Hope this is the right place to put this topic!...I'd like to start a discussion about the vibration of anger and the "warrior mentality." (And how it affects our soul and spirit!)...I get the feeling that some people hold-on to their anger because it makes them feel "powerful" and even "invincible" or "super human" or ??? Don't you think?

Nope.

Honestly I think those that hold on to anger, don't know how to deal with it in order to let it go..

When people hold on to anger if effects many aspects of their life.

Myself I try to deal with it and let it go....

I think anger is destructive!Mostly to the one who holds on to it.
We all get angery,but what we chose to do with the anger,is all up to you.

Anger is wen ppl are out of control n a true warrior mentality is of someone who is deadly calm where theycan make better decisions n get the best results they need espeacially in fights n martial arts my teacher used to tell me theres to types of fighters aggressive thrue anger free flow with calm if u let the anger emtion take obver ur fighting n technique ul end up hurting urself where as if ur deadly calm u can effortlessly mke the correct decisions on the most efficient nd effective strategy etc so I agree some ppl feel like they are invincible wen angry but wen some ppl get angry they become calm n very silent

Me too Kristi

Anger is an emotion that is more positive than depression and hopelessness.

It is the emotion that one will pass through in rising to better emotions.

A person who is deeply depressed and feeling hopeless can rise out of that depression with anger and from there move up the latter to more self empowering emotions.

If you want to get rid of anger, make sure you move upwards on the ladder of emotion rather than downwards to depression, hopelessness and despair.

Honestly, my friends say I have the highest tolerance level out of almost everyone they know. Even when I am angry, I usually bite my tongue, but that is because I was always taught if I had nothing nice to say don't say anything at all. It normally works to my advantage because when I am relaxed and in my element, I am a very quiet person, so it is hard to tell when I am angry or just relaxed.

I prefer.....

Laughter........

It works better for me!!!!

Thanks to you (and everyone) for your great responses. I'm "new" here and probably a little shy...I agree with what you wrote about how anger can help people climb out of depression. What emotions are right "above" anger on the ladder? (Just curious.)...Why do you think some people "stop" and "stick" with anger? Do you think they fear being vulnerable again and getting hurt? (As they were hurt in the past.)...Someone latched on to me on another forum and wanted to be friends. Little by little I realized that my new friend was very angry. (And even vindictive at times.)..She seemed upset with me (a lot) at the end because I didn't want to be angry and "mad at the world" all the time...In her mind she was the "smart one" and she viewed me as pretty stupid and naive etc..Maybe she wanted to "protect me" by trying to get me to "wise-up!" After awhile things got pretty negative and the relationship just didn't feel "healthy" anymore...Anyway I'm just trying to put things in perspective now. What do I need to learn from this experience? Sorrry this is so long!

Great responses. As others already pointed out with different words, I too think anger itself is not a negative emotion. It only impacts our lives negatively when we us it against us and direct it to others instead of working with it to our advantage. Anger itself can be put to good use. Anger can be an inspiration to make changes in our own lives but only if we chose to work with it inwardly by focusing on ourselves instead of others.

People who are angry at the world are really bitter unhappy people. I paid attention to my own and other people’s behavior and noticed that people who are leading happy lives don’t get offended, annoyed, or angry easily. It takes them a lot more to get upset at things.
It is possible that these people need validation for being angry to connect with others and to feel accepted for feeling what they are feeling. When we don’t participate in this destructive process they become insecure and believe everyone disagreeing with them is against them. I think it’s a lack of owning your feelings and taking responsibility for them. When we refrain from anger they are faced with their own anger and some can’t handle that.

I think anger is a good release for negative feelings.
I think when its withheld it will fester like a cancer eating away at you and that is when the real problem begins.
Either way it won't go away until its dealt with.

Anger has nothing to do with the warrior mentality, a true warrior knows when to let their guard down and step away from a situation.

Anger is a wasted emotion, jealousy less so...At least with jealousy you fight to change it, anger just sits and boils over. Of course, I find a lot of emotions to be a waste as they do not solve problems and only create more problems.

Sometimes people need to learn to let go of their personal view on a situation, separate themselves from the situation emotionally, and analyze all of the options available. With anger that rarely happens, people would rather seethe the situation and sulk in misdirection.

For many years "anger" was where I could vent all the pain & loneliness I carried. I found when I was "angry", I knew little pain, I could make my body absorb all kinds of abuse & prove how strong I was, preform feats that people said I couldn't & get the praise that I sought, to know that I was important. I learned to control that "anger" & use it as I chose to intimidate people as I felt the need. The day came when I chose to get help & work thru the hurts, that were at the base of all that pain. Now I know to handle the pains first & not let them go to anger. I made this a CHOICE & try to live it EVERYDAY. So, I say find the source of the anger, deal with it & live a better life without "anger".

Sandelwood4...Good insights. Thanks...I've sort of "mellowed with age" I guess. And almost everyone in my family "died-off" one by one except for my younger son... My perspective sort of shifted and changed through the years when it comes to "staying mad" all the time or getting involved in nasty and heated debates etc..I think you're right about some people wanting and needing validation for their anger. They want everyone around them to hate their so-called "enemies.".. They seem to live in an "us versus them" kind of world. Their motto is: "You're either with me or against me with nothing in between!" Kind of spooky...I always try to remind myself that there are many different "sides" to each issue or situation. I don't think that everyone is "out to get me!" So I try not to react and take every little thing "personally."...Sometimes I'm just in the "wrong place" at the "wrong time" when someone is having a "bad hair day!" Some things are minor. But it's different if someone is directly "attacking me" (or a loved one) in deliberately abusive ways.

I don't believe it's healthy to "stuff" any emotions. If I find myself feeling angry at someone (or a situation) I let my "raw anger" come out in private "sessions." Same goes for sadness and crying etc...Once I let all of my "raw emotions" come out I feel better. And I can think better!

I don't believe it's healthy to "stuff" any emotions. If I find myself feeling angry at someone (or a situation) I let my "raw anger" come out in private "sessions." Same goes for sadness and crying etc...Once I let all of my "raw emotions" come out I feel better. And I can think better!

Good for you! Thanks for sharing your "transformation!"

Good for you! Thanks for sharing your "transformation!"