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Edited by
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Just reading this thread makes me think about sex. Sex on the bed, sex on the table, sandwich sex, sex from behind, sex standing up in a hammock, sex in the ice skating rink, sex on a crowded subway, sex in a plane and sex on a train. Here some sex. There some sex. Everywhere, sex sex. Sex to the left. Sex to the right. When I was young, I could sex all night. Now that I'm old and grey, I can only sex once a day. Whacka', whacka' whacka', goo!   The post above came from willing2, the quote box didn't show up. 
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Tex, are you always so bitter? Why do you try to shoot anyone down who enjoys more than sex with the opposite sex? I'm not bitter. Do I come off that way? I'm asking questions, trying to understand what people get from relationships. Why are they so important to so many? Everyone keeps saying I'm wrong. I ask them how and I get nothing back. If anyone could give me one good reason for relationships I'd turn my views around in a heartbeat. But,so far, no one has. here is one, with a relationship you are in the safest environment, you can nurture one another build each other up and have the deepest love flows that you could have never felt from just sex. Just sex from someone one can be fun but at the end of it all when you look them in the eye do you see someone you can come home to everyday or a distant stranger. I say this is one good reason for a relationship, its like inviting them to be more than just a lover, but like family(whatever they do you will stand by them, no matter the struggle they will always be there fighting along side you) so if you think the only thing from the oposite sex you can get is sex and that relationships are bogus,then you havent experienced LOVE. 
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To all the men that only want sex from women: Why is it bad to only want sex from women? Because it's a disgrace to us. We want to feel singled out and selected. That we are the only one you want. This is what all us good women want. You're after the diseased and slutty to put up with sex, boot, there's the door. This reversed onto men would be like this: All women want is your money. Now deal with it. That's all we want from you. Paycheck, boot, there's the door. Oops... wait... we women can make all the money we want. So what do we need men for? Ladies, men will never just want sex with only you anyway. Even when you are lying underneath him thinking you are sharing the wonderful act of making love, staring up at him with loving eyes... he's thinking of other women anyway.  it's a compliment, not disrespectful. i see your part of the she-ra man-haters club... Why would you say I'm a man hater? Did I say I hated men? Did I fail to reverse only wanting sex from women/money from men point? Did I lie that men see other women when they are having sex with a woman? You made up your own mind. you didn't have to say it, it's obvious... but to each their own, you probably have good reasons, men make it easy...i only know what i'm thinking of during sex, i cannot say what other people are thinking, nor would i worry about it. if i'm lucky enough to be having sex with her, then she can think about anything she wants... "if i'm lucky enough to be having sex with her, then she can think about anything she wants..." Really? Are you sure? What if you REALLY loved this woman, and she had to close her eyes and think of another man from work because YOU weren't who she really wanted to be with? Please....do not tell me you wouldn't feel bad about that. Feelings are there for a reason. I dare you to cohabit with someone who had parents that didn't have feelings. There's a natural order to things. It's worked for thousands of years. A LOT of men are teetering on the edge of not having any natural feelings for women any longer. If not you, then look at the Texan-dude's posts and other's like him and answer why we women must deal with men like that? and why would you care what your partner is thinking during sex? if i really loved this woman, i would cherish the time she did decide to spend with me. i cannot control who she likes, wants or thinks, i can only control what i like or want. thats part of a big problem with people now, they want, want, and then want more, but are never happy with what they have... |
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Edited by
mountainwatergirl
