I've had this happen to me. Now today a friend of mine has had it happen to him.

Here's the thing, When you are doing this online dating thing you come across all types of people. Today a friend of mine got himself fussed out over a phone call.

This woman he was interested in, She lives in the same state as he does, Ga. But the thing is her number is out of state. Washington St as a matter of fact. Now, He like me doesn't have a cell phone. She wanted him to call her. He told her he couldn't. He had a home phone. It would run his phone bill sky high. He asked her if she had thought about getting a local number. Instead of telling him that she couldn't change her number and why, She jumped all over him. Fussed him out from one end to the other. He wrote me telling me about it.

Here is my question for you forum junkies. Should a person be it man or woman assume that everyone has a cell phone? Should a man or woman expect someone that they really don't know to call them long distance?
Do you think that if you're going to do online dating, Shouldn't you make yourself as accessible as you can to potential suitors in the state your in? Including an instate number?

There really is no excuse not to have a cell phone now a days. You can get a cheap throw away for $30.00 or less and very flexible pay plans from pay as you go and up.

I don't assume they have a cell phone, but I do and as a man I expect to initiate the calls. If I had a land line I wouldn't call long distance unless I was very sure, I think she needs to change her number but she might have seen it as a sign of "cheapness" on his part.

You can get a free cell phone from a provider and pay $40 a month for about 500 minutes.

Edit: You think that was bad I wrote to a woman who cussed me out because I was on the internet...

Why would you say that? Some people have no need for a cell phone. I don't. I know plenty of others that don't. Plus the extra expense of a cell phone. Yes, You can get a cheap phone Trac Phone. But then you have to pay for a one hr card. That's 20 bucks. If your going to pay that you may as well pay long distance.

Also, I find them kinda obnoxious. If anyone wants to talk to me they can call me at home. Not while I am in town somewhere or in my car. I see people everyday walking around with their heads down looking at their "smart" phones. Don't even realize what's going on around them. Till they step out in front of a bus.

Maybe she is still "in" state but the line for the area codes puts her in another zone. In the town I grew up in there was two area codes and it wasn't a very big town. So for me to call friends I went to high school with, I had to dial long distance. I feel bad for their neighbors who had to pay long distance charges to call across the street.

Or did you mean her number was from the state of Washington and not Washington street? Phone companies charge for changing numbers now and why should she have to change her number and then have to get in touch with everyone she knows and tell them her new number?

She should have to change her number for a man that nothing may work out between them.... I don't think so.

(And sorry if I was confused....mind is scattered because of yesterday's news)

You can be in Arizona and have a NY state phone number, as if you were there. If your provider services both states, and you do most of your calls in NY, (in this example), then you call NY local and your next door neighbour long distance.

I can't say much more. American landline companies are a mystery to me. A woman called me from NY state, to here, in Ontario, and a half hour call cost her over a hundred dollars. I called her from my city state, in any state (inebriated, slushed or deliriously happy) and it cost me a dollar fifty for an hour to chattel her.

American systems are much less regulated, coz Americans successfully fight overregulation, they think it's a headache. It is, they are right mostly, but sometimes a bit of a regulation or standardization would do them a lot of good.

But no. America still is under the spell of that stupid beeeech, Ayn Rand. She destroyed more good ideas with two of her books than Cortez did with all his guns and horses.

The pen is mightier than the sword, and like nuclear power or statistics, it can be used equally easily for the greater good, or else for evil purposes.

It's actually cheaper than a land line. You can go pre-paid, no contract, adjust your bill as needed to fit your budget.

Just because you have a cell phone doesn't mean you have to be reckless with it. I never talk/text and drive or while at the register or thing like that.

My first example was of landlines, before cell phones. lol My daughter has a NY cell number but lives in ID right now. I told her not to change it because more family members have this number and who knows how long she will live in ID.

Sad. I did not know. If people who move to Idaho know that there the single girls don't live long, then I wouldn't allow my daughter to move there.

Especially when the state's own name is such a horrible and blatant advertisement for selling one's own body for the sexual gratification of others. "I da ho." Wow. That state certainly does say what it is in personal ads (as per a concurrent thread running now.)

It's a beautiful state!!!!

After the local installation jumped to $300 in a new place, I gave up having a phone altogether. I've had no friends, nobody to talk to. It only served the purpose for emergencies and to make internet sales and purchases on Kijiji.

So after living for two years with no phone, my stupid cardioligist office made me buy one. I bought one a year ago, and I bought a pre-paid, with 4400 minutes for a year. It cost me $100 including the phone.

A year has gone down, and I still have $44 on it.

You see, before the doctor's staff forced me to buy one, I figured why pay for a service which does not do much else but remind me with each bill how much anybody still does not love me at all whatsoever.

Am I not getting this?? why didn't she just call him then?

Where I live we are allowed with the land line to call our town and the town right next to it without it being long distance. At our nursing home the doctor can make a call to one of our resident's pacemaker. If your pacemaker makes a call to another pacemaker would that be considered a heart to heart call?

Tell your friend that the woman isn't worth the fight over the cost of a long-distance telephone call. If the woman won't meet your friend half way by agreeing to pay half the cost of telephone communication, then she isn't right for him.

Because that would make too much sense.

I was talking about Washington State. I have a cousin in New Jersey. A one hr call from here to there is a little over 100 bucks. I would hate to pay a one hr bill from here to Washington State. No telling how much it would be.

I understand what you're saying not wanting to change your number for something that might not work out. But shouldn't that work both ways? What man would in his right mind want to pay a huge phone bill for something that might not work out?

I think about it like this, If the person for whatever reason doesn't want to change there number, Why can't they buy a cheap cell phone with a local number? Give that number to whomever? Why should it be dumped in the mans lap to buy a cell phone just because some people refuse to get a local number?

I don't know. Just seems to me another one of those odd things I and others come across with this online dating. I just don't see where a man should have to eat it with a huge phone bill for some woman who refuses to make herself available to men in the state she is in.


One of the above posters said something about coming off as cheap. Well, Here is the way I see that. We all have our bills to pay. Right now here in the USA times are hard. A lot of people are out of work. This is the worst it's been since 1933 I think.

For those that are not out of work, they still have their jobs, many are on short time. A lot of people now,especially her in Georgia are lucky if they are getting 26 to 36 hrs a week. Couple that with the low wages here,8 to around 13 bucks an hr average, You got to be tight with your money. That includes buying things like cell phones. Things you don't need.

Yea this sounds like drama mama waiting to happen!
Tell him don't give out his number! haha

Cost me $60.00 for 60min to call Canada on my cell phone.
check your plan before you call people you meet online.
I made the call since his was a landline.
(note auto correct says landMINE) too true!

I pretty much told him not to worry about it. He really felt bad about it. Me personally, I wouldn't. I have never spoken fowl to any woman on a dating site. But when they open there mouth and start shooting it off at me, Then it's open season. She is asking for it. She just lowered the boom on him. He never said a word back. I just ain't built that way. Respect me, I'll respect you. Dish it out to me,Expect it back.

If they are both using computers, why don't they Skype?