Topic: Significant others and pets
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Wed 12/12/12 01:04 PM


Would you give up a pet if your significant other is allergic to it?

If you're allergic to animals, would you ask your significant other to give up their pet?



Do you mean a new relationship or an exisiting one?


Well, I've never been in a relationship with someone who was not allergic to my cats, then all of the sudden became allergic well into the relationship. But, who knows. Maybe it could happen somehow?

BettyB's photo
Wed 12/12/12 01:12 PM


Would you give up a pet if your significant other is allergic to it?

If you're allergic to animals, would you ask your significant other to give up their pet?



Do you mean a new relationship or an exisiting one?

for myself I was only talking about starting a new realtionship. IF osomebdy became allergic after then all other options would have to be explored .

HeadnHeart's photo
Wed 12/12/12 01:15 PM

It's a tough one, because some people form such strong bonds with their pet where the love is unconditional. If both parties were truly fond of each other, i would imagine a compromise could be found to accomodate both the sig other and the beloved pet.


Oh look, someone who may be willing to compromise. Nice.

I appreciate that type of thinking...and would always do my best to accommodate and create a solution for those who at least try to compromise as well.


So, If I may put the shoe on the other foot.

If I have a Snake, Rat, Lizard, as my beloved pet and sleep with it loose in the room or on the bed.
Would those who are extremely attached to their own pets be willing to try that out?


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Wed 12/12/12 01:17 PM


It's a tough one, because some people form such strong bonds with their pet where the love is unconditional. If both parties were truly fond of each other, i would imagine a compromise could be found to accomodate both the sig other and the beloved pet.


Oh look, someone who may be willing to compromise. Nice.

I appreciate that type of thinking...and would always do my best to accommodate and create a solution for those who at least try to compromise as well.


So, If I may put the shoe on the other foot.

If I have a Snake, Rat, Lizard, as my beloved pet and sleep with it loose in the room or on the bed.
Would those who are extremely attached to their own pets be willing to try that out?




I thought you said previously that you don't sleep with pets in the bedroom? Having a change of heart now? laugh

HeadnHeart's photo
Wed 12/12/12 01:24 PM



It's a tough one, because some people form such strong bonds with their pet where the love is unconditional. If both parties were truly fond of each other, i would imagine a compromise could be found to accomodate both the sig other and the beloved pet.


Oh look, someone who may be willing to compromise. Nice.

I appreciate that type of thinking...and would always do my best to accommodate and create a solution for those who at least try to compromise as well.


So, If I may put the shoe on the other foot.

If I have a Snake, Rat, Lizard, as my beloved pet and sleep with it loose in the room or on the bed.
Would those who are extremely attached to their own pets be willing to try that out?




I thought you said previously that you don't sleep with pets in the bedroom? Having a change of heart now? laugh


NOPE. frustrated

It says - IF I may put the shoe on the OTHER foot. Then the next sentence started with IF....

No change, just a posed question to turn the tables a bit.

I have had many pets, and I have also had to get rid of one for good reason.

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Wed 12/12/12 01:26 PM
Ah, ok.

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Wed 12/12/12 01:35 PM
Edited by HeadnHeart on Wed 12/12/12 01:36 PM
The situation is a little irrelevant to me. It is the thinking and compromise, which interests me most.

Kinda how Leigh, said she may be willing to "give up" her pet for ManO,
but in turn, He said, that he would never ask that. (Not word for word*)

I think that is awesome.

Its the willingness that makes it work out, in the long run.

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Wed 12/12/12 01:35 PM


It's a tough one, because some people form such strong bonds with their pet where the love is unconditional. If both parties were truly fond of each other, i would imagine a compromise could be found to accomodate both the sig other and the beloved pet.


Oh look, someone who may be willing to compromise. Nice.

I appreciate that type of thinking...and would always do my best to accommodate and create a solution for those who at least try to compromise as well.


So, If I may put the shoe on the other foot.

If I have a Snake, Rat, Lizard, as my beloved pet and sleep with it loose in the room or on the bed.
Would those who are extremely attached to their own pets be willing to try that out?