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To all the men that only want sex from women: Why is it bad to only want sex from women? Because it's a disgrace to us. We want to feel singled out and selected. That we are the only one you want. This is what all us good women want. You're after the diseased and slutty to put up with sex, boot, there's the door. This reversed onto men would be like this: All women want is your money. Now deal with it. That's all we want from you. Paycheck, boot, there's the door. Oops... wait... we women can make all the money we want. So what do we need men for? Ladies, men will never just want sex with only you anyway. Even when you are lying underneath him thinking you are sharing the wonderful act of making love, staring up at him with loving eyes... he's thinking of other women anyway. it's a compliment, not disrespectful. i see your part of the she-ra man-haters club... Why would you say I'm a man hater? Did I say I hated men? Did I fail to reverse only wanting sex from women/money from men point? Did I lie that men see other women when they are having sex with a woman? You made up your own mind. you didn't have to say it, it's obvious... but to each their own, you probably have good reasons, men make it easy...i only know what i'm thinking of during sex, i cannot say what other people are thinking, nor would i worry about it. if i'm lucky enough to be having sex with her, then she can think about anything she wants... "if i'm lucky enough to be having sex with her, then she can think about anything she wants..." Really? Are you sure? What if you REALLY loved this woman, and she had to close her eyes and think of another man from work because YOU weren't who she really wanted to be with? Please....do not tell me you wouldn't feel bad about that. Feelings are there for a reason. I dare you to cohabit with someone who had parents that didn't have feelings. There's a natural order to things. It's worked for thousands of years. A LOT of men are teetering on the edge of not having any natural feelings for women any longer. If not you, then look at the Texan-dude's posts and other's like him and answer why we women must deal with men like that? and why would you care what your partner is thinking during sex? if i really loved this woman, i would cherish the time she did decide to spend with me. i cannot control who she likes, wants or thinks, i can only control what i like or want. thats part of a big problem with people now, they want, want, and then want more, but are never happy with what they have... Why would I care what my partner is thinking during sex? huh? Hasn't this already been covered in my last post? NO one can control anyone and shouldn't even think it. Does that change that what your partner is thinking about during sex is not you? It should be mutual and given out of their own free will to have their attention on each other during sex. yes.. I expect my man's attention to be on ME while he is with ME sexually. Otherwise, I'm being used and could be anybody. That's not being selected, singled out, or loved. Yea... that's what I want. |
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My ex once called me another guy's name when we were having sex. I said to her, "That's not my name". She asked me if she had said that and maybe she wasn't aware she had done that. Perhaps she did it just out of habit and she wasn't actually thinking about him. I don't know. When my old dog died and I got a new one my mother kept calling the new dog by the old one's name. It took me a while to stop comparing the new dog with the old one and feel a proper bond with her.
Now, women are not dogs but when I was in a relationship I don't remember thinking about other women when we were having sex. Sometimes I wished that I was with someone else and not with her but it was nobody else specific that I wanted to be with. I just felt that she wasn't the right woman for me sometimes but that wasn't really when we were having sex. The sex was always good and it was the relationship itself that I wasn't sure about. I don't know if I think about anything apart from what I'm actually doing when I have sex. I am aware of my body and hers. I sometimes talk to the woman I'm with during sex and I listen to the noises that she makes. One time we were smoking in bed and there was a fire. She said that she could smell smoke and we didn't know where it was coming from. The house could have been burning down but I didn't want to think about that and I wanted to just keep having sex. Women say that they don't want to just be wanted for sex or treated as a piece of meat. What if you are with somebody though and you really love having sex with them? Is that so bad? I suppose it could be if you only feel entirely happy being with her when you are making love but relationships are difficult and you might be trying to make her happy and love you by trying to satisfy her in bed. Sex isn't all that women want though. They can be having a great sex life and still not be happy. Sex isn't all that men want either. It just might be the thing that they most enjoy doing. It is like a drug. It takes our minds off our problems. It is a treat that we look forward to. I can only speak for myself but I constantly worry about the future and find it hard to just live in the moment. When I have sex though I don't want it to end. The French call the moment after orgasm "the little death". |
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Sex is a part of a relationship, however, if the relationship in itself is good, then the sex will be good. Sex is something Men need.
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No sex, sex is sex not sex all sex men sex think sex about sex.
