Topic: THIS DATING SITE SHOULD REQUIRE REAL PHOTOS
PacificStar48's photo
Thu 01/10/13 11:49 AM
I personally think a photo is desireable if someone wants to be considered seriously for dateing or forum posts but I don't see it should be mandatory.

I don't see how whineing that you don't like how a site is formatted or how some users actually use the site in open forums is productive except it seems to get a lot of "mileage" for the OP.

teebee79's photo
Thu 01/10/13 11:54 AM
I can understand the need for privacy in some cases.
But that still doesn't excuse someone for at least not supplying one to a person they wish to get to know.
ESPECIALLY.... if it was their pic that originally interested you in the 1st place!

I know a person is more than their features... I just don't like surprises.


navygirl's photo
Thu 01/10/13 12:27 PM

I can understand the need for privacy in some cases.
But that still doesn't excuse someone for at least not supplying one to a person they wish to get to know.
ESPECIALLY.... if it was their pic that originally interested you in the 1st place!

I know a person is more than their features... I just don't like surprises.



I know what you are saying. I was on another dating site years ago where I talked to guys with no photos. If they were interested in me they they would attach pictures of themselves to the email on the dating site. So, I knew what they looked like and they kept their privacy to others.

Traumer's photo
Sun 01/13/13 02:13 PM

As much as i do like to see a photo of the person i communicate with
I can understand why some folks are reluctant to expose themselves
I personally have had my REAL photos taken,made into TROLL personas
And then rubbed in my face like a dirty diaper !
Furthermore my REAL name,address and phone number publicized
In their effort to bring me harm
I told them thanks for the free publicity !
Since i do write
hehehe...
{On a non moderated site i won't bother to mention}
Thus the need for moderators ...Thank you folks!
I think the simple answer is... if it bothers you so much when someone does not have a photo ....
JUST DON'T LOOK !
:wink:

JMHO




and Amen to that! Thank you for posting your reasons; you are not alone!

soufiehere's photo
Sun 01/13/13 03:39 PM

THIS DATING SITE SHOULD REQUIRE REAL PHOTOS

There is simply no point in making rules that cannot be enforced.
There is no way to verify a picture's authenticity.

What IS posted often provides clues, no matter what they put up.
If they need to hide behind something, you can only guess at
their privacy reasons.

Mingle gives you the choice of looking ONLY at those with photos
if you wish.
But I certainly would never rely on a photo to
get my heart a-thumping.

jessejames2's photo
Mon 01/14/13 03:24 PM
The bottom line is that a room full of people wearing hockey masks is not going to attract as many people as a room full of normal people happy with and actually revealing themselves. The way of this site is the main reason why a grand total of six women in my region use it.


Grow up and show yourselves... stop being so cynical. If you're that afraid, just stay home and off the internet.

navygirl's photo
Mon 01/14/13 04:25 PM

The bottom line is that a room full of people wearing hockey masks is not going to attract as many people as a room full of normal people happy with and actually revealing themselves. The way of this site is the main reason why a grand total of six women in my region use it.


Grow up and show yourselves... stop being so cynical. If you're that afraid, just stay home and off the internet.


I don't think it's a point of grow up; just privacy. As I stated; some people have reasons why they don't put up their pictures but also like the Mod said; who is to say that even if they do post a picture; it may not be theirs anyways. Like most posters said; if there are no pictures; just pass them by.

jessejames2's photo
Mon 01/14/13 04:39 PM


The bottom line is that a room full of people wearing hockey masks is not going to attract as many people as a room full of normal people happy with and actually revealing themselves. The way of this site is the main reason why a grand total of six women in my region use it.


Grow up and show yourselves... stop being so cynical. If you're that afraid, just stay home and off the internet.


I don't think it's a point of grow up; just privacy. As I stated; some people have reasons why they don't put up their pictures but also like the Mod said; who is to say that even if they do post a picture; it may not be theirs anyways. Like most posters said; if there are no pictures; just pass them by.


At some point, you're going to trust somebody in the dating aspect of this site.

As for those that use it for otherwise, I really don't care in the first place.

no photo
Mon 01/14/13 07:39 PM
Either there are people out there who trust the pictureless people, or those people don't really want to meet anyone anyway. I suspect it's a bit of both. Not sure why someone would use a site like this if they don't want to meet others, but stranger things have happened.

metalwing's photo
Mon 01/14/13 07:48 PM
I don't see why anyone cares. You don't even know if a picture is real. Words contain thoughts which may or may not contain content. A pic is something you can always ask for if you want, offer if you want, or ignore if you want.

FearandLoathing's photo
Mon 01/14/13 07:51 PM

The bottom line is that a room full of people wearing hockey masks is not going to attract as many people as a room full of normal people happy with and actually revealing themselves. The way of this site is the main reason why a grand total of six women in my region use it.