The funny thing is I have had all three pet types over time. Snakes are BORING but the other two are not. I have been woke up by a cold lizard trying to crawl in bed with me to warm up. Likewise I have been awakened by a pet rat here or there. Most uninitiated people will jump out of their skin when something like that happens. imagine having a date over and things get all hot and heavy and somewhere in the afterglow of the moment a cranky lizard (say about four to five, maybe six foot long) drags itself into the bed looking for a warm place to sleep. The scream will deafen you! Bear in mind my lizard was a wild caught Monitor I got at three foot long and I had to train it to not bite which when he mellowed out became really social. That still didn't prevent a girl I was seeing at the time from freaking completely out on me. If anything she woke up my neighbors, room mates, and startled and pissed off my lizard who puffed up and hissed a lot after that until things calmed down with her deciding to go home. Sometimes pets will rub people the wrong way. And if that is the case the relationship may not work out as both of you would hope.

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Wed 12/12/12 01:39 PM

The situation is a little irrelevant to me. It is the thinking and compromise, which interests me most.

Kinda how Leigh, said she may be willing to "give up" her pet for ManO,
but in turn, He said, that he would never ask that. (Not word for word*)

I think that is awesome.

Its the willingness that makes it work out, in the long run.


Giving up the pet isn't really working it out, though. But, again, I've never been in this situation. No one I've dated has ever had an issue with my pets. I've never had an issue with pets of those I've dated. I've also never had an issue with someone insisting the pets stay in a room other than the one they're in.

But, if the willingness to give up a pet is what attracts you, then hopefully anyone you date will feel the same!

HeadnHeart's photo
Wed 12/12/12 01:44 PM


The situation is a little irrelevant to me. It is the thinking and compromise, which interests me most.

Kinda how Leigh, said she may be willing to "give up" her pet for ManO,
but in turn, He said, that he would never ask that. (Not word for word*)

I think that is awesome.

Its the willingness that makes it work out, in the long run.


Giving up the pet isn't really working it out, though. But, again, I've never been in this situation. No one I've dated has ever had an issue with my pets. I've never had an issue with pets of those I've dated. I've also never had an issue with someone insisting the pets stay in a room other than the one they're in.

But, if the willingness to give up a pet is what attracts you, then hopefully anyone you date will feel the same!


No, no, noooooo.

Not that giving up the pet, was the answer, but the willingness to compromise somehow...

So the willingness to compromise, is what plays the larger part, in attraction for me. Yes.

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Wed 12/12/12 01:46 PM
Edited by Kahurangi on Wed 12/12/12 01:57 PM


It's a tough one, because some people form such strong bonds with their pet where the love is unconditional. If both parties were truly fond of each other, i would imagine a compromise could be found to accomodate both the sig other and the beloved pet.


Oh look, someone who may be willing to compromise. Nice.

I appreciate that type of thinking...and would always do my best to accommodate and create a solution for those who at least try to compromise as well.


So, If I may put the shoe on the other foot.

If I have a Snake, Rat, Lizard, as my beloved pet and sleep with it loose in the room or on the bed.
Would those who are extremely attached to their own pets be willing to try that out?




Well i forsee the lizard looking somewhat bemused at the snake eyeballing the rat as lunch...so that scenario pretty much takes care of itself i would say.

Who sleeps with a snake, rat & lizard anyway? spock

Compromise would be sleepover at my place...and not yours. Bonus for you though...cos that means breakfast in bed without the snake, rat or lizard vying for the bacon. ;-)

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Wed 12/12/12 01:58 PM

she asked about significant others ..not babies.And At my age babies aren,t something I need to worry about.


you already indicated that to give up a pet would be selfish ..which is an inication that you wouldn't care if your significate other was allergic and became sick around your pet .....I was just wondering would you do the same to a baby

HeadnHeart's photo
Wed 12/12/12 02:04 PM



It's a tough one, because some people form such strong bonds with their pet where the love is unconditional. If both parties were truly fond of each other, i would imagine a compromise could be found to accomodate both the sig other and the beloved pet.


Oh look, someone who may be willing to compromise. Nice.

I appreciate that type of thinking...and would always do my best to accommodate and create a solution for those who at least try to compromise as well.


So, If I may put the shoe on the other foot.

If I have a Snake, Rat, Lizard, as my beloved pet and sleep with it loose in the room or on the bed.
Would those who are extremely attached to their own pets be willing to try that out?




Well i forsee the lizard looking somewhat bemused at the snake eyeballing the rat as lunch...so that scenario pretty much takes care of itself i would say.

Who sleeps with a snake, rat & lizard anyway? spock


Ha...Quite amused with your insight...:smile:

But if it were a small non-venomous snake and a giant vietnamese rat. The tables could be turned, plus the lizard may become lunch as well.

It does look as if Andy does...

