I like what I like so what's the big deal

Here it is called "baiting".

Hating you say..... Yea I get that a lot how ironic

so ur tryna tell me u wouldn't date Beyonce Knowles?

'wrong' is strong

prejudice is more accurate

prejudging whether someone is dateworthy based on nothing but race,,well, by definition,,,thats racist,,,

but not all racism is as clearly 'wrong' as others

There's nothing wrong with that.

I prefer white women also.

favorite lines from a movie (paraphrased)

Kenya: I dont date white men. ITs not a prejudice, its just a preference.

Brian: Yes. Your preference to be prejudiced.

A non-white woman engaging in anti-white racial prejudice?
No way!

oh,, 'dating preferences' are pretty widespread racially, MOST people stay within 'their own'


but the line is from one of my favorite movies with Sanaa Lathan and Simon Baker,,,,I think its called Something New

Isn't that, as your movie quote says, an act of racial prejudice?

sometimes,, when its a conscious choice

other times, its just who people happen to be around most and fall for,,

Getting back to the OP, if the author of the OP is engaging in racism because he won't date a black woman, then is it an act of racism if a black woman decides not to date a white man because he is white?

Is it an act of racism if a black woman criticizes a black man because he is dating a white woman?

Is it an act of racism for a black woman to be seeking the "Ideal Black Male"?

yes

depends, if it is merely a case of the black woman criticizing the womans race, and not something about the man,,,,yes

and
yes


strictly semantically, anytime a humans race is used for exclusion,,,its racism

and it works both ways, I have known white men who only date black women too,,,,

So, is all racism wrong, or only when you don't like it?

few things are absolute

so, no, racism is not an absolute 'wrong' in every situation

Ill leave that judgment call up to others,,,

It is an act of hypocrisy for a person to complain about racism on one occasion and then later on say that racism isn't an absolute wrong. Such a person is using a self-serving double standard.

i always thought it was better to be open an honest about what you want that way they cant say you hid what you wanted to find in a woman.

I also complain about killing, yet killing is not always wrong. Nothing hypocritical about it.

There is racism designed to hurt, to oppress, to suppress, to belittle. Such as job discrimination or educational segregation,,etc,,

there is also , technically, racism designed to elevate those who are already oppressed or suppress or belittled

such as an organization designed to focus on a racial demographic that is at a disadvantage in the region.


there is racism that is totally non malicious and sub conscious, like someone who has from birth only seen one race of people in their home or neighborhood and has only ever seen monoracial relationship and therefore leans towards seeking out their own race.


so, no, there is no double standard,, there are just many scenarios that race may come into play and be considered, some of which are 'wrong' and bigoted and some which arent.

I think honesty is best to.The only way to know how someone feels ( or why they feel it) is to ask them.

I too didnt date white guys until I was much older. It was never a conscious thought i had that caused me to actually MANDATE that the guy cant be white. I just never had the occasion or considered it. Therefore, when asked, I was honest to say 'I dont date white guys',,,,that didnt mean I wouldnt date them, which later I did, it just meant my experiences hadnt really pointed me in that direction at that point in my life.

And just who gets to decide which acts of racism are wrong and which aren't wrong?

Bigotry is bigotry whether it be pro-white bigotry or pro-black bigotry.