t's kind of sad how many christians i know who are depressed and lonely.. Such wonderful people.
Loneliness is a killer.

Some nights i dont sleep till morning because im busy looking for him.
Why do i think searching is going to find him? He's not lost, he's just not arrived.
I know this. I know God will present us to each other when we are fully prepared, but i can't stay still.

I admire the self discipline you people have waiting on your man or woman... I want that kind of self control. Maybe when i gain it, i will finally be ready for him.
It will happen sometime, i know.

Anyway, i'm not looking for advice. Just talking to the world through a forum post.

Feel free to share your troubles. We can sigh together, and be hopeful together too.=]

I used to be like that sometime back although not necessarily spending sleepless nights searching for a soulmate on the internet.

It's just that in my culture at my age I should be married with at least 5 kids. Almost all my friends are happily married and they always ask me when my turn will be. I'm a kind of person who's always busy at work to the extent that i fail to get time to interact with people, and i also still enjoy my single life. :)

There's been a lot of pressure from friends, family members, even church members for me to settle down. So many people would wonder why someone "so beautiful would still be single", never minded them though. Eventually when i opened up to dating & relationships, suprisingly guys that weren't my taste came my way, they didn't meet my expectations. So i devised another avenue to meet people & that was the internet. I wanted a dating site that had a component of Christianity in it 'coz I'm a staunch born again Christian and that's how i joined Mingle2.

I believe God is a match maker but we must also get involved in looking for our spouses.

As Christians, once we have decided that it is time to start looking for a spouse, we should begin the process with prayer. Committing ourselves to God’s will for our lives is the first step. Psalm 37:4 says, "Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart"

And we also have to trust in God with all our hearts for the right person. Proverbs 3:6 says "In all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make straight your paths".

I also believe God's timing is perfect and with faith and patience we will receive His promises. Proverbs 6:12 says, "so that you may not be sluggish, but imitators of those who through faith and patience inherit the promises".

Welcome once again Alicia!

It is a cycle of Loneliness I go through; for a time, I will be right with God ignoring the longing of my heart for someone to love. Everything in my world will seem right, even though friends will ask "how can I guy like me be single?" To which I often reply I do not know, but God has a plan."
But as soon as more then a days worth of free time comes by my heart goes to war against my self-control and starts longing like crazy. On the worst of nights leaving me in tears with much pleading prayers of forgiveness and dread. But then of course the sun comes up and God reminds me:

“For I know the plans, I have for you,”
declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you,plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11)
 
Proverbs 16:4
"The LORD works out everything for his own ends--even the wicked for a day of disaster."

Your right.You can't just sit back and wait for God to find your partner.Just like you can't sit back and wait for anything to happen.You have to be out there amongst it all.As I have posted before,God knows whats in your heart and he won't match you with someone who isn't going to be right for you.It isn't much fun waiting,but it will be worth the wait in the end

Amen to that Scott!:)
You are right! It aint fun at all to wait for that special someone, i bet God's timing is the best.

Being single forever was hard. But we know that it is better to be alone, than to be with the wrong person. Now that would really make one miserable. Lol, I matchmake you all in my head by the way.

I have so many personalities,I never get lonely

what Ladywind said

media and movies has most of us believing partnership is the only fulfilling life, but I am believing more and more that not everyone is meant to be a part of a romance anymore than everyone is made to be a parent

IT takes alot of will power, and the human side of me does cause me to fantasize on times, but consciously I concede to the fact that my 'him' is God and that HE may or may not decide a partner is whats best for me in this life,,,but having HIM is more than enough

Hi shirly here I found that being a christian when looking for a mate there few .I meaning the ones who are faithful , honest , true,christians Because most I've run into that call them self christian use profanty ,drink , and smoke. I am loney and would like for God to intervine and just bring me the right one . I pray for this all the time But if there is any who is interested and lives close to cumberland send me a message if intersted. guys only

colossians 2:10.u r so right msharmony.

Im iranian boy,i was muslim but i feel jesus and then changed,i dont know what can i say.here im in danger,please pray for me and at last i wish world be full of angel same you.GOD BLESS US ALL.

