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I have a 6 pack of Yoo-Hoo. The drink of champions.

So your being true to yourself then!!

????? half-elves are freaking pansies...

sure they are good at floral arrangements and picking out lube....other than that...they are useless. I far and away prefer choaotic neutral halfling battle hookers....they are far more useful than you may think.

(paladins are easy victims too.....so don't embarrass yourself)

First choice DM...28 years....I am a dork god.

Well TexasScoundrel, I admire your courage at answering the question. I am impressed, because it seems men are just not interested in teaching others what male leadership is or sharing their experience of it to date.

My experience? Wow, I could write a book about it. Here's the condenced version.

My woman and I disagree about something. For the sake of peace, I bend to her will. But, once she discovers she can bully me into getting her way, we start down the slippery slope of her losing respect for me. With constant nagging and complaining she's able to take away my manhood. Then she sees me as nothing more than a wuss that just takes up space in her home. And she's right.

It took me many long term relationships to see this pattern. Now that it's clear, I have a better handle on things. Yes, my current woman gets angry with me. But, I no longer allow her to push me around by throwing fits. It's more stressful now, but I'm respected. I've learned that a man MUST set boundaries and put his foot down once in a while. His woman may not like it at the time, but she'll love and respect him for it over the long term.

I was thinking about my last post and I'd like to change one thing. The women in my life didn't take my manhood from me. I gave it to them. It was my power and I gave it away every time I allowed myself to be manipulated by their emotional outbursts.

Submission from either side has never been my thing. I like a man who trusts and respects me to have his back and being able to do the reverse. I don't want a wimp without an opinion, can't make a decsion, or doesn't want to be happy that needs or allows himself to be lead around by the "nose".

I can easily relax, and even bend over backwards to be accomodateing to someone who does not demand or bully me into submission, but clearly can communicate his desires and enjoys it being my gift.

Thank you for sharing :-) Truth is awesome.

I do like a cute lil french maid outfit....and a wee accent.....

Oh.....

Wait........

That ain't the topic..........

Nevermind!!!!!!!



but on topic.....a submissive woman is ok sometimes.....
but ther are times that I enjoy a woman to be the agressor as well.

Life needs a.....

Balance!!!!

Does it go both ways, though? Does she also get to set boundaries and put her foot down once in a while?

Role-playing is only good with whipped cream and handcuffs and mischievous grin.

Wait what?

H3ll yes! In my marraige I found I was the moral backbone of the marraige and there were things that were just not acceptable and I would not 'shove these issues under the carpet'

Of course, that's the point I've been trying to make all along. Each person should submit to the other when one is more knowledgeable about the situation.

If, for example, one is better with math and numbers that person would likely do better being in charge of the joint checking account and decide when large items should be purchased.

We all have talents and weaknesses. Allow the strength of one to support the weakness of the other and everything will run more smoothly.

Sounds simply doesn't it?

Compromise is a good thing. And yes, if someone is better at something, such as math then perhaps they can be in charge of the budget. Though, most banks now have online banking which makes it very simple for anyone to follow. So, in that case, unless you're doing it by hand, it doesn't really matter. And both should have a say when large items should be bought.

Not sure what this has to do with role playing, though. And I am still curious about what the OP thinks about a question I asked earlier. Does she think that a woman who is submissive in the bedroom (where role playing is likely to come into play) does that mean she's weak?

This thread wasn't about bedroom roll playing. It was about gender rolls in relationships.

What I'm talking about isn't compromise. I don't think compromise ever works out long term in personal relationships. In fact, it's my feeling that the more compromising there is, the more likely it is you're with the wrong person.

I said before that equal partners simply doesn't work out in the real world. The trouble is when the partners cannot agree. If one is accepted in the dominate roll that person has the final word.

This dominate person may change from one partner to the other depending on the circumstances. Each giving according to their ability and accepting according to their need.

Moreover, being submissive isn't the same as being weak (even though most women think it is).

Lol Singmesweet. Bedroom etiquette has zero to do with my 'role playing' questions. I dont have a problem with submitting, I just think it is more like two oxen harnessed together pulling a plough. The oxen do however need to be going in the same direction

If it's about gender roles, rather than "role playing," then I misread the first post.

I don't agree that compromise doesn't work. I also don't agree that one partner has to be submissive and one has to be dominant. But, we'll just have to agree to disagree :).

I guess the term "role playing" is what threw me off, as that to me seems to say that you're talking about playing a different role than you usually would.

I haven't payed attention to the posts here for a few years much...but this thread reminded me why I love this sites members over any others online. After reading this thread in it's entirety, the (()Intelligence))) here is astounding & inspiring...thankyou justsayhi-mingel2 members!!! For mwany years of profound enjoyment & inspiration!

wicked

Did you know the ox on the left is the lead ox? When animals are used in teams a great deal of thought goes into where each one is placed. This is also true of dog sled teams.