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Some women only want sex from men. It depends on the view of the person. It can also depend on their emotional state of being at the time. Emotionally unavailable people tend to just want sex or see sex as the only purpose for the interactions with their attracted partners. If they only want sex from you, they are doing you a favor in letting you know that right up front. You then know you are dealing with a person who is unavailable to you emotionally. Take it or leave it at that point. This is true but when a woman tells you that she just wants to have fun and nothing serious she may want more than just sex from you. She might want you to take her out on dates and she may even act as if you are in a relationship. Someone tells you that they aren't really looking for anything serious right now and you think that if you romance them they might decide that they do want more than just a fling. I do think of sex as an intimate experience that you share with someone that brings you closer to each other. I have tried to get women to love me by making love to them. They say that women use sex to get love and men use love to get sex but as much as I like sex it isn't all that I think about or all that I want. I want to be in a relationship with someone that makes me happy and I have known happiness although my relationships haven't worked out. I don't get what you find so hard to understand about why people want to be in relationships Tex. If you are one of those people that feels happy with your life and being on your own then I almost envy you but you say that you do want the emotional stuff and if you get emotionally involved with someone it is a serious relationship. You may want your relationships to be on your terms but unless you are kidding yourself about your relationships with women being emotional you do want to get involved and you do get why people want to be in relationships. It doesn't just count as a relationship when you marry someone or give them your credit card. I presume, "they" who say that women "use" sex to get love were men. The same old by line. In the old days, which some are still stuck on, men and women, women had to withhold sex because of social constructs ie they were not employable like a man so a man was needed to make a life, they were not considered equal so they had less rights making it impossible to get what they needed in life without a man, men control everything so it was hard to catch a break without playing it how they wanted it, etc... This is breaking down now but not all the way gone. Women can have sex for pure pleasure. If they can shake the taught misogynistic ideology that men have a right to judge her sexuality as wrong, that is. |
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No, I think I've heard both men and women saying that about how men use love to get sex and women use sex to get love. It's the old putdown that all that men want is sex and women on these forums complain about it all the time.
A previous relationship of mine failed for a number of reasons but one of them was that she felt that all I wanted to do was to have sex with her and I didn't really want to take her out on dates and do all of those other things that couples do that are supposed to be romantic and make a lady feel special. It wasn't really true that I didn't want to take her out but at the time I was a bit afraid of the world and I wasn't all that enthusiastic about going out. I felt that I had a girlfriend and I didn't need to go out to meet people. I enjoyed just spending time alone with her and my saying that if she wanted to go out and do stuff we could do anything that she liked just made her feel that I didn't really want to go out and I was just saying that because she was hassling me. I remember taking her out for a meal and feeling frustrated that she didn't want to have sex when we got home because she had eaten a big meal and felt too bloated and tired. I couldn't just be happy that we had had a nice evening because I was expecting sex at the end of it. I do still feel that the physical intimacy is important in a relationship but it is not all that I want from a relationship and I don't do one night stands or try to pick up women just for sex. I do want sex but I don't want meaningless sex and I see sex as one of many ways that people express their love for each other. If I have a girlfriend and she wants to cook me a meal that makes me feel that she cares about me. If she gives me friendship and support that makes me feel close to her and that she cares about me. If someone just wants me for sex but doesn't want to get involved and have a proper relationship that isn't enough for me. I have settled for casual relationships in the past because I get lonely and something is better than nothing but I do not just think about sex and my relationships with women have not worked out because those women felt that they could not give me what I do need. |
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No, I think I've heard both men and women saying that about how men use love to get sex and women use sex to get love. It's the old putdown that all that men want is sex and women on these forums complain about it all the time. A previous relationship of mine failed for a number of reasons but one of them was that she felt that all I wanted to do was to have sex with her and I didn't really want to take her out on dates and do all of those other things that couples do that are supposed to be romantic and make a lady feel special. It wasn't really true that I didn't want to take her out but at the time I was a bit afraid of the world and I wasn't all that enthusiastic about going out. I felt that I had a girlfriend and I didn't need to go out to meet people. I enjoyed just spending time alone with her and my saying that if she wanted to go out and do stuff we could do anything that she liked just made her feel that I didn't really want to go out and I was just saying that because she was hassling me. I remember taking her out for a meal and feeling frustrated that she didn't want to have sex when we got home because she had eaten a big meal and felt too bloated and tired. I couldn't just be happy that we had had a nice evening because I was expecting sex at the end of it. I do still feel that the physical intimacy is important in a relationship but it is not all that I want from a relationship and I don't do one night stands or try to pick up women just for sex. I do want sex but I don't want meaningless sex and I see sex as one of many ways that people express their love for each other. If I have a girlfriend and she wants to cook me a meal that makes me feel that she cares about me. If she gives me friendship and support that makes me feel close to her and that she cares about me. If someone just wants me for sex but doesn't want to get involved and have a proper relationship that isn't enough for me. I have settled for casual relationships in the past because I get lonely and something is better than nothing but I do not just think about sex and my relationships with women have not worked out because those women felt that they could not give me what I do need. Women also carry on the misogynistic ideology they were taught was "how it is". So they are their own worst enemies in some cases. I too have dealt with partners who thought I only wanted them for sex. I have had them feel that I wronged them because I had sex with them once and didn't want to see them again. Not one night stands just inferior performance that I did not want again. I just have a high sex drive and they did not, in the cases of the relationships that he felt he was a sex object. It is an incompatibility that happens. I have grown to know that sex for the purpose of sex has its purpose just as the amazing lovemaking I have with someone I love has its purpose. Neither being wrong. |
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I have wondered this also and changed my profile to say that's not what I am into. Some people can start a relationship or friend thing or one night stand. and I happen not to be that way. I guess it is what your heart and soul desires. I wish you alot of luck in finding your one!
