Why is it that women that really aren't ready for a serious relationship with a genuine guy because they have been messed up by a bad relationship go on these sites saying that they are looking for someone honest and caring when what's likely to happen is that a caring sort of guy is bound to want more than just a casual fling? These women know what it's like to be hurt but they hurt other people. Do they just not think about that because they are so wrapped up in themselves and need something good for a little while so that they can move on and feel desirable again?

I would ask the same thing of men. I can't tell you how many dates I went on where the guy has gone through a bitter divorce and all he does is complain how rotten women are while on a date with me. Needless to say; I never saw them again.

Is this the start of a "nice guy" or a "man hater" thread?

Nah; no man hating here; just asking a question is all.

when you learn you are powerless over people of what they say and do.

Well, it's just something that I've been thinking about and I don't know that the women I'm talking about hate men because if they did I don't see why they would say that they want to meet a nice guy. I guess that they probably hate the men that have treated them badly in the past and they aren't really ready to put the past in the past and trust again but they must be looking for someone that's going to help them to heal and move on.

I suppose I'm answering my own question but it seems like they don't want to meet someone that's going to treat them badly again, even though they aren't looking to get involved in a serious relationship anyway.

She just wasn't that into you.

Most men I meet online or seeking what you said women are seeking, dating and someone to make them feel good for a while then moving on and see who is next on their list.

The old tapes are hard to work with especially when it is old tapes on both sides. She said she wasn't really looking for a relationship but we were together for six months. She said she didn't like the silent treatment but gave it to me. Reminds me of that Life cereal commercial. I don't want to try it so lets give it to Mikey. Now we have this go between person we speak through. You really need to have a sense of humor while dating.

Yeah, the commitment phobes. I guess when you first meet someone it's all passionate and romantic and then you start to wonder if you are really right for each other. I guess I try to make relationships work and when you do that it suddenly becomes serious and not just about having fun together.

I am just glad I got back my ruby slippers. There is no place like home. You ever rebound so much you feel like a super ball?

I did this for about a year. Now, I am tired of it cause it's just too hard on my pecker.

Women who are rebounding aren't looking for casual flings either...however they may be looking for validation without realizing it. Sad to say but some good guys get hurt during this transition.

As well women getting hurt when guys do the same!

A few questions will tell you when someone is rebounding...and hopefully you can dodge these rebound bullets in the future.

Man hater??? Why would anyone hate men! They're awesome.
....especially when they're not talking!!

I kid XY's ... you know Tee bee loves ya!

Yep. You gotta figure out what the real deal is before you get hurt, or you end up hurting them.

you know i had the same thing happen to me now i just go to the bank take $50 out have fun for 5 or 10 mins n then drop the broad off