probably it wasn't what God had for me.

sweet2sarcasm Joined Thu 01/09/14 Posts: 745	Sat 03/15/14 10:05 PM
It's okay Airfree, he was just having a "crabby day". I'm still not sure what I'm doing wrong, on the quoting end... I'll just keep playing with the different methods...

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Sat 03/15/14 10:18 PM
uote] .. well one thing is for sure.. I know that you don't know how to quote properly.. .. when you quote. at the very bottom. of the quote. you're quoting. is the word quote. start your reply from that point.. then it will work for you.. what your doing now is putting words in my mouth... and I was making a general statement.. not a pointed .statement... not aimed at anybody.... not you . are anybody... just my comment on the. .topic... now that sounds like some honesty. Thanks for the tip on how to leave a reply which is actually not the button you hit. Guess I missed that instruction pamphlet ..no problem you're very welcome.. Anything I can do to help another..M2.member out.. Lol

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Sat 03/15/14 10:21 PM
uote] .. well one thing is for sure.. I know that you don't know how to quote properly.. .. when you quote. at the very bottom. of the quote. you're quoting. is the word quote. start your reply from that point.. then it will work for you.. what your doing now is putting words in my mouth... and I was making a general statement.. not a pointed .statement... not aimed at anybody.... not you . are anybody... just my comment on the. .topic... now that sounds like some honesty. Thanks for the tip on how to leave a reply which is actually not the button you hit. Guess I missed that instruction pamphlet ..no problem you're very welcome.. Anything I can do to help another..M2.member out.. Lol ... ..lol..

uche9aa Joined Mon 08/15/11 Posts: 1986	Sun 03/16/14 02:27 PM
"(3)FEAR OF MISSING OUT ON THE MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMEN:Somen men will not commit because they dont want to miss out on the most beautiful woman that is yet to show up.You may be a nice person & beautiful in your own way,but something still tells him that there is someone out there who is more beautiful,nicer & sexier than you.(4)HIGH RATE OF DIVORCE:You all know how women like single motherhood these days." Sometimes men/woman never happy with what they have at home. But this never been my case. I always been faithful in the past and still loose, but sometimes I think that maybe I rush unto things and probably it wasn't what God had for me.

sweet2sarcasm Joined Thu 01/09/14 Posts: 745	Mon 03/17/14 09:04 AM
Commitment=responsibility

Maria195 Joined Fri 10/04/13 Posts: 7361	Mon 03/17/14 09:30 AM
Because they are chickens I should said some of them!

uche9aa Joined Mon 08/15/11 Posts: 1986	Mon 03/17/14 01:07 PM
Commitment=responsibility

Annie Joined Sat 02/15/14 Posts: 25	Tue 03/18/14 08:28 AM
Well, for guys, i can say that, 1. responsibility, is taken and given action within both party, the head and the light of the family, 2. Living in this world, with full of unpredictable surprises, which leads us to trauma, experience, the only thing to cope up is acceptance followed by the understanding Of one another 3. learn to be contented enough, 4.my answer in number follow in here, DIVORCE, is not present their if both of the partners, are fully contented, and know how to respect and appreciate even little things cross their way, ABOVE ALL, COMMUNICATION WELL, IS ALL THAT NEEDED AND MASTERED, smile always and enjoy our precious life, goodnight.

uche9aa Joined Mon 08/15/11 Posts: 1986	Wed 03/19/14 02:26 AM
Well, for guys, i can say that, 1. responsibility, is taken and given action within both party, the head and the light of the family, 2. Living in this world, with full of unpredictable surprises, which leads us to trauma, experience, the only thing to cope up is acceptance followed by the understanding Of one another 3. learn to be contented enough, 4.my answer in number follow in here, DIVORCE, is not present their if both of the partners, are fully contented, and know how to respect and appreciate even little things cross their way, ABOVE ALL, COMMUNICATION WELL, IS ALL THAT NEEDED AND MASTERED, smile always and enjoy our precious life, goodnight. Good response.Goodmorning

Maria195 Joined Fri 10/04/13 Posts: 7361	Thu 03/27/14 04:54 PM
I think # 2 and # 3

Candiapples Joined Thu 07/18/13 Posts: 1941	Thu 03/27/14 06:46 PM
I don't really blame alot of the men.. Look at the world around us? Life just isn't anything like it was 50 years ago We have a medical name for everything we do and don't do now Its so NOT our fault, we don't have to be responsible and accountable for anything we do[sarcasm]

anote Joined Mon 12/09/13 Posts: 1715	Sat 10/04/14 09:30 AM
Relationship that lack commitment, will hit the rock. people should let go their douschebag and diva attitude to be happy in their relationship. forget the past. Lot of beautiful thing happening in the present.

mrld_ii Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 1410	Sat 10/04/14 07:21 PM Edited by mrld_ii on Sat 10/04/14 07:22 PM
...(4)HIGH RATE OF DIVORCE:You all know how women like single motherhood these days. Ummmm...no, I DON'T know this. Got any citation to a legitimate source that attests to this presented-as-fact statement? NOTE: "My personal butthurtedness over my personal failed relationships in which said failures were 100% her fault, because women are just stupid biotches" is NOT a "citation to a legitimate source". I eagerly await the citation to the legitimate source that concludes this as fact.