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If he’s small enough, I will go hand to hand with him. If he could easily overpower me, my equalizer of choice is a Louisville Slugger. Actually, I don’t fight. It takes something really big to get me to raise more than my eyebrows. I tend to talk things out before they get that heated. If that’s not possible, and he’s over the top over something...cooling off time may be the answer. One of us should leave the room until we can discuss the situation like mature adults. that was cute... you had me going there... my brows were raised for a second...  I'm non aggressive myself, but I've experienced others who won't let you leave the room without following... while I remain silent they rage on until they get bored with it... and no matter how much I'm tempted to reciprocate I just can't... I wonder if I stay silent more out of fear, then upbringing?
Maybe a combo of both? My father was a rager, and I had to put up with it, answering his outbursts, head down, with "Yes Sir....Yes Sir....Yes Sir", watching his face get redder and redder with each rant. As I got older, I learned to talk him down by placating him. Now that I don't have to put up with it, I don't. I've never dated a rager, but if I ever do, the first rant will be the last one THIS GIRL ever hears...and I don't care how much I like the man or how great the sex is. It would ruin the whole relationship for me, because I'd never be able to see him as an intelligent adult again. I've never deserved to be spoken to like that...and doubt that anyone does. I know what you mean about not putting up with things we don't have too anymore... now that I'm divorced and starting my life over on my own terms, I'll never settle for less than I deserve again... |
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I use sarcasm.
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If he’s small enough, I will go hand to hand with him. If he could easily overpower me, my equalizer of choice is a Louisville Slugger. Actually, I don’t fight. It takes something really big to get me to raise more than my eyebrows. I tend to talk things out before they get that heated. If that’s not possible, and he’s over the top over something...cooling off time may be the answer. One of us should leave the room until we can discuss the situation like mature adults. that was cute... you had me going there... my brows were raised for a second... I'm non aggressive myself, but I've experienced others who won't let you leave the room without following... while I remain silent they rage on until they get bored with it... and no matter how much I'm tempted to reciprocate I just can't... I wonder if I stay silent more out of fear, then upbringing?
Maybe a combo of both? My father was a rager, and I had to put up with it, answering his outbursts, head down, with "Yes Sir....Yes Sir....Yes Sir", watching his face get redder and redder with each rant. As I got older, I learned to talk him down by placating him. Now that I don't have to put up with it, I don't. I've never dated a rager, but if I ever do, the first rant will be the last one THIS GIRL ever hears...and I don't care how much I like the man or how great the sex is. It would ruin the whole relationship for me, because I'd never be able to see him as an intelligent adult again. I've never deserved to be spoken to like that...and doubt that anyone does. I know what you mean about not putting up with things we don't have too anymore... now that I'm divorced and starting my life over on my own terms, I'll never settle for less than I deserve again... The power is exhilarating, ain’t it? 
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I use sarcasm. I knew it!  That makes perfect sense for you.
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I use sarcasm. Yes, I've noticed... 
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If he’s small enough, I will go hand to hand with him. If he could easily overpower me, my equalizer of choice is a Louisville Slugger. Actually, I don’t fight. It takes something really big to get me to raise more than my eyebrows. I tend to talk things out before they get that heated. If that’s not possible, and he’s over the top over something...cooling off time may be the answer. One of us should leave the room until we can discuss the situation like mature adults. that was cute... you had me going there... my brows were raised for a second... I'm non aggressive myself, but I've experienced others who won't let you leave the room without following... while I remain silent they rage on until they get bored with it... and no matter how much I'm tempted to reciprocate I just can't... I wonder if I stay silent more out of fear, then upbringing?
Maybe a combo of both? My father was a rager, and I had to put up with it, answering his outbursts, head down, with "Yes Sir....Yes Sir....Yes Sir", watching his face get redder and redder with each rant. As I got older, I learned to talk him down by placating him. Now that I don't have to put up with it, I don't. I've never dated a rager, but if I ever do, the first rant will be the last one THIS GIRL ever hears...and I don't care how much I like the man or how great the sex is. It would ruin the whole relationship for me, because I'd never be able to see him as an intelligent adult again. I've never deserved to be spoken to like that...and doubt that anyone does. I know what you mean about not putting up with things we don't have too anymore... now that I'm divorced and starting my life over on my own terms, I'll never settle for less than I deserve again... The power is exhilarating, ain’t it?
Yes is it, and I'm not ashamed to say it.. I've worked long and hard to get where I am, nothing has ever been given to me... and I wouldn't change a thing... 
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If he’s small enough, I will go hand to hand with him. If he could easily overpower me, my equalizer of choice is a Louisville Slugger. Actually, I don’t fight. It takes something really big to get me to raise more than my eyebrows. I tend to talk things out before they get that heated. If that’s not possible, and he’s over the top over something...cooling off time may be the answer. One of us should leave the room until we can discuss the situation like mature adults. that was cute... you had me going there... my brows were raised for a second... I'm non aggressive myself, but I've experienced others who won't let you leave the room without following... while I remain silent they rage on until they get bored with it... and no matter how much I'm tempted to reciprocate I just can't... I wonder if I stay silent more out of fear, then upbringing?
Maybe a combo of both? My father was a rager, and I had to put up with it, answering his outbursts, head down, with "Yes Sir....Yes Sir....Yes Sir", watching his face get redder and redder with each rant. As I got older, I learned to talk him down by placating him. Now that I don't have to put up with it, I don't. I've never dated a rager, but if I ever do, the first rant will be the last one THIS GIRL ever hears...and I don't care how much I like the man or how great the sex is. It would ruin the whole relationship for me, because I'd never be able to see him as an intelligent adult again. I've never deserved to be spoken to like that...and doubt that anyone does. I know what you mean about not putting up with things we don't have too anymore... now that I'm divorced and starting my life over on my own terms, I'll never settle for less than I deserve again... The power is exhilarating, ain’t it?
