Topic: Marriage!
Excel2003's photo
Fri 01/18/13 01:25 PM
What are the things that a man needs to watch out for before going for marriage?

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Fri 01/18/13 01:35 PM
the mother-in-law


lilott's photo
Fri 01/18/13 04:06 PM
Don't sign any papers.

TexasScoundrel's photo
Fri 01/18/13 04:19 PM
Generally speaking I think marriage is a bad idea. Take all emotions out of it. Ask yourself what you'll gain by getting married. What will she gain? Who gains more? Who loses? Is it equal? If things go wrong, who will be better off? Who won't? I'm talking tangible assets here. Is she bringing as much to the marriage as you are? Will there be children? How many? How soon?

These are only a few of the things you should consider before marriage. And definitely get a prenuptial agreement. You have to protect yourself.


oldhippie1952's photo
Fri 01/18/13 04:31 PM
Make sure she loves you.

motowndowntown's photo
Fri 01/18/13 05:36 PM
Yup, take a real good long look at your future mother in law,
because in twenty years that's what your new wife is going to
be like.

Zimzane2's photo
Fri 01/18/13 07:45 PM
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What are the things that a man needs to watch out for before going for marriage?


I avoid that legal paper saying marriage. :smile:

OkiHeadDoctor's photo
Sat 01/19/13 03:07 AM
Edited by OkiHeadDoctor on Sat 01/19/13 03:09 AM
If you are serious, then she must be serious. As you sit and talk alot (along with all the goodie goodie) be sure to talk about things like her parents and yours. I firmly believe that a person's parents have a great deal of input on our relationships. Be sure to stay "on your game" with flowers, gifts, courtesies, putting her before nearly everything. Be ready to step that up at times during family upsets, and do NOT take her for granted - ever.

The prenupt is tricky, and may be a cause for concern. Talking about it may be perceived as a "plan to fail" and may cause her to run away. I couldn't have imagined talking about one with my wife - and maybe that was a sign in itself. If you're getting married, you should be comfortable talking about nearly everything (99%) with this woman you are about to pledge your heart, mind, money, and soul to. I soooo wish I had talked about it - now its too late... SHE GON GET HAF 4 LIFE! It's the law...

Zimzane2's photo
Sat 01/19/13 04:59 AM
it's nice being free as a bird.laugh

teebee79's photo
Sat 01/19/13 08:04 AM

What are the things that a man needs to watch out for before going for marriage?

That she is a complete person with and without you. Because if she isn't she will become unhappy!
Unhappy with herself and eventually that unhappiness will turn towards you.

msharmony's photo
Sat 01/19/13 09:47 AM


What are the things that a man needs to watch out for before going for marriage?

That she is a complete person with and without you. Because if she isn't she will become unhappy!
Unhappy with herself and eventually that unhappiness will turn towards you.



so well put teebee

and it goes both ways,,,

before marriage, have some common goals and values, have a strong friendship/partnership, and make sure there is respect and trust


a couple strong hints are watching how well they interact/treat others(if they will do something to one person, its just the right motivation and occasion for them to do it to you too, thats why im not into deadbeat dads,,,for instance)

watch how they interact with family

pay attention to whether their priorities match yours


and, probably equally important, be honest about what you have to offer THEM that they dont have on their own

be able to bring to the relationship at least as much as you want to receive from it

if a women is already providing for themself, its probably not wise to go in feeling like the center of the world because you have a job or money,,,its not about those things, its about how much STRONGER and BETTER you are together than apart,,,

Toodygirl5's photo
Sun 01/20/13 01:56 PM
Edited by Toodygirl5 on Sun 01/20/13 01:57 PM
watch how they interact with family

pay attention to whether their priorities match yours


and, probably equally important, be honest about what you have to offer THEM that they dont have on their own

be able to bring to the relationship at least as much as you want to receive from it


I think this is very good advice. :thumbsup:

Toodygirl5's photo
Sun 01/20/13 01:59 PM

Make sure she loves you.


I agree and make sure You love her. Love is the most important thing in Any marriage.:heart: