I do not agree. Racism is prejudice, discrimination with intent, and not a desirable belief system. I do not agree that it is racist to prefer to date within ones own race as long as that preference is not hate based - or based on a negative belief system about other races, it is not racist. People tend to be attracted to others who are like themselves - some to a great degree - others to a lesser degree- but that is not racist if it is not based on degradation of others based on race. If it is a preference based on attraction devoid of any discrimination or hatred based belief that one race is superior over another, it is not racist

reference: Racism

a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human races determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one's own race is superior and has the right to rule others.
2.
a policy, system of government, etc., based upon or fostering such a doctrine; discrimination.
3.
hatred or intolerance of another race or other race

there is no data that would justify eliminating a whole RACE of individuals from the dating pool that would fall short of racist

I agree. it's not that big of a deal but I also do not think it is racist to prefer ones own race as long as the preference is based on factors of attraction rather than hatred of others because of race. People often have more in common with and are more attracted to others who they have a common cultural background with. sometimes that will includes those of other races and many times it will include people in ones own cutural/ethnic/ racial group. I know I am not racist but I do usually date within my race - not always tho

No data that you know of.

Again, the author of the OP may simply think that certain women look prettier than others. Maybe he finds certain women to be exotic from his perspective. His reason for preferring certain women does not necessarily imply self-hatred on his part.

All that the author wants to know is why he should be criticized for his choice when it comes to dating women. How does his choice hurt anyone?

I don't always date within my race, but I am not into guys who make race a big deal. Often on here, I get emails from guys starting off by asking "do you date _______ men?" I find it a turn off, as I prefer to get to know someone a bit to see if I'd want to date them than base it on race.

attaching those 'prettier' attributes to certain races and not others is racist,

Well, earlier you insisted that racism isn't absolutely wrong, and in this case, the dating preference of the OP's author is benefiting the author. So, who is being harmed by this alleged "racism"?

that was why I was trying to stick the subject matter to 'racist' and not right or wrong


and , to apply previous logic to this response, what information is in the op that makes you believe the op is seeing a 'benefit' from his choice?


I think its wrong, but not hurtful
like an affair that is never found out,, didnt 'hurt' anyone, but was not the right thing either

The author of the OP enjoys dating who he dates. Otherwise, he wouldn't be dating them. Thus, the author is getting a benefit.

Your affair analogy doesn't work in this case because an affair involves a violation of trust and (usually) vows. An affair is indeed hurtful. It harms the institution of marriage.

What the author of the OP is doing isn't hurting anyone, and it is benefiting the author, who appears to be an African-American.
Are you telling us that an act of racism is wrong even if it benefits an African-American?

I can relate, a 'preference' is not a mandate

saying I prefer to date black men, is not the same as saying I will ONLY Date black man

example. I prefer to date tall men. I have a preference for tall men. However, I do not DISCRIMINATE against short men merely because they are short. It is entirely an option to me to date a man who is short, but has enough other attributes that I am attracted to to make his height insignificant in comparison

those who are open to dating other races, with that in mind, but who have a 'preference' for certain races (either because of an assumption that they will automatically have more in common or because of the assumption that they will automatically get a certain type of behavior or values from those persons) is not hateful, so much as ignorant as 'race' really has no value when it comes to individual one on one relationships

those who say I 'dont date',,,<whatever race here> are racist, because they close their mind off to even considering a whole group of people merely because of their ancestry which they have no control over

I don't always date within my race, but I am not into guys who make race a big deal. Often on here, I get emails from guys starting off by asking "do you date _______ men?" I find it a turn off, as I prefer to get to know someone a bit to see if I'd want to date them than base it on race.

The only racism that I see here is the claim that a man is harming his family by refusing to date someone who is racially like him.

racism is simply a belief that a trait or characteristic is attributable to ones race....

,,so this is still a bit of a stretch in defining something as racist,,,

Previously, you wrote, "same race exclusion harms the institution of 'family'", implying that if a man refuses to date woman who is racially like him, then he is harming his family.

Well, race and family are two different things.

Yes, it is racism to claim that a person is a member of your family if that person is racially like you. The concept of "race=family" is a false concept promoted by racists.