I dont know,, is it 'wrong' to not feed the neighbors kids if their pantry is full?

but to feed mine


Im looking at a need, that happens to correlate in some situations to a region, a race, a family,, and acting accordingly with no malice or intent to harm or oppress anyone else

thats still seperating some from others, but its nothing 'wrong' about it,,,


likewise, if I see a need in my community , an disproportionate single mother rate amongst the young black women for existence

my 'bigotry' in then forming some assistance or educational program for those black women is not 'wrong'


if I am in a community where there is plenty of food in the black families homes and the white families are starving,,,,and I set aside a food bank just for those black families (who are already doing ok), excluding those most in need,,,

that bigotry is 'wrong'

there is no absolute

For existence?

i look at it as,it's only wrong if you think it's wrong



don't let anyone tell you who you should and shouldn't date.they're not the ones in the relationship

for instance,,,

Oh. You meant to say, "a disproportionate single mother rate among the young black women for instance."

Would you care to explain the cause of that disproportionate single mother rate?

I agree. If it isn't wrong for a black woman to exclusively date black men, then it isn't wrong for a black man to exclusively date white or Hispanic women.

nope, being that its a hypothetical,,,lol

thats consistent at least,, if its wrong for one side its wrong for the other

just depends upon one thinks its wrong

I think its wrong to consciously decide you WONT date members from a particular race,,,,,,,whether you are female or male,,,

Date who you want.... no one cares.... just make sure you can appreciate the beauty in all races.

Well, I certainly appreciate your beauty; msharmony's too.

i second that ladies

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You have been very, very bad.
Your punishment is being stranded on a deserted island
with Beyonce, Halle Berry and Rihanna.

oh the torture,,,

well I think it can be racist to refuse to dates others of a different race particularly if it is a hate based decision, but it does not have to be - it can simply be a cultural preference or one's own comfort level.

Being friends multi ethnically and actually dating and or marrying multi ethnically are different things. There is a lot of tolerance and acceptance needed of cultural differences even in friendship much less in an intimate partnership. Some are more flexible in that regard than others. As a measured index of a variety of personality traits some will have more flexibility, greater sensitivity than others.

Marriages stand the greatest chance of success the more the pair has in common regardless. So often that does imply some racial and cultural similarities, but it does not have to necessarily. I am sure we are all aware of many successful interacial relationships. Similar values and interests are also important.

the more doors we close the more narrow our world becomes, however

not all racism is hateful,,,but it is still racism

one common form of racism (in my opinion) is the idea of some absolute link between race and 'culture'

we only know one's culture once we get to know them, their race wont be the indicator we should use to assume what it is,,,,

We all have our opinions. In my opinion someone who will not date someone of their own race is experiencing a form of self hatred.

this, I agree with

because it falls under the category of prejudging an individual by looking only at their race


obviously, some negative thoughts about ones own 'race' enough to exclude each other individual sharing it from the dating pool,, screams of a little self hatred

I understand that less than not dating other races, because that can be so easily a result of ignorance (not knowing or having familiarity with people in that race) and fear of the unknown,,,,,


but when you look at others who look like you and say you arent interested,, blanketly,, ,,,just odd to me,,,

The claim of self-hatred seems to me to be short-sighted.

In the case of the OP, the author may wish to avoid a particular attitude that he keeps encountering among women among his race.

My late wife was a Latina immigrant, and when I met her, I was pleasantly surprised about the way her attitude differed from that of a woman born and raised in the USA.

then let me add ignorance to self hatred

the ignorance that avoiding the race avoids an attitude, or that an attitude cant be present amongst people of every race,,

but still self hatred, because one has pinpointed a negative they experienced and equated it to the race they experienced it in, even when THEY are part of that race,