Kahurangi's photo
Wed 12/12/12 02:11 PM




It's a tough one, because some people form such strong bonds with their pet where the love is unconditional. If both parties were truly fond of each other, i would imagine a compromise could be found to accomodate both the sig other and the beloved pet.


Oh look, someone who may be willing to compromise. Nice.

I appreciate that type of thinking...and would always do my best to accommodate and create a solution for those who at least try to compromise as well.


So, If I may put the shoe on the other foot.

If I have a Snake, Rat, Lizard, as my beloved pet and sleep with it loose in the room or on the bed.
Would those who are extremely attached to their own pets be willing to try that out?




Well i forsee the lizard looking somewhat bemused at the snake eyeballing the rat as lunch...so that scenario pretty much takes care of itself i would say.

Who sleeps with a snake, rat & lizard anyway? spock


Ha...Quite amused with your insight...:smile:

But if it were a small non-venomous snake and a giant vietnamese rat. The tables could be turned, plus the lizard may become lunch as well.

It does look as if Andy does...


Wellll...Andy then has to decide betwixt staying home with the reptiles and rodents....or a sleepover at the GF's place.

Geeez...that's a hard one innit? ;-)

BettyB's photo
Wed 12/12/12 02:11 PM


she asked about significant others ..not babies.And At my age babies aren't something I need to worry about.


you already indicated that to give up a pet would be selfish ..which is an indication that you wouldn't care if your significant other was allergic and became sick around your pet .....I was just wondering would you do the same to a baby

Oh no..sorry that's not what I meant. When I said giving up a pet for selfish reasons I meant because they no long suited you or became an inconvenience in your life. I Personally have known too many people who view their pets as disposable. Something or someone better comes along so bye bye pet.
If somebody I was involved with became ill after we were together that would not be a selfish reason but rather a medical issue, so options would have to be considered. However I would not start a reationship with someone that wanted me to give up my pets.

HeadnHeart's photo
Wed 12/12/12 02:25 PM





It's a tough one, because some people form such strong bonds with their pet where the love is unconditional. If both parties were truly fond of each other, i would imagine a compromise could be found to accomodate both the sig other and the beloved pet.


Oh look, someone who may be willing to compromise. Nice.

I appreciate that type of thinking...and would always do my best to accommodate and create a solution for those who at least try to compromise as well.


So, If I may put the shoe on the other foot.

If I have a Snake, Rat, Lizard, as my beloved pet and sleep with it loose in the room or on the bed.
Would those who are extremely attached to their own pets be willing to try that out?




Well i forsee the lizard looking somewhat bemused at the snake eyeballing the rat as lunch...so that scenario pretty much takes care of itself i would say.

Who sleeps with a snake, rat & lizard anyway? spock


Ha...Quite amused with your insight...:smile:

But if it were a small non-venomous snake and a giant vietnamese rat. The tables could be turned, plus the lizard may become lunch as well.

It does look as if Andy does...


Wellll...Andy then has to decide betwixt staying home with the reptiles and rodents....or a sleepover at the GF's place.

Geeez...that's a hard one innit? ;-)


Well, you had me at bacon...flowerforyou

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Wed 12/12/12 02:37 PM



The situation is a little irrelevant to me. It is the thinking and compromise, which interests me most.

Kinda how Leigh, said she may be willing to "give up" her pet for ManO,
but in turn, He said, that he would never ask that. (Not word for word*)

I think that is awesome.

Its the willingness that makes it work out, in the long run.


Giving up the pet isn't really working it out, though. But, again, I've never been in this situation. No one I've dated has ever had an issue with my pets. I've never had an issue with pets of those I've dated. I've also never had an issue with someone insisting the pets stay in a room other than the one they're in.

But, if the willingness to give up a pet is what attracts you, then hopefully anyone you date will feel the same!


No, no, noooooo.

Not that giving up the pet, was the answer, but the willingness to compromise somehow...

So the willingness to compromise, is what plays the larger part, in attraction for me. Yes.



Right. I would hope both people would be willing to compromise in some way if they wanted to continue dating. :smile:

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Wed 12/12/12 03:27 PM
yawn

HeadnHeart's photo
Wed 12/12/12 03:49 PM

yawn


SIr, can you please go and yawn in the other room, You may wake the cat...laugh

Kahurangi's photo
Wed 12/12/12 03:53 PM


yawn


SIr, can you please go and yawn in the other room, You may wake the cat...laugh


Shux...i thought he was catching flies.