So it isn't about the phone bill as much, but more about getting the women to do what you want.

I was waiting till this evening to reply to this thread anymore. I wanted to see if this last lady I was talking to would be any different from any other.

I've been talking to this woman every night now on POF for about a week. Everything has been going smooth. I already knew we were about 75 miles apart. I been waiting to see if she would bring it up. She finally did last night. I asked her if she thought we were to far apart. Her answer was NO. She said she didn't limit herself when it came to finding love. She wouldn't let anything get in her way.

Now, With me being me I just had to find a way to test it. She gave me her phone number. I knew before hand it was going to be long distance. I asked her if she would mind calling me. I explained why. I know she has a cell because she also asked if I could TXT her. (I hate TXTing)I know that most cell phone plans have nights & weekends free.

I haven't heard a peep out of her since. She has been on several times without answering. To me this is one of my ways of weeding out the full of shyt. The ones that are talking out the side of their neck.

A lot of them spout off like this. I don't know about every man. But a lot of men will test you to see if you mean what you say. Some are pretty slick about it.

If you tell me that you don't let anything get in your way. Not even distance, But you will let something as simple as a phone call do it, Makes me feel like I dodged a bullet. You're not serious. Your just talking and don't mean what you say. You're showing me that I can't take you serious.


This is one of the reasons why I and my friend will not bend a little about our phones. To many quirky, weird people. This is a way of weeding them out. Doesn't work every time. But it does work.

Hmmm sounds like you're looking for this to happen and when it does you get to say "I told you so" and feel some sense of accomplishment. If you know someone is too far away and you can't call them then limit your search to a closer area. At first I thought you were commenting on her reaction but now it seems like you are just trying to prove a point. Which, in my opinion, is just as juvenile as the woman's reaction in the first place.

I've had this happen to me. Now today a friend of mine has had it happen to him.

Here's the thing, When you are doing this online dating thing you come across all types of people. Today a friend of mine got himself fussed out over a phone call.

This woman he was interested in, She lives in the same state as he does, Ga. But the thing is her number is out of state. Washington St as a matter of fact. Now, He like me doesn't have a cell phone. She wanted him to call her. He told her he couldn't. He had a home phone. It would run his phone bill sky high. He asked her if she had thought about getting a local number. Instead of telling him that she couldn't change her number and why, She jumped all over him. Fussed him out from one end to the other. He wrote me telling me about it.

Here is my question for you forum junkies. Should a person be it man or woman assume that everyone has a cell phone? Should a man or woman expect someone that they really don't know to call them long distance?
Do you think that if you're going to do online dating, Shouldn't you make yourself as accessible as you can to potential suitors in the state your in? Including an instate number?

I disagree. It's about whether or not the woman will walk her talk.

I don't assume they have a cell phone, but I do and as a man I expect to initiate the calls. If I had a land line I wouldn't call long distance unless I was very sure, I think she needs to change her number but she might have seen it as a sign of "cheapness" on his part.

You can get a free cell phone from a provider and pay $40 a month for about 500 minutes.

Edit: You think that was bad I wrote to a woman who cussed me out because I was on the internet...

American systems are much less regulated, coz Americans successfully fight overregulation, they think it's a headache. It is, they are right mostly, but sometimes a bit of a regulation or standardization would do them a lot of good.

But no. America still is under the spell of that stupid beeeech, Ayn Rand. She destroyed more good ideas with two of her books than Cortez did with all his guns and horses.

The pen is mightier than the sword, and like nuclear power or statistics, it can be used equally easily for the greater good, or else for evil purposes.

Do you not realize you are saying "I will not compromise but I expect the other person to"?

Uh, I missed something. Did the woman in this particular case offer to make some calls, too, or does she want the man to make all of the calls?

She never offered to make any attempt at calling me. Never offered to make any calls.

So far it seems you're the only one that gets it.

Is "ALF" the only one that gets it? "Walk your talk" Back up what you say. He's also got it in another spot. If you say, I will not limit myself when it comes to finding love. Distance is not an issue" Then, If someone asks you to call them because they don't have a cell,Don't want to call long distance and run their bill up, Why, If you're not going to let distance stop you, Let a phone call stop you? Makes no sense. When you're the one with the cell and nights and weekends free.

If you are really interested in a guy to the point that you will not let distance stop you, But you will let a phone call do it, You are actually showing the guy you are a liar. You can't be trusted. You are either goofy and not thinking about what you are saying, Or, You could be a scammer.

Thank you (hi BTW, good to see you)

She can call him as easy as he her.

And I have to say these days cells really are a better deal than land lines. Mine is $35 per month unlimited. The phone was only $40 itself.

Is "ALF" the only one that gets it? "Walk your talk" Back up what you say. He's also got it in another spot. If you say, I will not limit myself when it comes to finding love. Distance is not an issue" Then, If someone asks you to call them because they don't have a cell,Don't want to call long distance and run their bill up, Why, If you're not going to let distance stop you, Let a phone call stop you? Makes no sense. When you're the one with the cell and nights and weekends free.

If you are really interested in a guy to the point that you will not let distance stop you, But you will let a phone call do it, You are actually showing the guy you are a liar. You can't be trusted. You are either goofy and not thinking about what you are saying, Or, You could be a scammer.

<<Waves HI! good to see you too!

This is YOUR issue. If distance is an issue for you because of long distance phone calls, either look for someone local, or use one of the options we've already discussed here in the thread. If distance is not an issue, do not expect the woman to be the only one making phone calls. It's really as simple as that. You're playing games here and looking for women to do what you want. When they don't, you complain about it.