We meet online, live 50 or more miles apart, and have been seeing each other for some months, traveling back and forth between residents mainly on weekends spending quality time together while also satisfying our sexual connection… all things are going good between us and we decide to become more serious about our commitment, eventually agreeing on monogamy… as time goes on, gas prices start to rise, and it becomes more costly to continue round trip sexcapades… so we decide to take one more serious step to keep our relationship together, by one of us giving up our residence to move in with the other… in order to retain our individual property that we bring into the now combined relationship, should we draw up and sign a binding document that details what belongs to whom, and that we will take our things with us should the relationship dissolve? Because possession is 9/10th the law, when a break up occurs and tempers might be flaring, the one who remains in the residence is able to legally retain possession of all material assets until the one moving out can prove what property is theirs… so advance preparation to cover both our buttz with a binding agreement will make the breaking up process easier and quicker… but… how do you personally feel about taking these kinds of advance safety precautions when just starting out in a relatively new relationship?

Well number one, and a very big number one I might add, is that when property and things are involved, I would certainly give the relationship a ell of a lot more time than "some months" before making any decisions, no matter how good the sex is.

Bekindtohorses... I can truly appreciate your view point, but I also stop to recognize that it is a much easier scenario to see as a man, in a man's world, who ultimately holds the majority of authority in a relationship... and if things do go south it can even be his final decision on who gets what even in the courts, the majority of the time... and I say this with first hand knowledge and experience... so any woman worth her salt will protect herself in advance from the authority that could be turned against her when the love connection has later turned to hate and even revenge depending on the circumstances...

I respect your point of view along with the views of others but for me I would see a contractual union as a partnership and not a relationship. You are either in, out or on the sideline. I am sorry you have been wronged and I for one do not accept a society which permits unfair play. Yes it is true that the world we live in is just that and as we continue to fuel the path we are on be it from our own actions or lack thereof and I believe a course change well become a far more difficult thing to achieve.

We need signs to tell us not to step in the big hole……you might get hurt. Liability issue resolved.
It’s a contract.

I’ll take the sign that is not in print…..the one that smiles when I walk into a room or puts a smile on my face when she walks into a room. You can keep my stuff if that’s all it takes for my heart to truly feel at home