Yes is it, and I'm not ashamed to say it.. I've worked long and hard to get where I am, nothing has ever been given to me... and I wouldn't change a thing...
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*smile*
I am fluent in ASL, as I have a Deaf brother. In my family, that's just how we communicate. My ex-husband was a sign language interpreter, and ASL was our language. So much easier to express emotions of love or to say "let's get the heck outta here!" to each other in company. Mind you, arguing in ASL can be painful too. I've sprained fingers.
Mostly though I find that as I get older, I try to be calm and to reason things out. My mother raised me with guilt and when I was younger, I used to manipulate people. I realized a while back how unhealthy that was, and I worked hard to be comfortable with calm and reasonable confrontation. |
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Into every passionate relationship a little rain must fall… and when it does it can end in a fight between two angry opponents that only moments before were friends and lovers… everybody fights differently… while some don’t even fight fair, or at all... how do you handle conflicts, and emotional aggression with your partner? By screaming, throwing things, physically fighting, the silent treatment? What is your MO? try to walk away & avoid but if one of those avenues out is prevented gloves off I do not argue |
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this is euphemistically speaking
you don't have to run off. I am not going to clothesline anyone I just don't argue when I fight |
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Presently I do not have to handle conflicts, and emotional aggression with a partner. If I have to fight with a man in any way while I am getting to know him as a "friend" only, then he is definately out of the picture for any future partner. I love peace and have much of it now, and I don't see that changing.
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I poison them. Oh wait, that's my regular cooking.
To me it doesn't matter how it ends, it just has to end quick. I can not deal with long term anger or negativity. |
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*smile* I am fluent in ASL, as I have a Deaf brother. In my family, that's just how we communicate. My ex-husband was a sign language interpreter, and ASL was our language. So much easier to express emotions of love or to say "let's get the heck outta here!" to each other in company. Mind you, arguing in ASL can be painful too. I've sprained fingers.
Mostly though I find that as I get older, I try to be calm and to reason things out. My mother raised me with guilt and when I was younger, I used to manipulate people. I realized a while back how unhealthy that was, and I worked hard to be comfortable with calm and reasonable confrontation. okay, my curiosity is piqued... I can get how sign language is less intrusively confrontational, although self inflicted pain then becomes an issue... but being able to manipulate people??? I'm trying to picture this during a heated exchange, and nothing is coming clearly to my mind... unless maybe at the end of a gun barrel, your opponent was more highly motivated to give in to your line of reasoning
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Into every passionate relationship a little rain must fall… and when it does it can end in a fight between two angry opponents that only moments before were friends and lovers… everybody fights differently… while some don’t even fight fair, or at all... how do you handle conflicts, and emotional aggression with your partner? By screaming, throwing things, physically fighting, the silent treatment? What is your MO? try to walk away & avoid but if one of those avenues out is prevented gloves off I do not argue yikes... gloves off....  
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this is euphemistically speaking
you don't have to run off. I am not going to clothesline anyone I just don't argue when I fight  
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Presently I do not have to handle conflicts, and emotional aggression with a partner. If I have to fight with a man in any way while I am getting to know him as a "friend" only, then he is definately out of the picture for any future partner. I love peace and have much of it now, and I don't see that changing.
brilliantly stated.. good for you... 
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I poison them. Oh wait, that's my regular cooking. To me it doesn't matter how it ends, it just has to end quick. I can not deal with long term anger or negativity. gotcha...
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Edited by
CremeBrulee
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Mon 03/11/13 10:47 PM
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Into every passionate relationship a little rain must fall… and when it does it can end in a fight between two angry opponents that only moments before were friends and lovers… everybody fights differently… while some don’t even fight fair, or at all... how do you handle conflicts, and emotional aggression with your partner? By screaming, throwing things, physically fighting, the silent treatment? What is your MO? huuuuuuuuh???? Where did i put that 9mm?? Who hid my slugs??? Personally,am not a fighter-i hate it,detest it with all my being!! I've fought twice in my life(when i was about 7yrs and again at 10yrs)! These two times,i felt i had to fight back(eeeeeeish,school bullies!!)Thats when i learnt that a stick can actually damage an eye,if poked right!! As a grown up,i'll say''Ok'' and walk away....calm down,then talk it through after-roundtable/diplomacy! If Mr.is not the talkitthrough type,and he wants to rant,i'll let him rant on......i have no problem ''switching off'' and ignore him! But then,what would i be doing hanging around?? Walk away! But,if guy is just an abuser and i get caught in,oh,i'll fight-and if am defending myself,i fight to damage for life-ONLY IN SELF DEFENCE! |
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Into every passionate relationship a little rain must fall… and when it does it can end in a fight between two angry opponents that only moments before were friends and lovers… everybody fights differently… while some don’t even fight fair, or at all... how do you handle conflicts, and emotional aggression with your partner? By screaming, throwing things, physically fighting, the silent treatment? What is your MO? huuuuuuuuh???? Where did i put that 9mm?? Who hid my slugs??? no mercy... ouch! This one bites hard...
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Into every passionate relationship a little rain must fall… and when it does it can end in a fight between two angry opponents that only moments before were friends and lovers… everybody fights differently… while some don’t even fight fair, or at all... how do you handle conflicts, and emotional aggression with your partner? By screaming, throwing things, physically fighting, the silent treatment? What is your MO? huuuuuuuuh???? Where did i put that 9mm?? Who hid my slugs??? What did I tell you guys about women....lol |
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