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id be worried if a man didnt think about sex or want it.. an remember there are women that think an want it just as much...
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Edited by
willing2
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Sun 01/27/13 05:33 PM
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id be worried if a man didnt think about sex or want it.. an remember there are women that think an want it just as much... Wow!!! What a hot little mama.  Now, I can't get it out of my head.  Dang!!! One post and poof! She's gone. |
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id be worried if a man didnt think about sex or want it.. an remember there are women that think an want it just as much... Hey, that's what this site is all about, right? = sharing feelings & opinions, and getting this thing called life square in our own minds. Thank you for your honesty! I for one feel that the thought is there whether it be conscious or otherwise, it's human nature. I'm not gonna lie, when I see nearly ANYONE (female) various thoughts twinkle across all the empty space in my skull: > Couple together, holding hands while frolicking along = I wonder when he last got that? > Couple together, looking kinda angry at the world and/or each other = I wonder when she last gave him that? > Old Ba-san (Ba-san means grandma in Japanese) bent over, tending to her garden = Man, I wonder when was the last time she got her some? Not my ONLY thoughts, but they are usually mixed in there somewhere. Me tinks me sees a possible pattern here... 
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I'm going with a yay on this one.
Following Monday Night Football and scratching their balls every 5 minutes. |
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I'm going with a yay on this one. Following Monday Night Football and scratching their balls every 5 minutes. I prefer any martial arts match (even MMA) to football. Football is a major snoozefest to me. All that padding is for wimps.   The most I need for a good fight/sparring match is some tatami mats or a floor built for absorbing the shock of falls.
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I don't think that ALL men only want sex from women, however I do believe that ALL men think about sex more often than women do. No argument there, but I seriously doubt that all men that do think about sex, think of having sex with a woman... Just too many other options and opportunities out there. I also seriously doubt that the same can be said of women... I said they "think" about sex more often, but I never mentioned who they imagine as their partner. And yes...to each his/her own.
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I'm going with a yay on this one. Following Monday Night Football and scratching their balls every 5 minutes. you left out the beer and burgers |
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See all this talk about sex makes me want to have sex. And here I was minding my own business. The plus about having a women in your life. To bad I don't
 Time for another cold shower 
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See all this talk about sex makes me want to have sex. And here I was minding my own business. The plus about having a women in your life. To bad I don't Time for another cold shower 
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Yes. sex. yes. sex. yes. sex. hugs. yes. sex. kiss. yes.
Hmm, I'd say mostly. |
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To all the men that only want sex from women:
Why is it bad to only want sex from women? Because it's a disgrace to us. We want to feel singled out and selected. That we are the only one you want. This is what all us good women want. You're after the diseased and slutty to put up with sex, boot, there's the door. This reversed onto men would be like this: All women want is your money. Now deal with it. That's all we want from you. Paycheck, boot, there's the door. Oops... wait... we women can make all the money we want. So what do we need men for? Ladies, men will never just want sex with only you anyway. Even when you are lying underneath him thinking you are sharing the wonderful act of making love, staring up at him with loving eyes... he's thinking of other women anyway.