Grow up and show yourselves... stop being so cynical. If you're that afraid, just stay home and off the internet.


My hockey mask is bada** I'll have you know.

mightymoe's photo
Mon 01/14/13 08:00 PM

I don't see why anyone cares. You don't even know if a picture is real. Words contain thoughts which may or may not contain content. A pic is something you can always ask for if you want, offer if you want, or ignore if you want.

i agree, seems like just something to gripe about...

no photo
Mon 01/14/13 08:05 PM

I don't see why anyone cares. You don't even know if a picture is real. Words contain thoughts which may or may not contain content. A pic is something you can always ask for if you want, offer if you want, or ignore if you want.


I guess I just don't see why anyone gets upset about people wanting to see pictures. Yes, I realize that some people here aren't using this as a dating site and that's cool. But, many people are. So of course they're going to be expecting to see pictures. Why does this surprise people? Why do people get their panties in a twist over it? If you don't want to show your photo for whatever reason, don't. But why get bent out of shape if someone asks about it?

FearandLoathing's photo
Mon 01/14/13 08:13 PM


I don't see why anyone cares. You don't even know if a picture is real. Words contain thoughts which may or may not contain content. A pic is something you can always ask for if you want, offer if you want, or ignore if you want.


I guess I just don't see why anyone gets upset about people wanting to see pictures. Yes, I realize that some people here aren't using this as a dating site and that's cool. But, many people are. So of course they're going to be expecting to see pictures. Why does this surprise people? Why do people get their panties in a twist over it? If you don't want to show your photo for whatever reason, don't. But why get bent out of shape if someone asks about it?


I don't know...Doesn't really seem like we are the ones getting bent out of shape about it.

navygirl's photo
Tue 01/15/13 07:55 AM



I don't see why anyone cares. You don't even know if a picture is real. Words contain thoughts which may or may not contain content. A pic is something you can always ask for if you want, offer if you want, or ignore if you want.


I guess I just don't see why anyone gets upset about people wanting to see pictures. Yes, I realize that some people here aren't using this as a dating site and that's cool. But, many people are. So of course they're going to be expecting to see pictures. Why does this surprise people? Why do people get their panties in a twist over it? If you don't want to show your photo for whatever reason, don't. But why get bent out of shape if someone asks about it?


I don't know...Doesn't really seem like we are the ones getting bent out of shape about it.


I agree that the ones getting bent out of shape are the ones that think everyone should have a picture. :thumbsup:

no photo
Tue 01/15/13 07:57 AM
Edited by singmesweet on Tue 01/15/13 07:58 AM
Alrighty :smile:

Maybe defensive was a better word to use.

Duttoneer's photo
Tue 01/15/13 08:23 AM
The photo is me. I have no objection to others using an avatar in fact it makes the site more interesting, certainly better than no photo at all in my opinion.

However, I suggest more complete body shot photos would be better, ladies in their swimwear would be appropriate for those seriously seeking a date, just a thought.

teebee79's photo
Tue 01/15/13 09:41 AM




I don't see why anyone cares. You don't even know if a picture is real. Words contain thoughts which may or may not contain content. A pic is something you can always ask for if you want, offer if you want, or ignore if you want.


I guess I just don't see why anyone gets upset about people wanting to see pictures. Yes, I realize that some people here aren't using this as a dating site and that's cool. But, many people are. So of course they're going to be expecting to see pictures. Why does this surprise people? Why do people get their panties in a twist over it? If you don't want to show your photo for whatever reason, don't. But why get bent out of shape if someone asks about it?


I don't know...Doesn't really seem like we are the ones getting bent out of shape about it.


I agree that the ones getting bent out of shape are the ones that think everyone should have a picture. :thumbsup:

Personally, I don't care if you are just a friend.... but if you say things like " I like your pic" or " you have a nice smile"... that does bug me a little. It won't ruin my day, mind you, it's just a little speed bump in getting to know you. ( ALL sides of you)

eileena9's photo
Tue 01/15/13 11:15 AM
Edited by eileena9 on Tue 01/15/13 11:17 AM
Next thing people will be saying is that if you are in a relationship you shouldn't be on here......whoa



TOUGH NOOGIES!!!!!!tongue2 We met on this site and most of the people in this thread we consider more like family than just friends we have never met in person....and some we just stalk for the heck of it!:tongue:


oh and teebee, you really do have a beautiful smile!!bigsmile

no photo
Tue 01/15/13 11:20 AM

Next thing people will be saying is that if you are in a relationship you shouldn't be on here......whoa



TOUGH NOOGIES!!!!!!tongue2 We met on this site and most of the people in this thread we consider more like family than just friends we have never met in person....and some we just stalk for the heck of it!:tongue:


oh and teebee, you really do have a beautiful smile!!bigsmile

sometimes people post a profile pic that makes you want to right click and save pitchfork