Does it work with you when you have someone who just wont give up but continues the pursuit in order to get you to concede? It doesnt work with me, but I do admire the determination.

it doesn't work.
i just get angry.

Nope, it doesn't work with me either. I had to deal with a guy that kept after me when I told him I wasn't interested. I laid down the law and told him to stop bothering me or I would get a restraining order against him. It seemed to have worked.

They do exist.
I tell them, friendship only is available.
Still they persist.
Then get mad when you tell them you really
have no interest.

On the one hand, perspicacity is admirable.
On the other hand, it's never going to happen.

I don't know the answer as I have not figured
it out myself yet :-)

admire a stalker? don't think so.
stalker or a very young man,,,

Persistence is admirable when it involves something possible, it isn't really persistence if there isn't anything possible...That's just naivety.

Persistence brought us here, persistence has freed people, persistence had led people...Why frown on it?

lol, he is not a stalker. We are friends, but have different religious beliefs. I think he is wonderful.

Soufie, I cant figure out why they continue either. No means no. I am beginning to wonder if most men can do friendship with out an ulterior motive? No offense intended men. It has just been my personal experience.

I do admire the determination.
Like you said .Someone pushy not
sincere doesnt work for me either.

Blessings ƸӁƷ Harmony

We can do friendship, well some of us can but it is hard when you admire the woman. I think I will just stalk everyone. Muahahhaha!

Crossing lines is never fun.

Stalking is creepy and really unsettling for a woman.

I think sometimes the guys don't realize they are stalking a woman, just tell them so and see if they stop.

Been there, done that. I guess there can be no friendship because they have an obvious agenda :-(

That is tough but sometimes you haveta do what you gotta do. If they won't stop stalking it is best probably to cut off all communications and other things you can think of.

im a old fart oops i mean old stalker lol

In all honesty, I will be persistent all the way until the writing on the wall says otherwise. I know it is a character flaw of mine of sorts, but if she gives me the sign she isn't interested, I will walk away without even looking back. She knows how to get ahold of me if she is interested.

I hear that...but I think you dug too deep too soon. They're not up to putting the spoon down and grabbing a hold of that spade ;-)

you know ladywind if you agree or not the fact of the matter is god made woman and man to be together and not to be just strictly friends. so men and women are meant to desire each other, thats lifes plan

I can be friends with people but if I get some wanker that just can't get no means no I don't play at all.

Show up in my life uninvited and you are likely to be faceing the business end of major "deadly force".

Had a guy that was stone crazy go after me, held me hostage in my work office, when my kids were young and that scared the heck out of me. I will never go through that nightmare again. The court system is a joke. Would never waste my time that way again.

Yea I get that some guys are just lonesome and talk trash that doesn't bother me but the operative part of the word persistence gets to be pest I am not going to be hesitent at all useing a baseball bat to swat a fly. lol They will boohoo like a scalded dog but you yank their phone service for drunk dialing, have their car towed for harrassing you, and or make them spend a few days in jail on a tresspass or no contact beef they wise up real fast.

With the technology available women can defend themselves a lot better now days. I would never have a computer without a good security program, a house with out security, and a couple bucks of prevention is worth a car load of cure checking out people coming into your life. Pretty hard to argue with writen proof and pictures when you get in front of a judge. Too many people think something will go away and don't bother to document stuff so you can "nip it in the bud". Stalking requires "a pattern" but most of these wankers are just dumb enough to do it or have their friends do it.

Sad part is it is not just the guys that can't take no for an answer now days. Before some of you fellas start down the pursuit path you might want to do your homework before you fork over a phone number ect.. And poking something you aren't serious about has serious consequences when you get these gals that are half a bubble off. They have jobs and can afford to enlist friends and a shister lawyer to make your life a living hell when they want to. Once the acqusations are out there false or not your reputation is shot. Can't get any play on line you may want to google yourself and see what info is out there on "you". Right or wrong you live with it. You think dumbarse screen names, old rants on the old ex are ever forgotten you are kidding yourself.

Judges don't like that crapola so you think they are going to be sympathetic your dreaming. Chose carefully when you pick your own poison it can be bitter indeed.