Do guys mellow out and want to settle down? I know it is different for everyone. I get hit on by a lot of 50+ men which I do not mind. They are done with kids and unto grandkids. I bypassed the kid thing and am enjoying other people's children. I know some younger guys want to settle down desperately and most want children. I don't want children. I just wondered if you guys out there had an age where you decided you were content with life.

Yeah, right now.

Alas all the cute ones are far away and not interested in me.

I guess I never "settled down" and I guess I never will.

For me, I always wanted to find a great partner, marry and have a
family. Many of my close relatives had large fun families and I am
very playful and really enjoy children and always wanted to have
at least a few kids of my own. I envisioned this happening in my
mid-20s.

It just didn't happen for me.

Eventually at 44 I did have a couple of kids and they are the greatest.
But I don't find that it settled me down. I am off doing stuff with
them, working hard, playing every day, going to the gym and just as
active and wild as ever. Got a house in the burbs and minivan and
the whole 9 yards and nothing got simple or settled and I guess it
never will.

I can live with that.

Maybe there is a reason those 50 somethings are hitting on you ...After I finished raising my daughter and a few years later finished raising my career I retired and felt just the opposite of "Now I can mellow out"...I felt like, "Now it's my time to party!

I don't think there is a specific "time" when men "mellow out and want to settle down." I think there is a specific woman that causes that.

Yep! Dat's what Mostly Does it 4 Men

Some guys never mellow out, they think they still have it; but they don't.

I was 28 when I wanted to settle down and try marriage again.

oh settle down, you nO you can't live without me

I'm a little bit of an oddball on this... I kinda skipped that phase most guys are in all thru their 20's, and I've been ready to settle for most of adulthood. I'm 26 now and as ready as I'll ever be, but I'm also extremely picky and haven't met anyone I'd want to settle with just yet. Hoping for that some day soon.

Agreed, men settle down for the right woman.
If you mean committing, because a guy is no good if he gives up his life for you. It's when he keeps coming back for you, and he can't get by without you. Then he's settled down.
A new study is showing that men with low t (ex: 50+) are more ready to commit into a new relationship.
I, personally, felt the desire to have children of my own when I was still prepubescent. I had a couple of girl friends when I was 7/8 years old, but wasn't thinking of them as mates, or future wives, but I had already started putting away some of my favorite toys for my future kids! Is that wierd? My therapist doen't think so.

what he said

What exactly does "settle down" mean?

When I was about 30 I was in a pretty good place. I had a steady job with a good income, owned my house outright and the future looked bright. I was living my dream. But, I thought something was wrong. I thought by time I was supposed to have a family. So, I decided it was time to get married. It was probably the biggest mistake of my life.

I've been divorced for about 20 years now and I'm back to living my dream life. If I want a woman, I go out and find one. If she becomes a bother, I break up with her and find another. No one nags me. I'm not responsible for anyone's happiness but my own and I'm very happy with very little. One thing is sure, I'll NEVER get married again. But, does that mean I'm not settled down? I don't think so.

You know, one is never content in life. It is human nature. When you get something, you want another and another.....and the process goes on

Mellowing out and settling down I think is a contradiction in terms. I can stay mellow out as long as I don't settle down.

There is not one answer to this question. It can be answered yes and no.

It depends on the guy you ask and what stage in life they are in.
Most guys have the tendency to think they will never mellow out and never be tied down.

That is until they meet a really nice woman that changes everything in life plus their career/job.

There is not a specific age where one can say is appropriate for mellowing out & settling down.


For one to mellow out and settle down, they need to know about themselves and feel like their are ready to take the next step. They have to believe they are able to provide for their spouse and their future children if they decide to have any.