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Since being here I have encountered 15 "women" that ask for email address right away, and it turns out they are either a nurse or UN worker in Africa LOL.. Yeh right more like a grub in some 3rd world country trying to scam folks. So I think the guys that want to chat right away are sick of writing a lengthy description of themselves through an email with the hope she may be the one only to find out she's not.. LOL.. I find Facebook more effective as you can see more photos, posts and friends list to better help you determine if they are real or not and if they aren't u can always unfriend..
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Since being here I have encountered 15 "women" that ask for email address right away, and it turns out they are either a nurse or UN worker in Africa LOL.. Yeh right more like a grub in some 3rd world country trying to scam folks. So I think the guys that want to chat right away are sick of writing a lengthy description of themselves through an email with the hope she may be the one only to find out she's not.. LOL.. I find Facebook more effective as you can see more photos, posts and friends list to better help you determine if they are real or not and if they aren't u can always unfriend.. Two women in my province recently got scammed out of hundreds of thousands of dollars from a scammer they met. I thought people were getting smarter about this. It was on the news today |
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maybe they cant spell?
maybe they cant read real well? maybe they just dont have patience? maybe they want your number to stalk you?< has happened to me> |
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Since being here I have encountered 15 "women" that ask for email address right away, and it turns out they are either a nurse or UN worker in Africa LOL.. Yeh right more like a grub in some 3rd world country trying to scam folks. So I think the guys that want to chat right away are sick of writing a lengthy description of themselves through an email with the hope she may be the one only to find out she's not.. LOL.. I find Facebook more effective as you can see more photos, posts and friends list to better help you determine if they are real or not and if they aren't u can always unfriend.. Two women in my province recently got scammed out of hundreds of thousands of dollars from a scammer they met. I thought people were getting smarter about this. It was on the news today Some people are just plain stupid.. Yeh I have a little sympathy for the ones where they build a relationship over years and try to help them out and boom they are gone, but the ones that get scammed right away I have none for.. If its too good to be true then normally it is. And it's always easy to make a second email account just for the purpose of emailing someone. Keep ur buisness and ur personal life separate... |
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hmmm...yea we start slow nd at d end screw everything up...u knw most ladies dont like too much questions like i study a lady via her photo(m nt bluffin) i take every thing slow cos i hate to b dump in chat..
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Since being here I have encountered 15 "women" that ask for email address right away, and it turns out they are either a nurse or UN worker in Africa LOL.. Yeh right more like a grub in some 3rd world country trying to scam folks. So I think the guys that want to chat right away are sick of writing a lengthy description of themselves through an email with the hope she may be the one only to find out she's not.. LOL.. I find Facebook more effective as you can see more photos, posts and friends list to better help you determine if they are real or not and if they aren't u can always unfriend.. I would never add a complete stranger on Facebook. That's for people I already know that I can trust with personal info. Not for strangers. |
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WE TRY TO CONNECT ON ONE LEVEL OR ANOTHER TO OTHERS. WHEN WE WILL NOT OR CAN NOT CONNECT TO OTHERS ITS A LONELY PLACE TO BE. HAVE FOUND THAT WHEN I RESOLVE A ISSUE IN MY OWN HEAD IT WILL GO AWAY. INDIFFERENCE IS THE OPPOSITE OF LOVE. ANOTHER WOMAN WOULD ENJOY THE ATTENTION.CHILL ENJOY.EVERY MALE , OF EVERY TYPE LOVES TO TALK TO ATTRACTIVE GOT IT TOGETHER FEMALE WHEN WE CAN FIND ONE. I BELIEVE THERE IS A MUCH DEEPER ISSUE HERE. ......
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Edited by
gvitago
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Sat 08/24/13 09:39 PM
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You know you're a fuggly guy when you keep getting these emails from women who obviously don't have a grasp of English grammar. But they apparently do have a burning desire to attain US citizenship by finding some lonely, vulnerable-looking schmuck who will help them.
I asked a girl the other day what country she was from, and never heard from her again. I had forgotten what a sad place mangle2 can truly be. 
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Man/Men/Guy's/Boy's/Males.
