Help me understand that mentality? If you are a "big" woman and are excluding men that are overweight how can you even say that without being in shape yourself?? I prefer thick woman myself but don't close my mind to all sizes.. what do you think?

I think people like what they like and there's not much you can do about it. I'm not exactly Elizabeth Taylor myself, but I shy away from ugly men. Fair? No. Common? You bet.

For the same reason Groucho Marx would 'not
join any Country Club that would have
him as a Member.'

Low self-esteem.

Going for a thinner man gives her a 50/50 chance of having an average-sized kid. Duh. Lol.

A woman being a hypocrite?

Same here. I am fat, ugly, short, old and poor, and yet I like willowy, tall women, with billowing blonde hair or falling platinum blondes. I like to meet them on their way down as they fall, they are easier to bag them that way than when they are shooting up. I mean like a star!! A shooting star!!

Wait... that does not clarify anything, if I have any idea what goes on in Hollywood parties.

So forget the simile.

All I am trying to say is that I am fat, ugly and goonish, and finally I understand Bravalady, why she has historically been turning me down (we are in our fifties, which is like a "history" lesson to a lot of the young these days) and it is not at all with bitterness, but with resigned understanging and giving a final sigh of much-awaited cutting of tension that I now come to accept the inevitable that I would have handled the same way as she is doing, if I were her and she were me, and vice versa.

I mean to say that it's not angering me that she finally let me know, here, albeit in a covert way, why she can't accept my advances. (These are not royalty advances like a publisher pays to its contracted writer.) It is rather answering a question that has been bothering me, and now that I know the answer, I can relax.

Truth is knowledge, which can hurt, but it always liberates. Whether it berates or not, it always does it with a li.

Well, there you have it, OP. What's goose for one lover, is gander for the other. One woman's treasure is another woman's trash, and same for men; plus vice versa.

She should date the Invisible Man, that's her only hope for the kids to have their body mass index in the normal range.

For all anyone knows, she already might be.

That's mean but funny

Its called preferences. On the flip side of the coin; I have met lots of very overweight men that passed me by because of my weight. Such is life.

Interesting insights:

Plain physical attraction.

Low self esteem.

Breeding qualities.

hypocrites .

Beautiful people can be ugly inside. Ugly people can be beautiful inside... Beauty is beyond physical :)

And like a good neighbor, State Farm is there.....with a chick who's into big dudes!

Being older now I have learned to go after who a person really is than what her physical attributes are, all women are beautiful in their own way.

Interesting thoughts concerning us fluffy guys. I've made it to my 50's 5'6'' lot of extra pounds from living a good life. I'm short, chubby. I don't have washboard abs. I don't have a motorcycle. Short legs prevent me from owning one. I do have a pickup and I love to travel but would prefer to have a traveling companion for long drives a cross country. You know sight seeing and enjoying the wonders of our country. But I know if they can not see what's on the inside, then why waste the time getting to know them.

I think it is a matter of preference.

I have always been most easily attracted to a big burly guy with a little more meat on his frame than not. And that was from the early days when I was a skinny little gal, to being built like a stairway to heaven and couldn't fight the fellas off with a stick, to the curvy gray mare I am now. And probably will be when I am an ole bag of bones like most of my mature female relatives. Not the be all/end all of attraction but that is what will turn my head first and the guy that has that in his favor just doesn't have the uphill climb a lean package of TNT might have. Here in Cali the blonde tan athletic hard bodies are a dime a dozen and don't do a thing for me while some of the gals drop their jaw everytime it walks by.

I think a lot of attraction is just genetic and if a guy has a certain chemistry, vibe, look they have way better chances with females that are attracted to that combination.

Not anything to take personally. Actually it is good not all women like the same thing. Then things would get really crazy for sure.

Almost everything in life is about preference.

I am a big woman and I won't go out with a man who IMO is too big in the same way, I won't go out with a guy who is (again IMO) too slim.

Goldilocks wanted it just right and so do I

Some men will chose not to go out with me because of the colour of my skin, my weight, the fact that I have children, live in the UK...the list is endless. Don't get caught up on the small stuff.

And it is all small stuff if you just keep it light and friendly.

Women generally don't want whiners or crybaby's any more than men do.

But if you can spiff up a bit, crack a joke, flash a great smile, have the idea that the world is your oyster to be shared you are half way home.

99% of a guy setting home alone on his duff is he just didn't plan to do anything else and ask someone to join him until the last minute.

Everyone has things that they like. I prefer larger men, its not that i dont like smaller men, its just that i am physically attracted to bigger boys. Thats just me

Maybe they have safety issues? I knew a gal whom would only date guys that were her height or shorter because she had issues with abuse in her past. So you never will actually know why unless you ask the question to a person directly.

Because size matters, duh, everyone knows that!lol



Seriously, like was stated above, it's all personal preference. I've been out and seen big women with skinny men, tall women with short men,etc.. Come to think of it though, I don't see as many nicely built men with big women though? Hmmmm

It's hard to say. I'm a very short, round girl who's dated guys who are over 6 ft and skinny as a rail, a medium height stocky guy with huge muscles, and a little fella with differing weights, lol. What did they have in common? They were good guys. Things didn't work out, but they were good people.

I think some people definitely have preferences and biases. It's a shame, because sometimes they miss out on really good people that way. I've seen many men on these sites who are chubby looking for slim women.

I just don't care, just more interested in the person, I guess.