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No sex, sex is sex not sex all sex men sex think sex about sex. I didnt quite catch that can you repeat it lol. |
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My ex once called me another guy's name when we were having sex. I said to her, "That's not my name". She asked me if she had said that and maybe she wasn't aware she had done that. Perhaps she did it just out of habit and she wasn't actually thinking about him. I don't know. When my old dog died and I got a new one my mother kept calling the new dog by the old one's name. It took me a while to stop comparing the new dog with the old one and feel a proper bond with her. Now, women are not dogs but when I was in a relationship I don't remember thinking about other women when we were having sex. Sometimes I wished that I was with someone else and not with her but it was nobody else specific that I wanted to be with. I just felt that she wasn't the right woman for me sometimes but that wasn't really when we were having sex. The sex was always good and it was the relationship itself that I wasn't sure about. I don't know if I think about anything apart from what I'm actually doing when I have sex. I am aware of my body and hers. I sometimes talk to the woman I'm with during sex and I listen to the noises that she makes. One time we were smoking in bed and there was a fire. She said that she could smell smoke and we didn't know where it was coming from. The house could have been burning down but I didn't want to think about that and I wanted to just keep having sex. Women say that they don't want to just be wanted for sex or treated as a piece of meat. What if you are with somebody though and you really love having sex with them? Is that so bad? I suppose it could be if you only feel entirely happy being with her when you are making love but relationships are difficult and you might be trying to make her happy and love you by trying to satisfy her in bed. Sex isn't all that women want though. They can be having a great sex life and still not be happy. Sex isn't all that men want either. It just might be the thing that they most enjoy doing. It is like a drug. It takes our minds off our problems. It is a treat that we look forward to. I can only speak for myself but I constantly worry about the future and find it hard to just live in the moment. When I have sex though I don't want it to end. The French call the moment after orgasm "the little death". My opinion of course but-tum.... yea... uh, I can't speak for all women but I don't like how men see sex as "just sex" it's not. It's an exchange. It's not just all about "you". I've heard that men love... to get sex, and women have sex... to get love. I don't want to be alive anymore if this is true. lol I think men were intended to love and bond with one female using the act of sex. Sure. But in no way, shape, or form, do I ONLY have sex to feel love. I love sex. Not all the crap you see in porn though. I think about it all the time just like men. I don't think men and women are divided that much on the issue just because of their gender. I think it's just individual preference and has nothing to do with what gender you are. I can guarantee you men do not need sex more than I do. lol Only... I have sex to bond and express my love with my partner. A feeling comes over me and it's my partner I want. My appetite came from looking at my partner...or something he said or did that turned me on. I don't just sit around watching tv, then all the sudden sex pops up in my head and I want to grab the first person around... my partner. That $hit sux! I think love needs to be in sex or it's completely unsatisfying. Without love in sex... it's just sex and I know it was never meant to be that way. It's FAR too magical a thing and should never be dumbed down to an empty act to get your rocks off. I cannot separate it like that. Otherwise, why don't men just have sex with all the women they want and not ever promise to be with just one?? Why pick just one, fall in love and marry her if they are going to think about sex with other women all the time, then grab their woman because she's there to have sex with. That's aweful. |
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No one else tired of talking about sex yet
 Personally I think all of this He only wants sex crap can be straightened out if MEN.... I said it... If MEN are honest with the chicks they hook up with! There are some women who just want sex..she may be to busy to have a relationship. Ther are some women who want the candles and flowers and the whole setting for the man they wish to be in a relationship with. Guys YOU screw it up when you get these broads mixed up! Easy Fix... BEFORE you sex it up.. Ask her what is she looking to gain from you! Ps. WE ( men and women) are sexual beings.. We all think about sex.. Hell, I thought about it at least 5 times writing this post! |
