I think its like this. Desperation stinks of raw sewage. Especially for men cause women want a man who is strong and confident in themselves and their abilities. While on the other hand there are plenty of guys willing to be a womans shoulder to cry on. Women don't want to be a mans shoulder to cry on because well its not effing manly. Men are believed by a lot to be the stronger sex. Being desperate shows weakness in a man. Krupa probably woulda been able to put that better than I of that I'm sure.

Yeah but being soft and in touch with feelings is something saved for when you are in love with a woman. Then she's the only one who sees that side and its supposed to be special. If a woman really wanted someone who acts like a woman they would just be with another woman.

And that's where you go wrong
Being in touch with your feelings doesn't mean your soft nor feminine.
There's nothing more masculine than a man who's in touch with his feelings. It means he has inner strength, not that he acts like a woman.
A man who has achieved that inner strength, is a truly mature man, which is what many of us women are looking for. But they're still scarce.

Basically the picture you're painting is that a man in touch with his feelings, with inner strength, would get ridiculed in the outside world. So it's only safe to show this indoors with his partner.
BS! Someone with inner strength wouldn't get ridiculed nor would he give a toss (that's why it wouldn't happen).

There's very few men who are like that, it's a growth process. And speaking of Krupa, I think he's one of the men that actually has achieved that or is very close to it. Why do you think us women like him that much?

Well, Newbiechicks reaction says a lot: you made her feel guilty.
You victimize yourself (being ignored, cast off, abused not appreciated, not valuable and so on).
Someone who victimizes himself is not attractive. Someone who does that, still has issues to sort out and I take it ppl sense that. If you'd truly feel good about yourself, truly was happy with who you are, you wouldn't victimize yourself and you'd present your story in a totally different way.

Ppl that try to make us feel guilty or sorry for them, are not the ppl we seek out to be with as they simply don't make us happy, they make us feel miserable and no one wants to be made to feel miserable. It's positive ppl that attract other people.

You also seem to mix up a few things. What you call needs of the flesh from the heart, is what I understand to be making love. Meaning you'll have to find that special person first. Like thousands of us. So no need to feel sorry for yourself, you're not special for not getting that. There's thousands and thousands of others not getting that either. Kinda logical if you're single.

First you make this distinction that it's more than just sex, but in the last paragraph you compare it with sex. Make up your mind!

I would say: stop feeling sorry for yourself. Try to feel happy even though you're on your own. Meaning you'll have to sort out whatever is stopping you from being happy.
Stop trying to make other ppl responsible (by making them feel guilty) for you happiness. It's not attractive nor appealing.
I got this charm saying:
May you know that if you truly want to be happy, nobody can stop you!

There you go, Crystals just gave you it in a nutshell m8!

I am writing this to possibly gain new insight.

I am a man who is unfulfilled. I have needs as others also have their own. Why are my needs ignored, and cast off as if they are not as valuable as another? Ignored, I feel. Ridiculed by some, and a joke to others. Why? It is because I seek physical contact. Some would think I seek it for reasons of the flesh, while others think I have alterior motives. I have a heart people. My heart just happens to need physical contact. The ability to share what my body, mind, and spirit have to offer, and to have that be actually wanted by a woman.

When a person speaks of physical contact, the general idea comes to mind of plain old sex. You all just dont get it. There is more to it for me. I need to be accepted, as everyone needs to be accepted. Need to be wanted and desired. Not just in the flesh, but to contact another through spirit, mind, and body.

So I am left with a dilema. My needs go unanswered. I am viewed as fake or shallow.

I can not share the true intricacies here in the open, as some would find it offensive. It is funny. When a woman needs of the flesh, she is called a horrid name, yet men still come to answer her call. When a man has needs the same, he is avoided like the plague, and most ignore him. I am not afraid of who I am. I have nothing to hide. I have much to offer, but no one will take notice. And those that do, are just a tease, dragging things along making me feel abused and unappreciated.

