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Topic: Pictures & Attraction
krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Thu 05/24/12 06:05 PM
A good pic (RECENT) is always a plus. It will definitely get the wheels turning. Personality is a good thing if you got one. I have always tempered the snap attraction to a hot picture with the fact that no matter how good looking anyone is....they got an ex out there who is sick and tired of thier schitt.

winterblue56 Joined Sun 12/12/10 Posts: 2465	Fri 05/25/12 07:50 AM
I look at picture first....a smile then to the eyes. If I see them two anger lines between the eyebrows, I move on and not even read the profile words. Then I go to the "stats"...I look at place, children, height and whether a smoker or not.

tazzops Joined Sat 12/20/08 Posts: 33333	Fri 05/25/12 08:11 AM
I'am screwed.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76373	Fri 05/25/12 10:15 AM
Hummm pictures will make me look a bit farther....

boonedoggy61 Joined Fri 09/09/11 Posts: 10425	Fri 05/25/12 10:32 AM
I'am screwed.

tazzops Joined Sat 12/20/08 Posts: 33333	Fri 05/25/12 10:44 AM
I'am screwed.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sat 05/26/12 06:26 AM
I've been on too many dates whereby the person doesn't match their picture - it's usually an old picture. I have also and that's not honesty, and most likely means FAIL It brings up a bit of a dilemma for me though because on the one hand, I can understand why some people may choose to misrepresent themselves in this way...online daters are a shallow lot and put so much emphasis into aesthetics and visual attraction etc. On the other hand, itdoes make me wonder if ‘they’ can lie about their picture, what else are they lying about..hence the dilemma. Long and short of it is that I agree with you. By lying about something so basic automatically cancels out any hope of anything else developing.

TammyA Joined Sat 03/10/12 Posts: 300	Sat 05/26/12 06:34 AM
I've been meaning to come back to this thread for a while. I got side tracked and didn't do it. Anyway, I started this thread because I'm trying to understand something about people in general and maybe figure out something about myself. I don't understand how anyone can be attracted to a picture. Now, Don't misunderstand me. I've seen some women on dating sites I thought were nice looking in my eyes. But in the almost seven yrs that I have been using dating sites I have never been attracted to a picture. I've come across many men that fall all over themselves over a picture. I just don't get it. In all the yrs I've done this I have never met a woman on a dating site that looked exactly like her picture. If I choose to ask a woman to meet me it's because of the way we were able to communicate with each other. If I write at all it had nothing to do with her picture. If I write a woman it's because something in her profile, when I read it appealed to me. Sometimes I think I'm the way I am because I'm looking for something deeper. All I do know is, No one woman's picture has ever been that appealing to me. If I find her looks appealing it's after I meet her. Am I the only one that's this way? So how do you choose which profiles to read? Do you just go down the line and read them all?

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48914	Sat 05/26/12 12:16 PM
location isnt usually a factor for me, cause I would gladly move for the right situation (just like seeking the right job) and hopefully the right situation would move for me,,,lol The job market is good in my area of the USA. Just saying . . .

Starry_Sky Joined Sat 05/19/12 Posts: 16	Sat 05/26/12 01:44 PM
I used to read every profile, in depth, and with great consideration, then write specialized e-mails to that person if I were interested. After 1000s of messages going nowhere, I now look at the picture more than anything else, and leave it to the other person to contact me, outside of a wink or a blowing a kiss. I'm frustrated by the number of unspoken rejections or lost messages this indicates! I only recently joined this site, and am hoping for better luck than I've had in the past. I will admit, there are certain physical attributes that I know I am attracted to, so sometimes I screen in advance for those. Mostly, I am looking for someone caring, intelligent, adventurous, active ~ and I can tell at least two of those a lot of times by just flipping through the pictures! I like the sponteneity of phone calls to get to better know if there is a chemistry involved, and for things that clue the presence or absence of compatability.

Citizen_Joe Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 4036	Sat 05/26/12 01:45 PM
I'm wondering how many people base their attraction to another on just a picture. How many look deeper than a picture and a few words in a profile. The only thing I look deep into is my baby's deep blue-green eyes. Here? Let's just say I don't take this or any dating site seriously. Just killing time between feedings and thoughts to turn into things. What's here would date you if you bought them a pair of tennis shoes.

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Sat 05/26/12 06:04 PM
I've been on too many dates whereby the person doesn't match their picture - it's usually an old picture. I have also and that's not honesty, and most likely means FAIL I third that. If they can't be honest, they might aswell live like a hermit. No good comes from lying.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Sat 05/26/12 07:55 PM
Standards: cute butt.

Citizen_Joe Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 4036	Sat 05/26/12 08:01 PM
Standards: cute butt. You do know that even if it's cute, it's a waste repository, right?

chrishood97 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 66	Sun 05/27/12 03:59 PM
I'am screwed. im so screwed bad pics and pro

Tizar Joined Sat 04/28/12 Posts: 493	Sun 05/27/12 04:17 PM
I can't put up pictures on my tablet computer. pictures are good, but brains is better.

Da1Dezzy Joined Wed 01/11/12 Posts: 24	Mon 05/28/12 09:26 AM
most people skim read infact i bet about 70% of the people in this thread have skimmed profiles before it's the picture that is the hook! just like in nature with peacocks and other colourful mating displays after that it's a sense of humour NOTHING else is important at first look and if you say it is then i call BS! as nature dictates that the fittest will take the best females so that the species will thrive (sounds a little un-romantic but its physics at the end of the day) :P

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 05/28/12 09:33 AM
most people skim read infact i bet about 70% of the people in this thread have skimmed profiles before it's the picture that is the hook! just like in nature with peacocks and other colourful mating displays after that it's a sense of humour NOTHING else is important at first look and if you say it is then i call BS! as nature dictates that the fittest will take the best females so that the species will thrive (sounds a little un-romantic but its physics at the end of the day) :P Yes, there needs to be some attraction. That's obvious. However, on a site like this, for most there needs to be something more as well. If someone has pictures and no profile, chances are many will pass by that profile anyway.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Mon 05/28/12 09:54 AM
most people skim read infact i bet about 70% of the people in this thread have skimmed profiles before it's the picture that is the hook! just like in nature with peacocks and other colourful mating displays after that it's a sense of humour NOTHING else is important at first look and if you say it is then i call BS! as nature dictates that the fittest will take the best females so that the species will thrive (sounds a little un-romantic but its physics at the end of the day) :P so true, the pictures narrow down hundreds of profiles on the sight, but the profile sets the stage for further interest,,, Yes, there needs to be some attraction. That's obvious. However, on a site like this, for most there needs to be something more as well. If someone has pictures and no profile, chances are many will pass by that profile anyway.

teadipper Joined Wed 10/19/11 Posts: 2732	Mon 05/28/12 12:04 PM
I have THE most unattractive pictures of me posted that I own. ON PURPOSE. It scares away losers. I am here for friends. I am pushing the limits of how many people I can block on Mingle2. Anyone who hits one me DID NOT read my profile.