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To all the men that only want sex from women: Why is it bad to only want sex from women? Because it's a disgrace to us. We want to feel singled out and selected. That we are the only one you want. This is what all us good women want. You're after the diseased and slutty to put up with sex, boot, there's the door. This reversed onto men would be like this: All women want is your money. Now deal with it. That's all we want from you. Paycheck, boot, there's the door. Oops... wait... we women can make all the money we want. So what do we need men for? Ladies, men will never just want sex with only you anyway. Even when you are lying underneath him thinking you are sharing the wonderful act of making love, staring up at him with loving eyes... he's thinking of other women anyway. it's a compliment, not disrespectful. i see your part of the she-ra man-haters club... |
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To all the men that only want sex from women: Why is it bad to only want sex from women? Because it's a disgrace to us. We want to feel singled out and selected. That we are the only one you want. This is what all us good women want. You're after the diseased and slutty to put up with sex, boot, there's the door. This reversed onto men would be like this: All women want is your money. Now deal with it. That's all we want from you. Paycheck, boot, there's the door. Oops... wait... we women can make all the money we want. So what do we need men for? Ladies, men will never just want sex with only you anyway. Even when you are lying underneath him thinking you are sharing the wonderful act of making love, staring up at him with loving eyes... he's thinking of other women anyway. I don't like how u made this absolute. Not all men are the same. Some look for the emotional connect first. Don't get me wrong if she's down so am I but it doesn't mean it was all my idea. Next time only single out those who are like that. And the last girl I dated and slept with I cared for. I only saw her. Why try to search for beauty when it has been found?(We weren't compatible to many things going on and we were young that's why it ended) |
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Edited by
mountainwatergirl
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Mon 01/28/13 12:32 PM
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To all the men that only want sex from women: Why is it bad to only want sex from women? Because it's a disgrace to us. We want to feel singled out and selected. That we are the only one you want. This is what all us good women want. You're after the diseased and slutty to put up with sex, boot, there's the door. This reversed onto men would be like this: All women want is your money. Now deal with it. That's all we want from you. Paycheck, boot, there's the door. Oops... wait... we women can make all the money we want. So what do we need men for? Ladies, men will never just want sex with only you anyway. Even when you are lying underneath him thinking you are sharing the wonderful act of making love, staring up at him with loving eyes... he's thinking of other women anyway. it's a compliment, not disrespectful. i see your part of the she-ra man-haters club... What is a compliment? To be wanted and used for sex? Why would you say I'm a man hater? Did I say I hated men? Did I fail to reverse only wanting sex from women/money from men point? Did I lie that men see other women when they are having sex with a woman? You made up your own mind. |
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Edited by
mountainwatergirl
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Mon 01/28/13 12:49 PM
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To all the men that only want sex from women: Why is it bad to only want sex from women? Because it's a disgrace to us. We want to feel singled out and selected. That we are the only one you want. This is what all us good women want. You're after the diseased and slutty to put up with sex, boot, there's the door. This reversed onto men would be like this: All women want is your money. Now deal with it. That's all we want from you. Paycheck, boot, there's the door. Oops... wait... we women can make all the money we want. So what do we need men for? Ladies, men will never just want sex with only you anyway. Even when you are lying underneath him thinking you are sharing the wonderful act of making love, staring up at him with loving eyes... he's thinking of other women anyway. I don't like how u made this absolute. Not all men are the same. Some look for the emotional connect first. Don't get me wrong if she's down so am I but it doesn't mean it was all my idea. Next time only single out those who are like that. And the last girl I dated and slept with I cared for. I only saw her. Why try to search for beauty when it has been found?(We weren't compatible to many things going on and we were young that's why it ended) I am sure you know enough men to know that I am right for the majority. Let's not get all picky. If you aren't like how I describe, then realize I'm not talking to you then am I? Don't put yourself there and get offended if this is not you. Did I not address the men I am talking about in the beginning of my post? |
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To all the men that only want sex from women: Why is it bad to only want sex from women? Because it's a disgrace to us. We want to feel singled out and selected. That we are the only one you want. This is what all us good women want. You're after the diseased and slutty to put up with sex, boot, there's the door. This reversed onto men would be like this: All women want is your money. Now deal with it. That's all we want from you. Paycheck, boot, there's the door. Oops... wait... we women can make all the money we want. So what do we need men for? Ladies, men will never just want sex with only you anyway. Even when you are lying underneath him thinking you are sharing the wonderful act of making love, staring up at him with loving eyes... he's thinking of other women anyway. it's a compliment, not disrespectful. i see your part of the she-ra man-haters club... Why would you say I'm a man hater? Did I say I hated men? Did I fail to reverse only wanting sex from women/money from men point? Did I lie that men see other women when they are having sex with a woman? You made up your own mind. you didn't have to say it, it's obvious... but to each their own, you probably have good reasons, men make it easy...i only know what i'm thinking of during sex, i cannot say what other people are thinking, nor would i worry about it. if i'm lucky enough to be having sex with her, then she can think about anything she wants... |
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