Time goes by, life moves on, but im still here. Surrounded by friends and family, my soul is still alone.

Thank you Larsson

Lionsbrew, you still don't get it. Being mature and having inner strength means your NOT a sap, au contraire ...

I get what inner strength and maturity are. But you said yourself feeling sorry for yourself is a turn off. I know desperation and feeling sorry for yourself are not the same thing however they are akin.Both are born from misery and low self esteem. But those who have inner strength are confident in themselves and confidence is attractive to a lot of people.Those with inner strength are not the ones feeling sorry for themselves they are the one giving a pat on the back to the friends who need it. Long story short I think we are both trying to say "You catch more flies with honey."

Well, Newbiechicks reaction says a lot: you made her feel guilty.
You victimize yourself (being ignored, cast off, abused not appreciated, not valuable and so on).
Someone who victimizes himself is not attractive. Someone who does that, still has issues to sort out and I take it ppl sense that. If you'd truly feel good about yourself, truly was happy with who you are, you wouldn't victimize yourself and you'd present your story in a totally different way.

Ppl that try to make us feel guilty or sorry for them, are not the ppl we seek out to be with as they simply don't make us happy, they make us feel miserable and no one wants to be made to feel miserable. It's positive ppl that attract other people.

You also seem to mix up a few things. What you call needs of the flesh from the heart, is what I understand to be making love. Meaning you'll have to find that special person first. Like thousands of us. So no need to feel sorry for yourself, you're not special for not getting that. There's thousands and thousands of others not getting that either. Kinda logical if you're single.

First you make this distinction that it's more than just sex, but in the last paragraph you compare it with sex. Make up your mind!

I would say: stop feeling sorry for yourself. Try to feel happy even though you're on your own. Meaning you'll have to sort out whatever is stopping you from being happy.
Stop trying to make other ppl responsible (by making them feel guilty) for you happiness. It's not attractive nor appealing.
I got this charm saying:
May you know that if you truly want to be happy, nobody can stop you!

And that's where you go wrong
Being in touch with your feelings doesn't mean your soft nor feminine.
There's nothing more masculine than a man who's in touch with his feelings. It means he has inner strength, not that he acts like a woman.
A man who has achieved that inner strength, is a truly mature man, which is what many of us women are looking for. But they're still scarce.

Basically the picture you're painting is that a man in touch with his feelings, with inner strength, would get ridiculed in the outside world. So it's only safe to show this indoors with his partner.
BS! Someone with inner strength wouldn't get ridiculed nor would he give a toss (that's why it wouldn't happen).

There's very few men who are like that, it's a growth process. And speaking of Krupa, I think he's one of the men that actually has achieved that or is very close to it. Why do you think us women like him that much?

I am writing this to possibly gain new insight.

I am a man who is unfulfilled. I have needs as others also have their own. Why are my needs ignored, and cast off as if they are not as valuable as another? Ignored, I feel. Ridiculed by some, and a joke to others. Why? It is because I seek physical contact. Some would think I seek it for reasons of the flesh, while others think I have alterior motives. I have a heart people. My heart just happens to need physical contact. The ability to share what my body, mind, and spirit have to offer, and to have that be actually wanted by a woman.

When a person speaks of physical contact, the general idea comes to mind of plain old sex. You all just dont get it. There is more to it for me. I need to be accepted, as everyone needs to be accepted. Need to be wanted and desired. Not just in the flesh, but to contact another through spirit, mind, and body.

So I am left with a dilema. My needs go unanswered. I am viewed as fake or shallow.

I can not share the true intricacies here in the open, as some would find it offensive. It is funny. When a woman needs of the flesh, she is called a horrid name, yet men still come to answer her call. When a man has needs the same, he is avoided like the plague, and most ignore him. I am not afraid of who I am. I have nothing to hide. I have much to offer, but no one will take notice. And those that do, are just a tease, dragging things along making me feel abused and unappreciated.

Time goes by, life moves on, but im still here. Surrounded by friends and family, my soul is still alone.