I watched some when I was a teenager to observe the basics. I never mimicked their every move though lol. Still, it could help you get a start, as in having an idea of how to lean into it and begin. The rest will come naturally if you take it slow and respond to what she's doing. It's almost like a form of communication... just as you shouldn't yell over someone when they're trying to talk back to you, similarly, you should be slow and sensual enough to get an idea of how she likes it based on how she's responding to you. That is, if you're going for the "romantic" approach lol. The hardest part is starting, but after that it will come natural.

It's a little unfair to say that all men who come across as "shy" automatically have communication problems, or lack courage to protect a woman in any way, among other things stated or implied in previous posts. I myself for example, am shy when it comes to approaching women I do not know. The awkward tension of not knowing anything about her, her personality, etc., does make me reluctant to start things off, and so I usually am quiet or "shy" as you may say. But, after a single conversation, I have absolutely no problems communicating and building on things from there. And I damn sure don't have the least bit of a problem defending her when needed. So, yeah, there are definitely different degrees to being "shy", and we're not quite all wired the same at the core of it all.

I believe it should be a constant thing that comes naturally... Expressed when it's felt and never forced. Of course it's going to calm down a little from the novelty period of the first few years of the relationship, but it should never "stop". If there comes a time that it becomes a rarity that one or both people feel that affection, it'd be critical to assess why that's happening. What's changed, conflicts if any, and what to do to bring the passion back into things. I can't say I speak from experience of having been in any very long term relationship nor a marriage, but that's my view on it regardless.

Until I wake up in my bed in either Cali, Florida, or Hawaii, and realize this was all a bad dream... Ohio it is. =|

I've been told by friends/acquaintances that I'm far too picky countless times, and reminded that I'm not a male model, not rich, etc., so in their words I should "take what I can get". I've been single for years, while everyone I know seems incapable of being single for a matter of a couple months before they're settling for whatever comes along next. And I don't just draw some bitter conclusion that they're settling because they find someone faster than me, but rather, because their relationships are extremely short-lived. I can do without that kind of BS, and I kindly point that out when they start talking their crap about it.

I'll admit, I've always been picky, more so than I would like. At times, being alone gets old, and I find myself wishing I were less selective. I won't even say it's that I have "high standards", because I've passed up chances with what most would consider attractive girls who had a lot going for them in most other aspects too. And vice versa, I've been interested in girls that most would consider unappealing. It's just rare that I feel a connection with a girl that makes me want to "go for it". And as luck would have it, the few times I have, they've been taken, not interested, crazy enough to make me regret speaking to them, or my favorite - Things start off well and they unexpectedly go for another guy. Average things everyone goes through in their dating life, but they tend to suck more when you rarely try, lol.

But for now, I'm not settling. I've even had this and a few other online dating accounts for a couple years now. I've met a few times in person, but nothing solid yet. So, yes, I'm "picky". But to me, no relationship is better than a bad, or even half-assed relationship. So I'll only go for what I feel has the potential to be an awesome match, and if I'm not feeling it on my end, I know better than to try to force it. So, if the women I'm truly compatible with are one in a million, those are odds I'll stick with rather than settle for being unhappy with the wrong person. If you wanna call that "too picky", so be it.

There really isn't a list of any specific traits I require to develop feelings for someone. If the connection's there, it's there. As for how easily... not easily, if at all. I've been in love twice in my life, with some minor infatuations in between that went nowhere. I'm an involuntarily selective and extremely complex person, and if I had control of who I had feelings for, I would have settled down with someone a long time ago. But, sadly, the few times I've had deeper feelings for someone, it has most definitely been the wrong ones, and it was harder to get over those individuals than I would have liked.

So, in short... I guess what I'm saying is that I rarely fall, but when I do, I fall pretty damn hard.

I'm a little bit of an oddball on this... I kinda skipped that phase most guys are in all thru their 20's, and I've been ready to settle for most of adulthood. I'm 26 now and as ready as I'll ever be, but I'm also extremely picky and haven't met anyone I'd want to settle with just yet. Hoping for that some day soon.

I tend to go more for other races than my own so my thoughts on the matter would be pretty obvious. As much as I value having some common ground with a woman, our differences as people are what make us more interesting to each other overall, and other races/cultures are obviously going to have more of those differences. Obviously, some differences can make you incompatible, but things as simple as skin color should not be among them. And as I said, if you're open-minded, as I am, it only makes someone of another race/background more exciting to get to know. In terms of physical appearance, I actually find myself more attracted to women of other races as well, especially Hispanics lol. Overall, though, different races should be something to appreciate, rather than any difference that sets us apart, and should never be a major factor in deciding how you feel about someone.

