And if anyone should know, it's Funky Frankie ...Out of the mouths of babes.....

I met a girl through a dating site We are both mid 40s as far as age goes. She gave me a sob story on how she was abused by her ex husband and an ex bf. She had trust issues and told me to be patient withher and I was. In the mean time she got me I
involved with her two kids both school age asked me to be a role model for them I said I would. She said she wanted them to see a man treat their mother well and I did. She also told me wonderful things any guy would love to hear like "you make me feel safe and loved" "you are exactly what ive been missing" on and on with positive affirmations that would make you think a girl is falling in love with you. The only problem is after 5 months of dating there was little physical intimacy. I understand that a woman who was abused would be afraid to get closer, however after proving I was a real guy and was patient and wanted to be her man I realized that she had no physical attraction to me and was using me. I had rescued her a number of times and gave her alot of money that was stupid. Its one thing if a chick is intimate with you but I was stupid and believed her bs and finally the last straw being nye night she backed out of spending the night together I told her when she was ready for a relationship to give me a call. She said I was just trying to control her. I was willing to give up things I wanted for myself to be what she asked me to be and she was just using me. If you are a middle aged woman with intent to use good guys youre a *****. Grow up if there is no attraction to a man who is interested in you and has proven he would be good to you, you owe it to him to say your just not attracted.

i need any old woman

i need any old woman

Thinking about this thread and mad me think about why young parents who get themselves in a pickle like this thread scenario don't have some kind of kind of low interest emergency assistance fund they can tap into if they complete some life skills training classes.

My thinking an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. I have enough life experience to realize that not everyone can have a crystal ball to predict what others are going to do but it is also not rocket science to figure out you could get yourself in a jam and need help.

I am surprised at the people who have nothing in reserve and spend big bucks for something silly. Get a tax rebate and blow every penny of it on a vacation and they are living in an apartment that the rent goes up every year and they will never own it. Sort of never thinking about "being their own hero". OP could actually been lucky this gal he was tangled up with didn't give him any because he could have found himself paying child support on kid number three until he is 60 years old. Still have not figured out why the younger men have not demanded they they have some kind of birth control pill they can pop to assure they don't find them selves footing a bill they don't want.