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My ex once called me another guy's name when we were having sex. I said to her, "That's not my name". She asked me if she had said that and maybe she wasn't aware she had done that. Perhaps she did it just out of habit and she wasn't actually thinking about him. I don't know. When my old dog died and I got a new one my mother kept calling the new dog by the old one's name. It took me a while to stop comparing the new dog with the old one and feel a proper bond with her. Now, women are not dogs but when I was in a relationship I don't remember thinking about other women when we were having sex. Sometimes I wished that I was with someone else and not with her but it was nobody else specific that I wanted to be with. I just felt that she wasn't the right woman for me sometimes but that wasn't really when we were having sex. The sex was always good and it was the relationship itself that I wasn't sure about. I don't know if I think about anything apart from what I'm actually doing when I have sex. I am aware of my body and hers. I sometimes talk to the woman I'm with during sex and I listen to the noises that she makes. One time we were smoking in bed and there was a fire. She said that she could smell smoke and we didn't know where it was coming from. The house could have been burning down but I didn't want to think about that and I wanted to just keep having sex. Women say that they don't want to just be wanted for sex or treated as a piece of meat. What if you are with somebody though and you really love having sex with them? Is that so bad? I suppose it could be if you only feel entirely happy being with her when you are making love but relationships are difficult and you might be trying to make her happy and love you by trying to satisfy her in bed. Sex isn't all that women want though. They can be having a great sex life and still not be happy. Sex isn't all that men want either. It just might be the thing that they most enjoy doing. It is like a drug. It takes our minds off our problems. It is a treat that we look forward to. I can only speak for myself but I constantly worry about the future and find it hard to just live in the moment. When I have sex though I don't want it to end. The French call the moment after orgasm "the little death". My opinion of course but-tum.... yea... uh, I can't speak for all women but I don't like how men see sex as "just sex" it's not. It's an exchange. It's not just all about "you". I've heard that men love... to get sex, and women have sex... to get love. I don't want to be alive anymore if this is true. lol I think men were intended to love and bond with one female using the act of sex. Sure. But in no way, shape, or form, do I ONLY have sex to feel love. I love sex. Not all the crap you see in porn though. I think about it all the time just like men. I don't think men and women are divided that much on the issue just because of their gender. I think it's just individual preference and has nothing to do with what gender you are. I can guarantee you men do not need sex more than I do. lol Only... I have sex to bond and express my love with my partner. A feeling comes over me and it's my partner I want. My appetite came from looking at my partner...or something he said or did that turned me on. I don't just sit around watching tv, then all the sudden sex pops up in my head and I want to grab the first person around... my partner. That $hit sux! I think love needs to be in sex or it's completely unsatisfying. Without love in sex... it's just sex and I know it was never meant to be that way. It's FAR too magical a thing and should never be dumbed down to an empty act to get your rocks off. I cannot separate it like that. Otherwise, why don't men just have sex with all the women they want and not ever promise to be with just one?? Why pick just one, fall in love and marry her if they are going to think about sex with other women all the time, then grab their woman because she's there to have sex with. That's aweful. Well, some guys think that they are really cool if they have a bunch of women on the go at the same time. I know guys like that. I used to play snooker with this guy called Gary and he would try to chat up the barmaid. One night he said that I could stay over at his place instead of getting the bus home and it turned out that he had a really pretty wife. I thought that it was a bit off that she was sitting at home making his dinner and looking after their baby while he was out having fun and trying to pick up women. Guys like to boast about it. They like to drive through towns with their friends pointing at women in the street saying, "Had her. Had her. Had her." That's just some guys though even if they are the ones that are good at picking up women.... For me it isn't just about having sex with anyone just for the sake of it. Yeah, I want to have sex but when I've had girlfriends I haven't wanted to cheat on them and it isn't just all about my pleasure. If she doesn't enjoy it then I'm not going to enjoy it as much and I want to feel that she's enjoying it because she's with me and not just some random guy. Men fall in love too and some of us at least just want one woman when we do. |
