Hey guys i just wanna have a spectra on how many pf us think that we r our own bosses n must go for Love Marriage n how many think that our parents know us better n can find sum1 fr us. Use ur past experience and brain. Dnt be an emotional fool. Be Logical....

I agree with you so uncool of them!
They make any excuse to make life even more complicated as if they don't have one of there own!!

Thnx fr the reply.... enjoy the one u having with ur love.

Honestly, my Mum and Dad new me pretty well and loved me, so they would have made much better decisions than I did, as a young girl
I think I was more in love with the idea of being in love.

I loved everyone, that tends to lead to not making great choices and thinking you can change the world

Hmm.... frm the heart right?.... this exactly happens with all.... bt when happens that differs. Some fall n learn a lesson very early n fr some its too late. We think we r the most intelligent on the earth bt time clarifies all.
Experience is the only thing above knowledge but the value we pay fr these experiences is too high.

I second that


I think it may be better to be a match and then fall in love , than to fall in love and then try to be a match,,,

my parents would have done better finding someone who 'matched' me

I third that.

Us humans are emotional idiots, the decisions which needs to be made with the mind are often confused with and made with the heart. When parents look at it, they looking from an exterior point of view and are not biased and are looking at the best possible decision which someone we cannot make being in the hot seat.

A lot of times while we are in love we think we can change or be changed rather then being in love for the sake of love and not loving to change

Sometimes you'd think that maybe itd be alot easier that way but, true happiness requires a little more effort..falling in love is the way to go.

Love.... ! Was in dark about its real meaning till i actually start Loving my parents. We must use their experience to get the true Love....

My Sri Lanken g/f has fought off her parents choice because she is 27 and wants to make her own choice. She does live in NZ though. He was an amazing man, but she equated their 'choice' as control.

It takes one's whole life to make some understand properly.... some years or months r nt suffiecient.... there comes the use of the parents .... they r 2.5 times experienced than us n are 90% right in Long run....

I think it depends on whether the arranged marriage is consensual if for example I go to my mom and say can you find me a wife I cant seem to find a decent girl. Then my mom/dad go out and find a girl and that girl went to her parents and asked them to find her a husband. Then their is nothing wrong with that.

If it is consensual I don't see the harm in it, intact often I have heard and witnessed in other cultures situations where it worked perfectly. Some east Indians here in BC have been married 50-60 years and care about each other. Their families are awesome.

I also don't see anything wrong with mail order brides assuming it is consensual and the woman is treated as a woman should be treated with dignity and respect. Many guys are decent guys who are simply likely and had no luck finding love they turn to mail order brides to find that special someone. Many women in other countries are wanting to get to America/Western Europe and they gain a lot in coming here. They also may be wanting a man from here.

In the end it comes down to was it consensual and is the woman/man being treated with dignity and respect. If both those things are happening then arranged marriage can be a wondrous thing!

I think it depends on whether the arranged marriage is consensual if for example I go to my mom and say can you find me a wife I cant seem to find a decent girl. Then my mom/dad go out and find a girl and that girl went to her parents and asked them to find her a husband. Then their is nothing wrong with that.

If it is consensual I don't see the harm in it, intact often I have heard and witnessed in other cultures situations where it worked perfectly. Some east Indians here in BC have been married 50-60 years and care about each other. Their families are awesome.

I also don't see anything wrong with mail order brides assuming it is consensual and the woman is treated as a woman should be treated with dignity and respect. Many guys are decent guys who are simply likely and had no luck finding love they turn to mail order brides to find that special someone. Many women in other countries are wanting to get to America/Western Europe and they gain a lot in coming here. They also may be wanting a man from here.

In the end it comes down to was it consensual and is the woman/man being treated with dignity and respect. If both those things are happening then arranged marriage can be a wondrous thing!

I prefer to make my own mistakes, and in my case since I am divorced I guess it was a mistake, but I would never accept a parental choice, or allow them any say in such personal matters.