One of those days I guess. Not much going on. Looking and searching and searching and looking for full profiles, but all I get is pics with sparse writing and empty profiles or lazily put-together profiles as if a few pictures of a girl is enough to entice a guy into anything.
I mean, should I just stop being so picky and generate a conversation out of the blue with strangers - which I don't normally do, except on the forums - or does my profile need more? Or less? Im at kind of a loss at this point...I suppose it'll pass. Im keeping mostly positive after all.

I'm gonna give this some thought, but in the meatime, your thoughts?

Increasingly Impatient,
J Ronin

In my experience, that's what most guys do- see their idea of a hot woman and send an email that usually says nothing more than "hi" or "you're so beautiful" or something equally lame. I agree that you should try to meet someone from the forums, at least then you'll know that they're a real person, you can pretty much tell what kind of person they are (as much as one can via the internet) and if you get on well based on conversations, replies to topics, comments, etc.

I think just cold-emailing someone is sort of creepy; unless I was really really impressed with a guy's photos, interests, details, and summary, I'd ignore him.

So yeah, that's my thoughts....

Good luck.

Us gals get tired of guys taking a quick look at our pics and sending a message instantly without reading our well put together time consuming profiles
I gave up [sighs]

Just ask works well

Hey JR haven't seen ya in the threads in a while. Sometimes when you're not looking, you'll find what you are looking for. Everything happens for a reason & if it's meant to be, it will be..

Thats exactly what IM saying, too, lol! We put so much time into this and so much patience and so...much into it, and yet I look around here wanting someone who's at least on MY level and.....well...

...disappointment.

Not giving up. Maybe I just need to rethink things.

Tired and heding for bed. Goodnight, guys. Thanks for the pep talk...again, lol!

By the way I jsut watched Pacific Rim! great flick, you should check it out!

Bye for now!

patience lead us to happiness

Not giving up. Maybe I just need to rethink things.

Tired and heding for bed. Goodnight, guys. Thanks for the pep talk...again, lol!

By the way I jsut watched Pacific Rim! great flick, you should check it out!

Bye for now!

> as if a few pictures of a girl is enough to entice a guy into anything.�

A female name is apparently all that's needed for some guys. I just signed up here and I got three messages BEFORE I uploaded any pictures and BEFORE I wrote anything in my profile.

If you're forum poster (and not just a reader) then I'd concentrate on contacting the women you see on forums and here's why.
I've spent time on this one particular fishy dating sight and I got a lot of unsolicited messages. So many that I ignored most. However if I recognized the guy from the site's forums I always returned his message even if he wasn't my type. Seeing a guy on the forums makes him seem familiar. He isn't just one of a zillion random dudes sending me a message. Also I know that I can quickly learn about the guy by looking through his forum history. It's not always easy to get a ladies attention. If you stick out from the crowd because the lady recognizes you from the forums then you have a leg up on the competition.

Ok, I'm not sure if I answered the question you were asking but it's out there now and I'm not erasing it. Just save my reply for when you ask the right question.

I have also felt more comfortable with the people on the forums and accepted friends requests if any asked; however, I soon found out they also have pictures from scammers warning sites and that some had "not such well-intentioned reasons" for wanting to become friends with me. So, although we initially have a feeling of trusting the forum posters more, caution is still advisable. If they send you messages which do not seem right to you, report them or block them also, and move on. So, in short, keep looking, but use caution. Just my experience for what it's worth.

Don't wanna be brutal, but ever thought about the fact that as long as you need these pep-talks, you're not ready for a relationship?
You got to be able to stand on your own two feet to be able to give and receive love.
How do you expect to attract the right person (a happy one at that) if you can't be happy on your own? You're looking for someone to fill in a gap in your life.
Desperate ppl attract desperate ppl. Law of Attraction.

As for mail, I do reply IF the sender has something to say in his msg.
"Hi you're pretty" --> BIN
"Hi, I like you" --> BIN
"Hi, I'm the right one for you" --> BIN
If it feels like "I feel sorry for myself / I'm so lonely" --> BIN
Nudges --> BIN

Very well said. I dump friend requests and nudges all the time because they either didn't write anything of importance or took the time to get to know me in the forums. All the friends I met through the site and the relationships I've had came from those people I met and interacted with in the forums.

I don't accept friend requests unless I have emailed them numerous times or have read their posts in the forums. However I keep the nudges I think they are sweet and take it as a form of flirting.

If you settle for less than you expect, you will get less than you deserve.

Bypass those empty profiles. Ignore the enticing photos that lack substance if you're seeking substance. Reach out to the rare profile you find interesting, and do so with more than a common generic email or sending just a nudge. Be yourself and express your desire to those that intrigue you, whether found surfing through profiles or here in the forums.

My advice? Don't worry about what you will get and when you will get it, rather concentrate on what you have to give and being the best you that you can be. Put up a profile that shows who you are and what you want and take it from there. If it's going to happen, it'll happen. I know that's an overused cliche, but it's the truth. We forget to enjoy the journey because we're too focused on getting to the destination. Kick back and enjoy the ride, have some fun, and maybe you'll meet that special someone along the way.

Or send out a generic email to every female on here saying "ur hot" and hope for the best. Good luck man, whatever you decide.

No, I don't think that you should just stick to the forums. What I do is to check out the women that actually live in my area. Dating isn't impractical if you do that; you are likely to have at least some things in common and you totally avoid travel scammers.

Admittedly, this site isn't great for meeting local people but I have and it's just a matter of chatting to them and seeing how you get on.

Stop sharing my secrets for getting the ladies.

Haha ^

Great response young beauty!!...Same goes for me...If I recognize them from forums, I always respond....The only time I respond to someone I don't know is when they write a first email that has some actual content...It's rare, but every once in a while this type of contact develops into a friendship that includes regular correspondence....WELCOME TO MINGLE ANNA!

> WELCOME TO MINGLE ANNA

Thanks

:)

And since the people here can see me. Could one of you answer the question I posted in the help group?
It's been there all night and apparently I'm invisible there. Anyway, I don't want to hijack this thread.

^^^update.... never mine.... someone answered

JRonin

Another way you can attract the ladies is to send them messages like this...

"I am not attracted to women with shall boobs but I like your face. Would you like to have drinks sometime?"

(real message I received on another dating site a few months ago)

Because ladies luv to have drinks with guys who find our bodies unattractive.... but at least like our face.
:(

I want somebody to convience me that this site is real.I keep sending sweet email to plp I fine interest in but no a reply ,even hi nope.wat kinda plp are here.