Not since I was in my teens. Today, I see that as something I would do more to show I care, rather than to score any points. As such, I've sent them to family, such as my grandmother most recently. I would do the same for a girl I was in a good relationship with, not to be liked more, but just to say "Hey, I thought of you, and wanted to send you a reminder of how beautiful you are to me", or something along those lines. Not even necessarily for a specific occasion, but more when I felt it would be a nice surprise, even at her work or something. Can't say I've had that chance though, as I haven't had the best dating life so far, lol. So, as I said in a previous post, one day.

I would love to get married... I just haven't met the right one for that as of yet. I've only fallen for a few women in my life, and they were most definitely the wrong ones. So, one day, maybe.

If we are referring to a first-time meeting, no, I would not expect them to... nor would I be sure I wanted them to on any level. I'd be just as unsure about her as she is of me, and I'd prefer getting to know someone before I knew if I wanted to spend any nights together, with or without sex.

Now if we are referring to a long-distance relationship that's already been established, then, of course lol.

I may throw a compliment out now and then, but never a dishonest one. The key to good flattery is making it honest, which may mean it's less often, but will be better-received and more appreciated. I'm also not the type to be entirely captivated with only a girl's appearance, so it would take getting to know her before I was impressed enough to start with any real compliments. Especially when it comes to calling a woman "beautiful" which isn't a term I could use to describe someone without knowing them, as that goes much deeper than anything at first sight. I guess what I'm saying is that I tend to compliment as I feel it, meaning it increases as I actually become more passionate about someone, so it's never excessive or empty words. And likewise, the way a person feels about you is equally important in how they're going to take your compliments, so I think most times you can tell when it's appropriate or desired on their end as well.

There are times I feel that way, and think of those advantages...

And then I remember I'm not getting laid, and I'm twice as bored, and that list means jack ####. But logically speaking, sure, it has it's "advantages".

You're right to be angry at men who abuse women in any way, and I myself share that anger. But, you can't blame them for someone else's decision once their relationship has ended. If someone has decided to believe all men are the same as the abuser(s), and dates women as a result, they would be the one at fault for their own flawed logic, not anyone else. As with anything, every adult is responsible for their own decisions, even following any kind of physical or mental trauma. And if she decided to date women simply because she's attracted to them - That's her preference, and there is nothing to place blame for to begin with, so leave it be.

So, once again... to summarize... by all means, hate the act of a woman being abused, as I do. But do not carry that blame over to excuse the decisions that these women are responsible for making themselves.

Thank you. You look great yourself. =)

The most common reason is that they aren't confident in, or are outright ashamed of their appearance for one reason or another. Others, especially women, have had creeper/stalker issues or feel they get too much superficial attention if they have a photo up, and/or would just prefer to interact with people based on their personality without any influence of how attractive they are or aren't. That probably covers about 95% of them, and I can't think of much more that wouldn't fall under some variation of the above, besides fake profiles and/or someone posing to be the opposite sex for whatever reason.

I am actually more often attracted to girls outside my own race... be it Black, Hispanic, Asian, etc. At least 2/3 of the girls I have dated or liked have been of other ethnicities. But generally, I like girls of any race or ethnic background and don't consider it a deciding factor when it comes to dating.

Unlikely. Generally speaking, people don't make changes to their appearance to become unattractive. Rather, they desire that change for whatever reason, whether they will like it more or just want to try a new style. Someone else's preference isn't enough reason to stop them, as they most likely want that person or people in general to prioritize their inner qualities rather than outer to begin with. The same goes for both sexes.

You already are getting into it. I'll agree to avoid all those details, but I will say let's just drop the health argument. When it comes to attraction, both sexes are more influenced by other things, such as culture, tradition, media, etc. than they are about what is or isn't a sign of good health. For example, you can argue about obesity being unhealthy and therefor the reason most men aren't attracted to overweight women. However, many of those same men are attracted to women who are bone-thin to a clearly unhealthy, even sickly and life-threatening point. Is that a sign of good health? No. If we went by the "good health" argument, the majority would prefer women with at least a little chub on their bodies over those who look like skeletons with pretty faces with 10lbs of makeup, but that is not the case. You can continue to justify what you and the majority of men may be attracted to with an argument about some natural attraction to what's "good" or "healthy", but I will continue to disagree. Attraction is mostly psychological, and is influenced by too many constantly changing factors to claim that any preferences are really "natrual" or the "rule".