These ppl like to be lazy in their communication levels as they believe that their way is the best and fastest way to know if you will be a soft target or a hard target. Males generally do not like to play the waiting game and thus get very demanding and/or annoying. I have had several guys on the go at one time, vying for my attention but i make them wait for what is good and enjoyable, taking me to dinner, movies, dancing etc several times before anything else happens. Prior to the above happening, I used to make them chat to myself for about 6 months so I could get to know them well enough. My safety is paramount and more valueable then their NEEDS lol. Just make them chat and if they are generally interested, they will not mind waiting to chat with you. Males, in general have to be taught to wait for what is good and enjoyable. |
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Edited by
lonelyman3036
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Sat 08/24/13 09:41 PM
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Don't even go there. If you have to teach (as you call it) someone, why not just wait for the one you do not have to teach anything? You probably get off on "teaching", but hey, to each his own.
PS Go get me a beer. |
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I don't really understand why most men want to chat after exchanging 1 or 2 messages? Not just here, on most dating sites. I don't like chatting, maybe if there's a real click in the messages, conversation going smooth, is catchy and fun. Then I will be inclined to talk to someone. But as long as exchange is more like exploring and/or not so smooth straight away, I don't feel like chatting. If I was to chat with each man that asked me, I wouldn't have time to do anything else anymore. I don't say that to boast, I'm not into ego BS, just to illustrate why I don't like it: it eats up too much time. It's not so different from having lengthy phone-calls, which is something I wouldn't want every evening either. I get cranky when that happens 
Now a number of men I've been in touch with, said they were dyslectic, but I can't believe suddenly most men are dyslectic? Is this chat thing cos many men can't type well? I find it rather frustrating, as things always seem to get sticky when you decline an invite to chat, even when things were okay before. It seems like you have to come up with one he** of a good reason for not wanting to chat for the man to accept it. I don't want to be pushed into something that I don't want. Things like that should go by themselves, both having the desire to talk to one another. So why do men so forcefully try to get a woman to chat with them? ...because they're pervs, and maybe they feel that chatting w/ you puts things more "in the moment" Or maybe they have reasonable expectations from a woman on a social site, that she would want to chat after a few msgs.? I hope you will post a warning sign on your profile in big, bold letters which says, "PLEASE...NO CHAT UNLESS I ASK!" Maybe you've been getting just a bit TOO MUCH ATTENTION? Gettin' just a little spoiled, maybe? Or maybe just more tired than you realize of approaches from "guys who just aren't worth your time? $$$ YOUR TIME IS VALUABLE!$$$  OMG!!! What is wrong w/ men these days? Please accept my deepest apology on their behalf
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Edited by
gvitago
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Sun 08/25/13 08:28 AM
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Don't even go there. If you have to teach (as you call it) someone, why not just wait for the one you do not have to teach anything? You probably get off on "teaching", but hey, to each his own. PS Go get me a beer. Now, now, cowboy. Never judge someone unless you've walked in their boots, or their stiletto heels, for that matter. Sometimes the liberty of making choices as to how we present ourselves to the world, and who we are get taken from us. |
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I can understand...But,as a guy...I gotta point out something... How in the hell is a guy supposed to just automatically know that a woman don't wanna chat? We ain't psychic...and honestly...half the time a woman don't even know what she wants every other day. Secondly...chats are small steps that can potentially lead to actual deep philosophical conversations. ain't no damned way I am gonna bother discussing the real inner me until I figure out if the chick is a superficial flake....which is easily discernable after a few innocent chats. Just sayin.... You go, dude! A man who speaks his mind! 
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i still don't get what this thread is about... are guys just not supposed to try and chat with someone they want to with?
