My gutt is telling me that maybe we are not listening to lov3, and lov3 that isn't our fault, it's just that a forum is not as 3D sometimes into someones thoughts and what they are trying to say.

We all look at others through our own eyes unfortunately and sometimes miss the point or even the whole essence of the writer.

The only way we would really "get it" is if you kept us informed and in time we were able to see your meaning.

I see a lot of people come here with real needs or questions but they never truly get answered because the people who respond sometimes are trying to make a point themselves and it clouds what you the OP are trying to say.

I do this myself. I'll right a response based on the way that it hits me at the moment or the way it makes me feel, instead of looking at the deeper sense of the writers words. Plus, it's true that on the internet the BS factor is so huge that the message many times comes up missing. Maybe that's what forums come down to. Maybe at best we only get the collective and not the root.

Navy said something interesting. She brought up the point that maybe you should seek friends here. I think in doing so you will be able to have people look at what you are saying with maybe more insight and depth to your thoughts cause you then are able to state "help me with this" instead of looking like mingle may be a hook up place. To be honest part of mingle is indeed a hook up place but those who come to the forums seem like are more of a group that is looking into the social aspect (finding and giving answers) while learning about others and themselves.

BTW you have some wise people who have given you response here, and even though they differ it's a good mix. A mix that may or may not get it, but are pretty smart cookies.

As for me, I'm not sure how I feel about what your saying except that I'm sure many are in your shoes. They may not word things the same way but their in the same spot.

it really sounds like you are trying to throw a guilt trip to get laid....
That entire post was really gag inducing. *yack!*
My advice is: get over it!

I did not enter intimate encounter,but that is my eventual aim.lov3, you owe nobody no apology. keep trying.reading your post and profile alone,doesn't give anyone the right to judge you.why else are we most of us here to joyfully mingle? is it not to get a certain fulfilment even if not openly told? Its ok to hurt.we are created men and women purposely to compliment and supplement each other.a prolonged lack of the other is painful.thats loneliness spelt 'physical'. keep at it. Hope you meet someone deserving soon.

His account has been deactivated. He sounded demanding and spoiled to me. Everyone has needs. You are responsible for getting your needs fulfilled, no one else is.

I think you are coming across as negative, towards yourself and towards others. The truth is you don't know if the people are "azz holes", perhaps they are confident, a little brash but they could also be incredibly attentive and take great care of the needs and wants of the person they are with.

With regards your own situation I think if you could mellow out a little, take things with a pinch of salt, laugh a little instead of being so pessimistic you would make yourself more approachable, it is a vicious circle I'm afraid my friend as conveying anger and bitterness, two very unattractive traits, is going to get you nowhere. Chill out mate.

Your post reads to me that you want an intimate encounter but you want it to resemble more than an intimate encounter. As if you're trying to mask your true intentions. If what you want comes across as "just sex", however much you want to beautify it with talk of 'connecting' etc, then you will find the market for your offer is significantly less. I may be mistaken, but that's how I interpreted it, and I expect many others have done the same.

There are people out there for every type of relationship, at whatever stage you're at (emotionally or physically speaking), it just takes time to work out who's the right fit. That doesn't mean there won't be someone out there, nor does it mean there's anything wrong with it, just few women want to waste your time or their time by pursuing something they don't want.

Best of luck in what you're searching for.

I used his line last night with 10 different women.

Never got laid once.

Any new ideas on how to git da' womens to drop dem draws?!?!

Lots of cash?

Try putting hot sauce on their scrambled eggs....

I could promise them a check.

Hot sauce could burn the estrella of her ojito.

Help!!!, my ojito is on fire!!! Screaming in pain, she dropped her pants and ran toward the river...

Long as I kin git me a bucket of Vasiline and a dirty tee shirt, my needs will be met.

there will be women who appreciate you and share your desires but when you make them the primary reason that you seek a woman out that is a turn off (intimate encounters) to many.

for many women physical contact of any substance, including sex, is most likely going to follow a friendship having developed at some level. you can say whatever you want....words do not matter, actions do. if you have a history of hitting and quitting and/or are asking for sex before getting know a woman she will be waiting to see if you are sincere. that is something that you will want to have the maturity to understand. as your needs are important, so are hers.

I do not feel the least guilty reading the OP (as newbie stated). if the OP is married and looking for intimate encounters - that is going to be a major turn off to most women and my suggestion is to seek paid services. I'd be interested in hearing from the wife

Shaking my head....

How can so many smart people buy this clap trap?

That is basically a narcissist saying he wants uncommitted sex and he will dress it up as some kind of needed psychological/spiritual nurturing experience that women deprive him of.

If it looks like a turkey, walks like a turkey, puts out turkey cr-p, just because he doesn't quite sound like a turkey doesn't mean he's not just escaped the Thanksgiving chopping block saying GOBBLE GOBBLE. lol .

Oh Vey!!!

buy them a turkey?

afterall it is Thanksgiving :)