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No one else tired of talking about sex yet Personally I think all of this He only wants sex crap can be straightened out if MEN.... I said it... If MEN are honest with the chicks they hook up with! There are some women who just want sex..she may be to busy to have a relationship. Ther are some women who want the candles and flowers and the whole setting for the man they wish to be in a relationship with. Guys YOU screw it up when you get these broads mixed up! Easy Fix... BEFORE you sex it up.. Ask her what is she looking to gain from you! Ps. WE ( men and women) are sexual beings.. We all think about sex.. Hell, I thought about it at least 5 times writing this post! Mmmm seeeexxxxx! Now im hungry! Alright this is the thing with women and men. Men are VISUAL. While women are MENTALLY stimulated. This whole convo can go on for days weeks months years whatev but the is whats splits us. If a guy goes up and talk to a girl she more than like wont be straight forward with nothing while most men are. If i go talk to any one single female and tell her face to face that i want to @"?! Her brains out ill get slapped kicked in the groin and be arrested for sexual harrastment. So in other words WOMEN need to be more straight forward also. It has to work both ways. Ill play games now that i want to settle down but in the past yeah no ive would have been next. |
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No one else tired of talking about sex yet Personally I think all of this He only wants sex crap can be straightened out if MEN.... I said it... If MEN are honest with the chicks they hook up with! There are some women who just want sex..she may be to busy to have a relationship. Ther are some women who want the candles and flowers and the whole setting for the man they wish to be in a relationship with. Guys YOU screw it up when you get these broads mixed up! Easy Fix... BEFORE you sex it up.. Ask her what is she looking to gain from you! Ps. WE ( men and women) are sexual beings.. We all think about sex.. Hell, I thought about it at least 5 times writing this post! Will you go into detail what thoughts about sex went through your mind? Was it styles, positions, sweating and panting during organisms? Me, I like the picture of walking by my woman and stroking her hip and her arching her back and backing up to me. All the while grinding into me. I can feel her pulsating through her spandex. That is so hot!! Well, it's time to take a break and go think about some sex. 
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No one else tired of talking about sex yet Personally I think all of this He only wants sex crap can be straightened out if MEN.... I said it... If MEN are honest with the chicks they hook up with! There are some women who just want sex..she may be to busy to have a relationship. Ther are some women who want the candles and flowers and the whole setting for the man they wish to be in a relationship with. Guys YOU screw it up when you get these broads mixed up! Easy Fix... BEFORE you sex it up.. Ask her what is she looking to gain from you! Ps. WE ( men and women) are sexual beings.. We all think about sex.. Hell, I thought about it at least 5 times writing this post! Will you go into detail what thoughts about sex went through your mind? Was it styles, positions, sweating and panting during organisms? Me, I like the picture of walking by my woman and stroking her hip and her arching her back and backing up to me. All the while grinding into me. I can feel her pulsating through her spandex. That is so hot!! Well, it's time to take a break and go think about some sex. See i like a nice dinner when she wears THAT little black dress in her stockings. Actually let me shut my trap. Cold showers dont work and my car is getting a motor swap i dont want to play as buddy whack it. |
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No one else tired of talking about sex yet Personally I think all of this He only wants sex crap can be straightened out if MEN.... I said it... If MEN are honest with the chicks they hook up with! There are some women who just want sex..she may be to busy to have a relationship. Ther are some women who want the candles and flowers and the whole setting for the man they wish to be in a relationship with. Guys YOU screw it up when you get these broads mixed up! Easy Fix... BEFORE you sex it up.. Ask her what is she looking to gain from you! Ps. WE ( men and women) are sexual beings.. We all think about sex.. Hell, I thought about it at least 5 times writing this post! Mmmm seeeexxxxx! Now im hungry! Alright this is the thing with women and men. Men are VISUAL. While women are MENTALLY stimulated. This whole convo can go on for days weeks months years whatev but the is whats splits us. If a guy goes up and talk to a girl she more than like wont be straight forward with nothing while most men are. If i go talk to any one single female and tell her face to face that i want to @"?! Her brains out ill get slapped kicked in the groin and be arrested for sexual harrastment. So in other words WOMEN need to be more straight forward also. It has to work both ways. Ill play games now that i want to settle down but in the past yeah no ive would have been next. NormalGuy... they call it tact for a reason Of course you are gonna get kicked and slapped! Just because a woman might WANT just sex... doesn't mean she wants you to come at her like that! I can't speak for all women, of course. But I'd rather a guy say" I'm not looking to settle down anytime soon but i would like to get to know you" Right there he has given me a choice. Have fun with this guy... until I find the guy i REALLY want or Tell this guy to take a hike because I'm not looking to " just have fun" Either way its a win win ( for me at least) but the bottom line is no one feels used and lied to. |
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Most women are like this and most men are like that. Bla bla bla.
