Firstly, I don't see anything less than feminine about your build. You appear to have a very attractive and feminine hip to waist ratio, (just about 1 to 0.7). But I gotta tell ya, the zombie thing ain't doing it me.

Secondly, I know of a couple that have been married for about 25 years now. The wife has a similar build to you and is absolutely the more dominant of the pair. But, the man is far from a wuss. He served in the military, worked as a police officer and now owns a private security company and does body guard work for some very famous people when they come to Dallas. In short, he's a bad azz.

What you need to ask yourself is what type of man are you attracted to? Do you despise shy guys? Many women do. Sny men are often seen as weak. These are often women that are fighting their own natural, submissive nature. These women want to be strong, but also deeply desire a stronger man that they can respect.

Women like this sometimes challenge a man's masculinity. It's almost as if they get in his face and say "you think you're a better man than me? Prove it!" The most confident men will realize they have nothing to prove and just move on. But, submissive men will often love it.

I don't mean to say you should change who you are. I'm saying you may want to really think about the kind of man you want and the type of bait you're using to attract him.

navygirl...You seem like a "go-getter" and a strong and smart and self-reliant woman..And it sounds like you can be very caring and even "nurturing" too...You have so much "going" for you!..It's easy to lump all men (together) in the same "pot" based on what we've experienced in life "so far.".. And I do believe that we all get programmed in varying degrees. So our choices may be limited if we're looking for a non-traditional man...But I believe there are men like this "out there!" I married one of them. And through my life I've encountered some other men like this too...I know it's hard to believe that things will ever be different when we've been "burned" and disappointed over and over again...I've felt this way...And it's fine if you decide to just stay by yourself. But don't "shortchange" yourself just because you got involved with men who weren't a "good match" for you in the past! Okay?...I "kissed" a lot of "frogs" and went through tons of "bad matches" before I found the "right match!"

navygirl...You seem like a "go-getter" and a strong and smart and self-reliant woman..And it sounds like you can be very caring and even "nurturing" too...You have so much "going" for you!..It's easy to lump all men (together) in the same "pot" based on what we've experienced in life "so far.".. And I do believe that we all get programmed in varying degrees. So our choices may be limited if we're looking for a non-traditional man...But I believe there are men like this "out there!" I married one of them. And through my life I've encountered some other men like this too...I know it's hard to believe that things will ever be different when we've been "burned" and disappointed over and over again...I've felt this way...And it's fine if you decide to just stay by yourself. But don't "shortchange" yourself just because you got involved with men who weren't a "good match" for you in the past! Okay?...I "kissed" a lot of "frogs" and went through tons of "bad matches" before I found the "right match!"

navygirl...I know I wasn't always a "perfect angel" or "saint" in my past relationships. I made mistakes. And the men I got involved with made mistakes too...But I tend to look back and evaluate all of it by how well we "matched-up!" (Or didn't "match-up" very well!)...I tried to learn from my "wrong choices" in the past...And this gave me a sense of confidence that I could make "better choices" in the future...I developed sort of a "practice makes perfect" type of philosophy...So what if I ended-up with the "wrong men" in the past? I didn't have to declare myself incompetent and a total "failure." Or a "reject" or unlovable etc...I took time out to "regroup" and "rethink" the "script" I'd been playing out with men...I worked hard to change my "script" so I'd attract different type of men in the future.. Doing this gave me a sense of "power" and confidence that spread to other areas of my life too. (Which was nice!)

navygirl...There's a push to put everyone and everything into neat little categories...Supposedly this creates "order." And a sense of "uniformity."...As in: This is the "right way" to do things and the "right way" to "be" and "behave" according to the definition (and specifications) of your gender and species etc...Anything else is considered "deviant" and even "suspect!"...Those who refuse to "fall in line" pose problems for society because their behavior can't be "predicted." Or precisely "defined."...How do you feel about it? It's no fun to be a "clone!" Or confined to a "set role" in life!

navygirl...Traditional marriages are based on the notion that 2 "halves" come together to make a "whole." Don't you think?...The husband has been trained and programmed to take on certain "duties" and wives are programmed and trained to take on other "duties."...I've had friends who complained that their husbands never cooked. (Or rarely cooked.)...But if their husbands showed interest in cooking this could lead to conflicts because the women consider the kitchen their "domain" and "territory."...Husbands have their "domains" too. Everyone wraps their identity around their "assigned duties" and "domains." Don't you think...And it's not always easy to "cross-over" and step into someone else's "territory" or "domain."...Most things are "open" and "up for grabs" in non-traditional relationships. (Which is nice!) The emphasis is on "growth" and "expansion." Everyone takes on new "jobs" and challenges all the time. And "crossing-over" is allowed and even encouraged!

roll play is just another way of experimenting in the taboo and streaching your bioundries wouldn't it be boreing to have the same sex every night for the rest of your life?

I don't think this type of role playing is what is meant on this thread; its the gender role playing.

It's not about "playing" at all. We're talking relationships and how people live together. Who's in charge and when?

It's my view that good relationships are like dancing, one leads, the other follows.