I rarely get angry, without someone hurts my children, and if that happens I fix it. I don't see any point in staying cranky. It just ends up making people unhappy, I would much rather laugh things off and stay happy.

Would you let yourself be used as a doormat just to keep the peace? Or, if someone ripped you off and refused to pay you back? Or, if doctors told you that a loved one is fine when you know very well that they're not? Or, if somebody cut you off whilst driving, causing you to see your life flash before your eyes and a mini heart attack?

Shux Josie, what world do you live in and is there room for us angry people, or me rather, seeing as how I'm the only one that appears to get angry over stuff :-)

Oooo...happy birthday btw, hope you got spoilt

Happy birthday! Have fun!...I'm like you. I want to find a way to get back to being happy before too long..."Suffering" and staying mad is just not my "bag!"...It's weird. Some people paint themselves as "victims" or "martyrs" and take pride in "suffering" and being miserable and angry all the time. And they blame others for their misery and unhappiness and "bad breaks" in life...It's hard to understand why they want to remain in this "state." Don't you think?.. Maybe it's all about taking revenge. If they got their life "together" and decided to be happy (for a change) they would have to let go of their grudges. (And their desire to "punish" the so-called "sinners" who hurt or betrayed them.)

I'm rather curious greeneyes. Why?....if you prefer to be happy, would you keep drawing attention to the subject of this thread with inverted commas?

I find it rather peculiar with your use of "downer" words

I learnt not to place the blame on others a long time ago. No point. It only drives people away. If they choose to get revenge, well just don't tske it out on anyone who hasn't actually done anything to you. I'm not the type to get revenge. I prefer a peaceful life. I don't want the drama.

I feel the same way. When I first became a "mom" (way back when) I made a vow (to myself) to pay attention to my moods...I didn't want to come home from work and "rag" on my kids just because I had a "bad day" at the office...As I wrote in another post my Dad had periodic "rage-attacks" where he "ripped" me and my Mom to "shreds!" I didn't want to be like my Dad when I had kids of my own...I don't feel entitled to "act-out" or "lash-out" at anybody and everybody just because I'm having a "bad hair day" and facing some problems in my life..I always think about how babies can act when they "cut" their first teeth. Or when they're sick or have colic in their first few month of life...Babies just don't "feel good" but they're too young to understand the "source" of their pain and discomfort. And they can really "get mad" and "lash-out" at anyone who tries to comfort them!...Some adults seem stuck in the "lash-out" stage! They don't know how to comfort themselves. And they're angry and suspicious if someone else tries to offer them a little "comforting." Have you noticed this? It's sad!

I find anger can be a good tool when used in the right way but overall anger can make me weak as I don't think things through when I am angry.

I'm not sure. It's always been my "thing" since I started writing and putting my thoughts and feelings down on paper as a kid....I'm always trying to uncover why people might become "bullies" or "abusers." Or what prompts people to turn to "blame" or "hate" etc...I'm sure it all started with my Dad when I was growing-up. I didn't really want to hate my Dad even though he could be "hateful" towards me and my Mom at times...Most of the time he was the "best dad" in the world! (To me anyway!)....But something went "haywire" inside of him every so often and I wanted to find out what caused him to become so angry. And what caused him to turn into a "madman" where he lost his ability to "reason" during his "rage-attacks."...Anyway I've been studying anger since I was a kid.

Doormat Hmmmm Yep I think I have been refered to in that context before
I figure if someone rips me off then they needed it more then me, If I don't agree with a doctor i go to another and another, I dont get angry but I dont give up Other drivers never worry me.

My world is pretty peaceful, I don;t plan on letting it change, even if I have to hide my head in the sand for the rest of my life

Holding on to Anger is a bad Habbit, That needs to be looked at & let go, Just like any other bad Habit.

I figure whatever happens in life makes us stronger, we each have a different personality, some are calmer, some get angrier quicker, I see this with my chilren, all have been brought up the same, yet some anger quickly some rarely.

Because I am more placid there are things that I am not great at, while my son who tends to be more forceful is great backup in trouble. So everything works together to make things work out fine.

It can be therapeutic to write thoughts....I agree. I quite often wonder myself how some people just seem to snap over the most trivial things (welllllll...what I consider to be trivial anyway). I have witnessed a couple of people who seemed oblivious to the public when they have "thrown a wobbly"....usually @ their partners, and I've really felt bad for their partners having to suffer through the humiliation of onlookers feeling sorry for them.

Human behavior on a whole fascinates me. I think we are the only species on this planet that show such emotive tendencies such as anger & hate. "shrugs"...but I'm probably wrong.

You have a great attitude and outlook on life Josie

Kahurangi...I think some people have a tendency to put a "negative spin" on things. Have you noticed this?...They definitely have a "short fuse" and a low "frustration level." Any little thing can cause them to "snap!" And "lash-out" at the people around them! Spooky!..They're ok as long as things go "their way." But when they run into problems or "road-bumps" they "freak!" And have a tendency to take every little thing "personally." They look around for someone to "blame" or "fault" for the "difficulties" they have to endure...It does seem like a sense of "entitlement" or even arrogance. Have you noticed this?...In their minds they are "entitled" to have a "smooth sailing" kind of life with few problems...Nobody likes having to deal with problems. (Especially unexpected problems or a series of ongoing problems etc.) But problems are a part of life whether we like them or not. Right?...I think it helps to take a more realistic view of life. Versus expecting "special breaks" all the time and "immunity" when it comes to having to deal with problems.. How do you feel about it? Thanks.

josie68...I agree. I think we all have different temperments. I'm my "Dad's daughter" in the sense that I have a "secret lion" that sits inside of me. The "lion" only comes out when needed...My "lion" doesn't "rage" at people like my Dad could do...My "lion" prefers to "stay grounded" in logic and reason and put people in "their place" in more socially acceptable ways!.. How does your son handle things? Thanks for your posts.

GreenEyes reminds me of Bennett Bauer (aka Chris Farley): well gee I know I am not "GQ" and I may not be "camera friendly" and I, uh, "Frighten little children" and I don't always "care for my personal hygiene" or "wash between my crotch and thighs" His best character ranked right behind "Matt Foley"

"Golly gee!"

Funniest part was the skit called for him to fly off like Peter Pan by making his "finger quotes", however he was too heavy and broke the cables. I am what you might call "fluffy"

Even Burger King has an angry whopper. Not sure whats in it or why its angry. I guess even burgers have issues

"Fluffy?" Like a rabbit? Does your fur "ruffle" easily?..It takes a lot to "ruffle" my fur and "curl" my toes!...My husband said he could "read" my moods by watching for "activity" in my toes!