Is honesty is still the best policy?Why some people have a hardtime for being honest especially when it comes to a relationship?

good question tessa, iam ina 12 step program that tells me to be rigorosly honest.. sometimes the truth hurts, i think for me the reason is some people are not honest becasue if they reveil to you who they really are you may not like them.. so some put on a front.. and some are just plain players..

I don't know why some people can't be honest. I mean I understand not telling everything, how could you- is your life something you can explain in just a few minutes or even hours? Not unless it's really boring.

But just telling you one thing and doing another- no I don't get it and I don't get why they usually won't even admit that they did this....

I can forgive almost anything if that person comes to me and says, "look I made a mistake, I'm sorry".

But a lot of times they can't find the strength to do so I guess. I think it's just weakness, unfortunately.

I think honesty is always best.

Keep up the good work Steve.

thanks you pkh i dont have much time in the program but tommro i will have 30 days sober ...emotional sobriety as well..

Good for you. My son had 5 months and fell again.All I can do is pray one day at a time.

I still think honesty is the way but then who am I lol just the way I feel

Congrats Steve...

I dont understand the lack of honesty thing either. I guess I consider myself to honest sometimes.

I to can forgive almost anything as long as it is shared in a reasonable time frame.

I feel that honesty is the best policy unless it will hurt someone....like coming right out and saying what a person is wearing is really gross or that their hair looks funny.....other than that I feel you should always be honest even if it hurts you......if your honest to someone and they don't like you anymore then they weren't worth having as a friend or partner anyway!!

Just Denise, we're neighbors, ever want a coffee, mail me, your settings won't let me mail you.

Honesty goes back to PERSONAL INTEGRITY.
Just look at the people in the news & see the example being set for our young. If you have money, you can lie, cheat, steal in any/all manners you want. Losing is NOT acceptable, so we go to guns & kill, rather than fist fights. The examples being taught, do not promote honesty. How many "FAMILIES" make their kids go to church & go with them?

Honesty is the most important thing, I think. But, I think it most definitely should be tempered with a little tact sometimes. There are ways of saying things to cause the least amount of pain on someone else. You don't have to be a jerk about it.

Honesty is very important... it can be very damaging to a relationship if your not.

Oldsage-

I agree with you that integrity is the most important.

But how do you tell if someone has integrity? I have met a few people (ok recently there was one especially) who talk about their "honor" and how important their "word" is to them and then they lie like crazy. So how can you tell?

Anyone have thoughts/tips?

Question them, remember there answers.
ask same questions in different manners later on down the line.
Watch what & where they post.
There are ways of reading the truth in people, by there actions.
LISTEN to your gut feelings
That little voice inside you, will guide your actions.

Honesty is the best policy... and it weeds them out, if they can't take the truth then it wasn't meant to be...

I agree Oldsage... we forget to listen to our gut feelings and it is important that if it doesn't feel right..... there is a reason why... I think with time too, you can read more between the lines, telephone voice pitch and realize what is truth and what is smack.....

But keep it honest...you need that for a good foundation...

Being honest is the best policy but many people use brutal honesty which is abuse.
We must consider the feelings of others when we are being honest and use tact when we speak.

Im only honest on wednesdays.......what day is it???? But sometimes I lie about that!