Love is a choice, not a feeling. That's why we say " I love You" and not " I feel like I love you"....

It may be truth in that it's really your opinion.

I think you're a little confused, how do you choose to be in love? It IS a feeling,an emotion, it's not something you can choose to turn on and off

everyone is faced with a choice...relationships require work!!

You are right. Love is a choice.

What does that have to do with love being a choice? Do you just wake up one day and say "Hmmm, this relationship is work,I think I'll choose not to love her anymore"?

people take one another for granted daily... its what society has taught us.
ask your self in your last relationship, how many times were you upset... they didnt do something for you

It's what people teach each other, not society as a whole. I don't get upset over little things. No relationship is perfect, and yes,there's going to be arguments, but why would you get upset because your partner didn't do something for you? How does that tie in to choosing not to love someone? You choose not to love them because they don't do something for you?

I haven't chosen to fall in love with someone. It just happens.

^^ I have to go with this.
I fall when I fall, out of my hands.
Except I have tried not to on occasion.
With varying results.

I have learned to value love.
Whenever it has appeared, along the way.

I've chosen to spend time with certain people. But I've never walked up and chosen someone to fall in love with.

And like Soufie, I've tried not to fall in love on occasion.

IMO, you don't choose who you fall in love with, it just happens. It is an emotion. You may choose who you are atrracted to but not who you truly love unconditionally.

If that was the case, I would choose to love Brad Pitt although I know nothing about him.

Such a pure and true response.....when you do....if you do. It just is.

I guard my heart and I wont allow myself to fall in love with someone that would be wrong for me. So in this respect my falling in love for someone would mean a choice was made. Put like that it sounds so clinical, lol.

Attraction isn't a choice. It happens before we have time to think.

Love, on the other hand, is an act of the will.

I may not be able to choose who I love but I sure can choose how I act on that love and if someone is not worth my love I let it die out by staying the furthest I can get from them.

I think that's called chemistry.

there are different types of love

the physical/chemical 'flutter' that we feel for others is not something that is a choice

that is a fleeting and not a constant feeling

being 'in love' is a choice, because we must decide we want to be with someone even AFTER we realize we dont ALWAYS have that feeling with them,,,,and that we sometimes have that feeling for others as well,,,


many are so IN LOVE With the idea of being IN LOVE That their mind tricks them into immediately labeling chemical or emotional flucuations as 'love' and they work hard to maintain it and define it as such,,,

/agree

For those of you who believe love is a choice, do you just walk up, pick someone and decide to fall in love with them?