I see more mischief created from being bored or idle, rather than anger... but that's just me.

I agree with you. There are times when someone has to stand-up to bullies and abusers.

BettyB...I agree with you. I think there's a big difference between "fleeting anger" and "chronic anger."...When people hold-on to their anger they can become bitter and "hard" and "oh so negative!" YUK! They have a tendency to make everything "bad!" No "good" is allowed in their world! (And this is sad!)

No its not idle hands "an all that.."

Its an idle heart, and an idle mind.

The angry type of people that scare me the most are the ones that seem so calm and gentle on the oustide but are a ticking time bomb on the inside.
Wonder if there are any signs to watch out for.

I don't want to have an "idle heart!" Or a "closed" or "stone cold" heart!..This is why I don't want to become bitter or "hard!" I don't want to move into "heavy-duty blame" or "hate!"...As far as an "idle mind" goes I probably tend to be too analytical. There are times when I try to quiet my mind and just "be!" How about you?

Most of the time my Dad was logical and rational and pretty darn "smart." Plus he had a cute and playful side too!..But every so often he had periodic "rage-attacks" and turned into a "madman!"..He cussed and slammed doors and yelled and yelled. And "spit-out" vile comments.. When he got in this state he viewed everyone as his "enemy." (Even me and my Mother.)...There was no way to "reason" with him during his "rage sessions."...Eventually he'd calm down on his own and go back to being logical and caring again. (Until the next "eruption!")...I learned to watch his face and "read" his moods. He had a way of "crinkling-up" his lips right before an "outbreak." Sometimes it was hard to tell what might "set him off."...He just stored-up all of his anger and emotions until they couldn't be "contained" anymore and then he "blew!"...It's a long story but I decided to stay away and "boycott" my Dad a little after my Mom died. I told him I was "boycotting" him because I didn't want to be "dumped on" or "raged at" anymore...And I "made myself" stay away even though it was hard at times...In the end my Dad called me and invited me to "please come back!" And he never ever "raged at me" ever again! Somehow he was able to find a "control valve." YEA!

This is why I will never date a divorced man. They end up bitter and non-trusting. You as the new partner, has to bear the brunt of his beatings, temper tantrums, etc. Why don't they work on themselves before seeking a new partner? I don't find bitterness attractive whatsoever.

Wow .That must have been really awful for you.Glad it worked out in the end for you and you and your Dad are good again.

I really don't find angry people appealing at all. Some people use it as an excuse to abuse. I stay away from negative types.

I wee bit o generalizin eh??

meow,that kitty got claws!!It was meant as a reference not as a direct quote.

nice kitty.

I don't like the myth about "idle hands."

I figure its just government propaganda to try to get me to work like a slave.

I would rather paint pretty pictures, and play on my computer.

Anger can be both weapon AND shield, IMO. Letting it go and moving past is critical...you can't hang onto past chit or it will eat you up, even if you think you've managed it. Angry people usually can't get out of their own way to be happy.

Anger destroys and does no good. When we are angry we say things we don't mean and taking those things we say back can be very difficult. Which leaves us with in a state regret . What i do when i get angry is make sure the situation that caused the anger is fixed immediately it provokes me and apologize to the affected person in areas have wronged them in words and action. Put a smile on someones face today. you never can tell what he/she might be going and your smile will be the best therapy.

I agree,you can hold on to things that happened in the past that made you angry and unhappy instead of looking to the future and to the happiness that CAN happen.

I remember someone close to me had died when I was 20. I'd just moved house. Just got a new sister. Just moved to a different college for my studying. I'm surprised all of that never made me crack up. Everything felt so new. Yet, I was depressed, so not that surprising after all. It's amazing how we can keep our strength through such awful experiences. I prefer to keep positive as I know how. I took anti-depressants in the past, but they only left me feeling over-tired. You find your own way of coping. The best advice i was given was, only think about what makes you happy, and only expect a problem if one comes your way, not before it happens.

Exactly. There is only so much emotional draining I can take, before I make an excuse to leave the room.which happens quite often with me.

I suppose though,unless your here to just make friends,we are all here because we are to a certain extent unhappy and I don't mean a boo-hoo Im lonely and have nobody-feeling sorry for yourself kind of way either.Way way way btw

I'm not lonely in the physical sense so much as I feel that I am alone in the way that I think. After re-considering JB's 'idle mind, idle heart' post.....I'm inclined to agree, because I have found myself dwelling on a situation or an issue at times which results in irritability and/or anger, hence the need to work off that energy. In doing so though, it does help with the thought process of reasoning and putting things back into perspective. "shrugs"....works for me.

I like Ghostriders philosophy of 'laughing it off'....which more often than not happens after I've worked up a sweat working it out and the dorphs kick in