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I met a girl through a dating site We are both mid 40s as far as age goes. She gave me a sob story on how she was abused by her ex husband and an ex bf. She had trust issues and told me to be patient withher and I was. In the mean time she got me I
involved with her two kids both school age asked me to be a role model for them I said I would. She said she wanted them to see a man treat their mother well and I did. She also told me wonderful things any guy would love to hear like "you make me feel safe and loved" "you are exactly what ive been missing" on and on with positive affirmations that would make you think a girl is falling in love with you. The only problem is after 5 months of dating there was little physical intimacy. I understand that a woman who was abused would be afraid to get closer, however after proving I was a real guy and was patient and wanted to be her man I realized that she had no physical attraction to me and was using me. I had rescued her a number of times and gave her alot of money that was stupid. Its one thing if a chick is intimate with you but I was stupid and believed her bs and finally the last straw being nye night she backed out of spending the night together I told her when she was ready for a relationship to give me a call. She said I was just trying to control her. I was willing to give up things I wanted for myself to be what she asked me to be and she was just using me. If you are a middle aged woman with intent to use good guys youre a *****. Grow up if there is no attraction to a man who is interested in you and has proven he would be good to you, you owe it to him to say your just not attracted. |
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That sort of thing can happen even if they are attracted and want sex. Personally, I wouldn't have done all of those things that you did for someone that didn't even want to sleep with me. People on here say that you shouldn't rush into anything but it's easier to call it even if you both got what you wanted and not feel bitter about it. It is kind of a control thing if you expect sex for being a nice generous guy but not so much so if you start casual before you get serious. You acted like it was a serious relationship before you even really had a relationship. Others on here may disagree about that but that's the way that I look at it.
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What a woman
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We always have the option to
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snickers*
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That sort of thing can happen even if they are attracted and want sex. Personally, I wouldn't have done all of those things that you did for someone that didn't even want to sleep with me. People on here say that you shouldn't rush into anything but it's easier to call it even if you both got what you wanted and not feel bitter about it. It is kind of a control thing if you expect sex for being a nice generous guy but not so much so if you start casual before you get serious. You acted like it was a serious relationship before you even really had a relationship. Others on here may disagree about that but that's the way that I look at it. I must agree with this...^^^ Not all good guys are as good as they say.... The woman did take advantage of you, but.... she only did what you let her get away with.... If I'm not in a full blown relationship and for more then a few weeks, no way would I give them any money.... or even ask... I hate to see when women/men take advantage of others... But not all women/men are guilty.... Always watch out for those that ask for money ect .... I mean how did they manage prior?? |
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Any older woman who wan
 ts to you me then please be my guest
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That sort of thing can happen even if they are attracted and want sex. Personally, I wouldn't have done all of those things that you did for someone that didn't even want to sleep with me. People on here say that you shouldn't rush into anything but it's easier to call it even if you both got what you wanted and not feel bitter about it. It is kind of a control thing if you expect sex for being a nice generous guy but not so much so if you start casual before you get serious. You acted like it was a serious relationship before you even really had a relationship. Others on here may disagree about that but that's the way that I look at it. This. So much this. 
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I just want to say im sorry this happen to u. But please dont think all women r like that. Some of us r good women! :)
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Not sure why you are targeting 'older' women,
when you state she was the same age as you. Anybody, anywhere, anytime can be users. And people like you, always feel stupid after for giving them $$$. Live and learn :-) |
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Not sure why you are targeting 'older' women, when you state she was the same age as you. Anybody, anywhere, anytime can be users. And people like you, always feel stupid after for giving them $$$. Live and learn :-) 
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I am an older woman and have been through it all with men but know that there is one who will apperaicte the woman i am. i am strong enough to stand on my own till that time happens if it dont then i will just carry own as i have been doing.Cause u can not keep a good woman down.
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snickers* lol... kitkats are good too |
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women are women, dude... fact is you let it all happen, so don't blame her for taking advantage of you... get over it and move on
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I am an older woman and have been through it all with men but know that there is one who will apperaicte the woman i am. i am strong enough to stand on my own till that time happens if it dont then i will just carry own as i have been doing.Cause u can not keep a good woman down. appreciation is something earned, not just given... most ladies are good natured, and should be treated with respect... if a guy lets this happen, then cries later, i still won't blame her... but there is good and bad in both sexes, just have to find the ones we click with... |
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women are women, dude... fact is you let it all happen, so don't blame her for taking advantage of you... get over it and move on what I am hearing here is that he's pissed because she took his money and she didn;t put out gag me with a spoon....is there any such thing as helping a friend out? seems like he's just wanting to pay for it so that is what he should do: go pay for it sounds to me like she dodged a bullet |
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women are women, dude... fact is you let it all happen, so don't blame her for taking advantage of you... get over it and move on what I am hearing here is that he's pissed because she took his money and she didn;t put out gag me with a spoon....is there any such thing as helping a friend out? seems like he's just wanting to pay for it so that is what he should do: go pay for it sounds to me like she dodged a bullet lol, i agree... sounds like she was smart enough to know what he wanted... |
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women are women, dude... fact is you let it all happen, so don't blame her for taking advantage of you... get over it and move on what I am hearing here is that he's pissed because she took his money and she didn;t put out gag me with a spoon....is there any such thing as helping a friend out? seems like he's just wanting to pay for it so that is what he should do: go pay for it sounds to me like she dodged a bullet lol, i agree... sounds like she was smart enough to know what he wanted... ya, still I really don;t think she should have taken money from him in any case, but that whole mentality that if he buys dinner (or whatever) - he "deserves" to get laid is a little creepy. It does sound like his attitude betrayed him at the final countdown, though. A sincere friend would give her time to pay him back and not be pushy about sex. Or simply turned down giving her money. sometimes it's just "friends" sometimes there never is sex. I think that's where she was coming from when she said he was trying to control her |
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I met a girl through a dating site We are both mid 40s as far as age goes. She gave me a sob story on how she was abused by her ex husband and an ex bf. She had trust issues and told me to be patient withher and I was. In the mean time she got me I involved with her two kids both school age asked me to be a role model for them I said I would. She said she wanted them to see a man treat their mother well and I did. She also told me wonderful things any guy would love to hear like "you make me feel safe and loved" "you are exactly what ive been missing" on and on with positive affirmations that would make you think a girl is falling in love with you. The only problem is after 5 months of dating there was little physical intimacy. I understand that a woman who was abused would be afraid to get closer, however after proving I was a real guy and was patient and wanted to be her man I realized that she had no physical attraction to me and was using me. I had rescued her a number of times and gave her alot of money that was stupid. Its one thing if a chick is intimate with you but I was stupid and believed her bs and finally the last straw being nye night she backed out of spending the night together I told her when she was ready for a relationship to give me a call. She said I was just trying to control her. I was willing to give up things I wanted for myself to be what she asked me to be and she was just using me. If you are a middle aged woman with intent to use good guys youre a *****. Grow up if there is no attraction to a man who is interested in you and has proven he would be good to you, you owe it to him to say your just not attracted. "She used me and I used her and neither one of us cared".....You started the game, she finished it, stop pouting.... 
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Not sure why you are targeting 'older' women, when you state she was the same age as you. Anybody, anywhere, anytime can be users. And people like you, always feel stupid after for giving them $$$. Live and learn :-) This. |
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