doesn't make any sense to me... but maybe one of the guys that wants to chat is your soulmate, but since you don't wanna chat, you missed out...lol good luck with the non-chats 
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Since being here I have encountered 15 "women" that ask for email address right away, and it turns out they are either a nurse or UN worker in Africa LOL.. Yeh right more like a grub in some 3rd world country trying to scam folks. So I think the guys that want to chat right away are sick of writing a lengthy description of themselves through an email with the hope she may be the one only to find out she's not.. LOL.. I find Facebook more effective as you can see more photos, posts and friends list to better help you determine if they are real or not and if they aren't u can always unfriend.. yea, the foreigners sometimes make dating sites lousy, i'm on another site with my phone, and at least 20 women texting me, then i find out 19 of them are in ghana... friggen stupid... most paid dating sites are better for actually meeting women, they weed these people from Africa out... |
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I don't really understand why most men want to chat after exchanging 1 or 2 messages? Not just here, on most dating sites. I don't like chatting, maybe if there's a real click in the messages, conversation going smooth, is catchy and fun. Then I will be inclined to talk to someone. But as long as exchange is more like exploring and/or not so smooth straight away, I don't feel like chatting. If I was to chat with each man that asked me, I wouldn't have time to do anything else anymore. I don't say that to boast, I'm not into ego BS, just to illustrate why I don't like it: it eats up too much time. It's not so different from having lengthy phone-calls, which is something I wouldn't want every evening either. I get cranky when that happens
Now a number of men I've been in touch with, said they were dyslectic, but I can't believe suddenly most men are dyslectic? Is this chat thing cos many men can't type well? I find it rather frustrating, as things always seem to get sticky when you decline an invite to chat, even when things were okay before. It seems like you have to come up with one he** of a good reason for not wanting to chat for the man to accept it. I don't want to be pushed into something that I don't want. Things like that should go by themselves, both having the desire to talk to one another. So why do men so forcefully try to get a woman to chat with them? i'm missing something here... if you don't like chatting, and don't like talking on the phone, why are you here? |
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Since being here I have encountered 15 "women" that ask for email address right away, and it turns out they are either a nurse or UN worker in Africa LOL.. Yeh right more like a grub in some 3rd world country trying to scam folks. So I think the guys that want to chat right away are sick of writing a lengthy description of themselves through an email with the hope she may be the one only to find out she's not.. LOL.. I find Facebook more effective as you can see more photos, posts and friends list to better help you determine if they are real or not and if they aren't u can always unfriend.. I would never add a complete stranger on Facebook. That's for people I already know that I can trust with personal info. Not for strangers. 
I agree I am totally suspicious of people who request FB before they know you well. I question anyone who tries to get me off of the site before we know each other fairly well....it's usually a scam or they are looking for a casual encounter...which is fine if they are honest about it. but I am not looking for that so it just gets awkward I love the ones who say in like the 2nd or 3rd IM - "What are you wearing?" I usually tell them blue flannel snowman pajamas and end it fairly shortly after. Usually they are looking for cam sex there may be some exceptions but I haven't found any lol |
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Since being here I have encountered 15 "women" that ask for email address right away, and it turns out they are either a nurse or UN worker in Africa LOL.. Yeh right more like a grub in some 3rd world country trying to scam folks. So I think the guys that want to chat right away are sick of writing a lengthy description of themselves through an email with the hope she may be the one only to find out she's not.. LOL.. I find Facebook more effective as you can see more photos, posts and friends list to better help you determine if they are real or not and if they aren't u can always unfriend.. I would never add a complete stranger on Facebook. That's for people I already know that I can trust with personal info. Not for strangers.
I agree I am totally suspicious of people who request FB before they know you well. I question anyone who tries to get me off of the site before we know each other fairly well....it's usually a scam or they are looking for a casual encounter...which is fine if they are honest about it. but I am not looking for that so it just gets awkward I love the ones who say in like the 2nd or 3rd IM - "What are you wearing?" I usually tell them blue flannel snowman pajamas and end it fairly shortly after. Usually they are looking for cam sex there may be some exceptions but I haven't found any lol hey... whatcha wearing? |
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Since being here I have encountered 15 "women" that ask for email address right away, and it turns out they are either a nurse or UN worker in Africa LOL.. Yeh right more like a grub in some 3rd world country trying to scam folks. So I think the guys that want to chat right away are sick of writing a lengthy description of themselves through an email with the hope she may be the one only to find out she's not.. LOL.. I find Facebook more effective as you can see more photos, posts and friends list to better help you determine if they are real or not and if they aren't u can always unfriend.. I would never add a complete stranger on Facebook. That's for people I already know that I can trust with personal info. Not for strangers.
I agree I am totally suspicious of people who request FB before they know you well. I question anyone who tries to get me off of the site before we know each other fairly well....it's usually a scam or they are looking for a casual encounter...which is fine if they are honest about it. but I am not looking for that so it just gets awkward I love the ones who say in like the 2nd or 3rd IM - "What are you wearing?" I usually tell them blue flannel snowman pajamas and end it fairly shortly after. Usually they are looking for cam sex there may be some exceptions but I haven't found any lol hey... whatcha wearing? a sweaty cut off T shirt and smelly sneakers with no socks...wanna hug big boy?? 
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