Dear Heavenly Father, I come to you in the Name of Jesus. I just wanna say thank you for saving your son HReza1983, thank you for letting your light shine upon his life. In your Holy word Romans 10:9, you say that if we confess the Lord our God and believe in our hearts that God raised Jesus from the dead, we shall be saved.

May you continue to protect and guide him in this journey of salvation, Lord transform his life so that he can bring glory and honour to you alone. Thank you Jesus for your unlimited grace that always leads to repentence. In your Mighty Name Lord Jesus i have prayed, Amen!

Hey HReza1983, the angels in heaven r still rejoicing over your salvation!

Welcome!

That dosent make much sense to me.How can you be lonely and depressed if someone is a Christian? Your never alone with Him in your life.I would feel lonely and depressed WITHOUT Him in my life.Hes my Father,my comforter,Hes my best friend,He gives me guidance an strength,and most important of all-He gave me my ticket to freedom.You can spend your entire life here on earth looking and searching for the right person to get yoked too,but if you pray to God and ask Him to sort someone out for you,and it dosent happen,it was never meant to be.It is better to have no-one than the wrong person time after time.Yeah,I know you cant just sit back and say to God,sweet you sort it out.You have to do some leg work too,its just that Jesus will guide you in the right direction.I think people spend too much time searching and yearning for the right person.Personally,I put my trust in the big man upstairs,he hasnt steered me wrong yet.NB:Dont think bad of me when I dont punctuate,I get my message across...

Well spoken. And your punctuation sucks, jk. That is why He is our first love.

Yeah I know it sucks,I just dont think its necessary.It dosent mean im elliterate aliturate illiterate or anything

I'm sorry for those that feel lonely. I am lonely to a degree. I feel alone in my standards and views of the world. I have some friends but they aren't capable of really being true friends. California is full of shallow, self-centered people who have virtually no concept of being righteous. They're are some good people, of course but generally speaking they are hard to find.

I am so far from perfect but I know sins when I see them, and when I commit them! I strive to be better.

If I'm lonely I can't see it. I'm too busy to be lonely.

Now, I do enjoy making people smile. So I'm hoping guys don't see me as a flirt.

I smile and make small talk with them but I'm always on a mission.

They can't keep up with me. Or it could be that I don't slow down for them.

I guess they'd have to give me a reason to slow down.


The other day a guy who had been trying

to catch up with me,

caught up with me at the mall, by my surprise.

Pretended he was going to whisper something in my ear. He kissed me in public and stunned me.

I'm a romantic. I kinda liked that. But now what?

This same guy and I used to work together.

He always used to stop me while I was working to say something funny but I could never make sense of it.

I think He was very nervous of me. So his words didn't come out right.

I tried to set him at ease...

I thought he was sweet but he made me nervous...too.



Bottom line...I can't tell whether I'm lonely.

It is frustrating to always have to say 'no'. I have spent 13 lonnggg years saying 'no'. Just once, I want to say 'yes', because I know this is my choice and Gods choice for me. Grrr.

Hmmmm.

Who among us have not persevered a time of loneliness? What does our Father tell us to do? His tells us in his word that His love and comfort is more than enough. This is either true or its not.


When we are lonely, what is it that you do first to deal with your loneliness? What do I do? Sometimes, OK a lot of times my first step is to deal with it on my own. Leaning on my own understanding. I’ll fill Him in later on how I fixed it.

Somewhere along the way, my Father reminds me that his love is complete and whole and healing and completely fulfilling and He reminds me that the worlds solutions, titillation, fornication, manipulation, toleration, sedation, mastication, masterb...... have absolutely no value at all but momentary easing of my discomfort and actually hurt me, others and my relationship and trust in Him.

So what does He call us to do? Trust him. Seek Him. Know him. Seek harmony with Him. Seek the kingdom fist and all things that you NEED will be given you. Including a spirit and contentment of singleness until the day He chooses that you should no longer be single.

Those are His words not mine. My words? Pray for a spirit and contentment of singleness. Seek contentment in your relationship with Him first. Then you are ready for him to bring someone who is also seeking Him and seeking contentment in him. Wow. What a relationship that would be.

Also He may have a plan for you that doesn’t fit well having a partner. Are you ready for that?