Exactly.

I guess I've been fortunate that most people that I've met online have been exactly what they portray themselves to be.

In my 4 years on this site, I think if I've emailed 5 guys, it's a lot. I don't typically email anyone unless I saw their picture somewhere and found them attractive in some way, read their profile and found something interesting in it to write about. Otherwise, I just meet people here in the forums and will message them from time to time if I find something about them intriguing.

I had been corresponding with a guy on here for about a month or so. I asked him if he had a facebook, and he said "no I don't mess with facebook". Well I had already checked and knew he had. So why lie about that unless there was stuff on his facebook that he didn't want me to know. I never contacted him again. Honesty is #1 with me.

Picture, picture, picture....that's a big turn on!

without glasses on ...please!




Have fun in your search

Does this mean that you won't be meeting me at Starbucks?

The picture gets very little attention by me. I've learned over the years that pictures lie. I can't tell you how many I've met that look no ways like their picture. I don't write very many. I'm selective. If I decide to write someone it has nothing to do with their picture. It's all about what they write.

If they can elaborate a little about themselves enough to give me an idea of who they are, If I'm interested I'll write regardless of the picture. It's who they are and what they are that matters.
If they post very little in their profile I doubt I will write them.
I'm talking to a lady right now on another site that doesn't even have a picture posted. But, She is a good writer. She was able to elaborate on herself good enough to catch my interest. It's not always about the looks. The way I see it, If you base whether you write or respond to someone by just a picture, You're shallow. You have to be able to look past the superficial. That's what I try to do.

I'm looking for a person with the right kind of heart. Not everything comes in certain packages. People in general tend to go by looks first. In other words, What you want and what you need are two different things. Sometimes what you need doesn't come in the package you want. If you are constantly looking for what you want, You will wind up missing what you need.

This makes me wonder... how many people here have met someone who didn't look like their picture? I guess I've been lucky, as everyone I've met looked like their picture.

I have contacted people with no pictures who had very well written profiles. They are few and far between though. And if I were to meet them, they'd have to provide a picture first.

I just like ta look at it, k?

Great looks/body are really low on my must have list but if there is zero attraction because the person can't/won't smile in at least one of his pictires I am probably not going to respond unless the written part of the profile is pretty spectacular.

And I do look at basic stats since it does not make sense to me to bust anyone's chops for doing something legal like smokeing which I can not tolerate. And I don't need the drama that goes with seperated.

Occassionally people talk themselves out of my interest with their text. I realize everyone is not a great writer but if there is minimal effort and I get a feeling I am having to work to find something in common or it is like the relationship is going to be like pulling nails out of a stone I am not going to bother.

I know I might have been incrdibly lucky in my relationships on a personal level but most of them have been pretty good and I just don't see swimming upstream to make something work.

I have plenty of friends that I have social contact so I don't have to play the field for companionship so maybe my motivation to date is too low.

I think the whole idea of chatting with someone you have not actually seen is interesting but too many times I have seen people who will not post a few photos are either not really into finding someone and think they are entitled to play with out equally investing or are neurotic about one thing or another and it just doesn't pan out. I get everyone who doesn't flash a lot of pictures may have reasons but get over it. There are so much more intimate things out there on the information highway about you it comes off as kind of lame.

For me since I'm looking for romance it goes like this: A girl has to be at least cute. I don't need supermodel gorgeous but I do need a cute girl with a nice smile. If her pic has both, it makes me want to see what she's actually about. If I'm interested I'll act on it.

Those of us who have skipped over no picture with the profile definitely know that a visual make a difference. However a dumb cute/pretty/sexy or whatever you want to call them, person ... is not attractive in the least bit to me.

I looks at both pictures and profile info. Mostly what they have in their interests. We have to have some common ground regardless of looks. If I see a pic and he has washboard abs, I usually will not waste my time, because it's either a fake pic or his standards are way too high and he is most likely self indulged.

Want to see the picture, even if the profile is good. If not a little attracted to the person, I don't care how good of a person they are, it won't work out.

Well, That's all well and good I guess. But did you ever think that maybe he didn't want to share his face book with some stranger on the internet? I've done that myself with different women. Maybe he didn't feel like he knew you well enough to share his private life with. A lot of people don't see it that way, But FB is private. FB accounts get hacked all the time. Just because someone doesn't jump at giving out their FB doesn't mean they are hiding anything. It could be they are just using their head.

By the way, By you checking first, It makes you sound like a stalker chick. Which is one reason why a lot of people will not share their FB with just anyone. To many stalkers of both genders.

I agree with Charles. I don't give out my personal affairs to strangers. Facebook is very personal.

I look for symmetry in the nipples.

It's a combination. But even if you like both picture and profile, it's no guarantee that the person is a good match for you. Eventually you need to meet in person if you are looking for a relationship beyond the virtual sphere.

I don't use facebook as a way to get to know strangers or meet new people. I told one guy who asked about facebook that it was just for friends and he got pretty nasty about it, telling me I must be lying about who I am. At least he showed that angry side of him right away.

HEY I HAVE WASHBOARD ABS... under a bunch of fat that is...

I do cyber security for a couple of companies. I work on computers on the side. One thing I know well is on-line security.

I said that to say this. I have several times been on an internet dating site, be talking to someone who I have only talked to on the net, One of the first things out of her mouth was, "Do you have a face book" page? The first thing I say is "no". If it turns her/them of, Hoop Dee! NEXT! I know I am getting off the subject here. But I just had to address this topic a little bit. Me personally, I think people in general are nosy when it comes to face book. I have never asked not one woman I have ever dated about whether she has a face book page or not. To me, it's being nosy and pushy with something that is private with most people.

Not meaning to hijack this thread. I just had to speak a few words on that.