I'm curious. OK, Lets say you're looking through profiles. You come across this person and you decide to write. When you look at this persons profile, What are you attracted to? When you look at this persons picture, Are you full on attracted by the picture? Or, Are you attracted to what the person has written in their profile?

I'm wondering how many people base their attraction to another on just a picture. How many look deeper than a picture and a few words in a profile.

Pictures are important. I read faces. But what people write is also important. That is still not enough. You need to get to know the person. That is what the forums are for.

There has to be some level of attraction aesthetically as well as mentally. If the guy is smoking hot and dumb as a box of rocks then no I wouldn't write him. If hes ok looking with a seemingly great personality based on what I read then it's a go. If he thinks he's a gangsta and pointing a gun at the camera makes him look super cool then it's really not going to matter what's written in his profile- NO GO.

A picture will prompt me to look at the profile- im more interested in what the person says- I prefer a smart funny man over a pretty boy- but there has to be some sort of attraction. i think alot of people feel the same way.

While there has to be some physical attraction, there has to be more behind that picture. If there isn't, we're not going to be a match.

Some read tea leaves, some others read palms, some read psalms.

I never go beyond looking at pictures. Attraction is to a beauty, not to a personality. A personality is there to be "is". A beauty is there to be "be".

Let me explain another way. Attraction is in the bespeaking of the mind in generals. Beauty is in the aye of the beholder of those magnificent beee...yosoms. (Cup holders, bee holders.) If her personality is not Canada Grade A Chicken, then it's still a go. Bang go durum tadd.

Being attracted to how someone looks is important, but it's not the only thing.

Looks draw you in but personality keeps you.

The picture will generally determine if I delve deeper into the profile!!
Then I compare what I see to what I read and decide if they are someone I want to get to know.

When I first joined, I was only using the forums and getting to know people through their posts and sense of humor. If they typed something interesting or funny, I would check out their profile.


TheCaptain was using an anime character as his avatar at the time, but finally posted a picture of himself and a female friend at an awards dinner but I was not disappointed! To me, he is the handsomest man posting on the forums.

I've been meaning to come back to this thread for a while. I got side tracked and didn't do it. Anyway,


I started this thread because I'm trying to understand something about people in general and maybe figure out something about myself.

I don't understand how anyone can be attracted to a picture. Now, Don't misunderstand me. I've seen some women on dating sites I thought were nice looking in my eyes. But in the almost seven yrs that I have been using dating sites I have never been attracted to a picture.

I've come across many men that fall all over themselves over a picture. I just don't get it. In all the yrs I've done this I have never met a woman on a dating site that looked exactly like her picture.

If I choose to ask a woman to meet me it's because of the way we were able to communicate with each other. If I write at all it had nothing to do with her picture. If I write a woman it's because something in her profile, when I read it appealed to me. Sometimes I think I'm the way I am because I'm looking for something deeper. All I do know is, No one woman's picture has ever been that appealing to me.

If I find her looks appealing it's after I meet her. Am I the only one that's this way?

I completely agree with this, the picture gets me to stop and look at the profile, the profile can end the deal,, however physically attractive the picture may be....

It does help if a person is easy on the eyes.

However, I look for details such as age, location, religious preference.

Well, there has to be at least some attraction for a date to happen. But, there also needs to be more beyond that physical attraction as well.

good ones,,,

location isnt usually a factor for me, cause I would gladly move for the right situation (just like seeking the right job) and hopefully the right situation would move for me,,,lol


I also look for common interests, I am NOT an outdoors/sportsy/organic type of person so I often overlook some pretty nice looking photos because their profiles indicate an interest or passion in those things,,,

ditto

Me too ^, especially the eyes. I always look for insight in the profile and common interests. Forums are good, but I also don't mind talking on the phone after a few emails if its going well.

I'm more attracted to what a person writes on their profile as well as how we interact in our msgs because I've been on too many dates whereby the person doesn't match their picture - it's usually an old picture.

I have also and that's not honesty, and most likely means FAIL