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Nope! It is 'Women' Men always think about
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Edited by
OkiHeadDoctor
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Fri 02/01/13 10:22 AM
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Long thread - my eyes now hurt.
Look, the Doctor will set you straight: MOST (not all - everyone's different!) men IMHO can easily separate sex and emotion. They are not bonded together as is the case with MOST women. "Most" meaning greater than 50% mind you. Maybe you fit that group, maybe you don't. Please don't flame me either way! You may be able to catch a honey at the club/meeting spot, put a little alcohol in her to loosen the bond, and convince her by hook or by crook to share her goody-goodness with you. It won't be the same (definitely for her) than if she knew you, and you courted her the right way, and tilted her emotional side in your favor. If you perform the latter and share a special moment with THAT woman - done the latter way - the sex, no, the lovemaking will be pure magic. Some of us men, because we're older, got cultured, were taught, whatever/etc, perform the latter and have hyper-wonderful-magical lovemaking and it IS better for all due to the emotional bond. I'll share with you = I told my wife AND her special friend that I would have PREFERRED if they just had screwed! According to both of them, they didn't(?) They did, however, form that bond I was referring to. This was/is my extreme pain, and I am a little wiser in the process. No screw-ups for me next time... So with all that, I think YES. Most (see earlier definition of the word) men DO think only about sex. But this it at certain times in their lives... And on top of that, sometimes sex sex sex can lead or develop into to love! Arrrrgh - too complicated. This is why just sex CAN BE a good thing - it is fairly simple = Tab A goes into slot B, then C will come out (ha!) |
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It seems to me all men want is sex!The amount of men iv,e had that just want sex! well i want more than that! There's something more? 
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Long thread - my eyes now hurt. Look, the Doctor will set you straight: MOST (not all - everyone's different!) men IMHO can easily separate sex and emotion. They are not bonded together as is the case with MOST women. "Most" meaning greater than 50% mind you. Maybe you fit that group, maybe you don't. Please don't flame me either way! You may be able to catch a honey at the club/meeting spot, put a little alcohol in her to loosen the bond, and convince her by hook or by crook to share her goody-goodness with you. It won't be the same (definitely for her) than if she knew you, and you courted her the right way, and tilted her emotional side in your favor. If you perform the latter and share a special moment with THAT woman - done the latter way - the sex, no, the lovemaking will be pure magic. Some of us men, because we're older, got cultured, were taught, whatever/etc, perform the latter and have hyper-wonderful-magical lovemaking and it IS better for all due to the emotional bond. I'll share with you = I told my wife AND her special friend that I would have PREFERRED if they just had screwed! According to both of them, they didn't(?) They did, however, form that bond I was referring to. This was/is my extreme pain, and I am a little wiser in the process. No screw-ups for me next time... So with all that, I think YES. Most (see earlier definition of the word) men DO think only about sex. But this it at certain times in their lives... And on top of that, sometimes sex sex sex can lead or develop into to love! Arrrrgh - too complicated. This is why just sex CAN BE a good thing - it is fairly simple = Tab A goes into slot B, then C will come out (ha!) Another reason I'm happy to stay single. I suppose the men that separate sex from emotion can keep themselves away from me then It wouldn't be so bad if the word "sex" wasn't used as an adjective to refer to a noun,...flesh and blood.
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