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Topic: What to do....sex offender
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Mon 04/16/12 09:42 AM
I haven't been on in awhile but I've always been able to rely on my online friends for advice...and boy do I need some now.

Dilemma: Ya know that registry app you can get for your computer or phone that tells you about the sex offenders around your area? Well....

I discovered one and it blew me away. I work with him! I've been trying to figure out just what he did but I can't find that info out. I know some people get falsely accused, or whatever....

So, since i'm sometimes in this little office ALONE with this guy, I would REALLY like to know the specifics here.

I've thought about going to my boss about it, but they have worked together for 20 plus years. (They are actually at lunch together now)

Anyone? Help????

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Mon 04/16/12 09:44 AM
shocked flowerforyou

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Mon 04/16/12 09:48 AM
Dang girl,I would print the info and let your boss know.And that you perfer not to work alone with him.
J.M.O.

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Mon 04/16/12 09:49 AM
It might be completely harmless though. I dont know the situation.
I really need specifics.

They are coming back...gotta go, but I'll check back soon.

Thanks in advance everyone....

*sighs*

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Mon 04/16/12 10:13 AM
You won't be able to tell just from a report. For example, I had clients ordered into treatment, but had plead to B/E and they dropped attempted rape. And I had clients on Megan's List who were mentally retarded and asked a neighbor kid for a blow job. Assessment and treatment are complicated, but if you are really really afraid for your safety, I would talk to the local police community liason officer and just express your concern. Remember, that you don't know the story and these notifications are just an alert to raise your awareness and not to raise a posse.

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Mon 04/16/12 10:31 AM
A friend came over one day and showed me how
to find the Sex Offender's list for my city
online.
There were 3.
ALL on my street.
One, is 2 doors away.
But, it showed what they did, so I would go
with TBRich's advice, and find out what the
issue was.
One assumes it is over, but accessible because
of the nature of permanent Sex Offender criteria.
The fellow 2 doors down was convicted of child
molestation with little boys.
I kept it to myself.
Until some little boys moved in next to him,
then I informed the parents of where they could
check the list.
That is all I said.
I do not know if they even looked.

You don't want to hold someone responsible for
what they have already paid for.
But the Sex Offender List always exists beyond
the crime.
For a point.
So that people are aware.
Right now, you are only half aware.
I would want to know, in your circumstances..
it may even appease your fears.

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Mon 04/16/12 01:24 PM
Thanks. The registries I have looked at does not tell what the actual crime was and I doubt calling the police department will get me anywhere.
I'm sure it's no big deal, but it has raised my fears a bit.

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Mon 04/16/12 01:33 PM
the worst offenders r on no list

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Mon 04/16/12 01:37 PM
that makes me feel betternoway

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Mon 04/16/12 01:53 PM
lol...learn kung fu and talk to ur boss...i think the situation warrants it

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Mon 04/16/12 02:21 PM
Regardless of 'time spent', I would feel extremely uncomfortable around that person until I knew the nature of his offense.

If it were me, I would have a chat with my employer's Human Resource department without revealing the name of the individual. They probably won’t be able to disclose any information due to confidentiality but they might to offer some reasurrances.

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Mon 04/16/12 02:44 PM

I haven't been on in awhile but I've always been able to rely on my online friends for advice...and boy do I need some now.

Dilemma: Ya know that registry app you can get for your computer or phone that tells you about the sex offenders around your area? Well....

I discovered one and it blew me away. I work with him! I've been trying to figure out just what he did but I can't find that info out. I know some people get falsely accused, or whatever....

So, since i'm sometimes in this little office ALONE with this guy, I would REALLY like to know the specifics here.

I've thought about going to my boss about it, but they have worked together for 20 plus years. (They are actually at lunch together now)

Anyone? Help????


Have you asked him?

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Mon 04/16/12 05:23 PM

Thanks. The registries I have looked at does not tell what the actual crime was and I doubt calling the police department will get me anywhere.
I'm sure it's no big deal, but it has raised my fears a bit.


The police can tell you some stuff and resources that may help you feel safer, is what I meant.

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Mon 04/16/12 05:23 PM
I would keep it in mind, but would ignore the fact and treat the person different. Always know and use work office policy. Do not at any point show or act with a prejudiced attitude. The company probably knows, and made the decision to give the individual a second chance. If the company has made the decision that the person deserves a second chance, then, that individual paid their time. Just always be safe and use safety measures.

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Mon 04/16/12 05:42 PM
Id just walk up to him and say hey buddy I seen you on the sex offenders list What did you do.

Whats the worst thing he can do?

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Mon 04/16/12 06:55 PM

Id just walk up to him and say hey buddy I seen you on the sex offenders list What did you do.

Whats the worst thing he can do?


Why not you have known him awhile?
Have someone with you when you do.
Learn Kun fu like Warrior said or at least have a stapler in your hand.

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Mon 04/16/12 11:41 PM
As I have gotten older Ive tried to not associate negative hear sayings with people that I am around. The likelihood that someo0ne who did something will do that to you just because your around him actually is not huge...Though as I am saying this I am picturing guys that kidnap little girls habitually and almost need to be caged in order to stop them... One of my friends girlfriends hit on me and we kind of messed around ...later on it turned out she said I raped her... so kind of both ways but people are idiots at the same time..and make huge deals over nothing or things they know are not true

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Mon 04/16/12 11:44 PM


Thanks. The registries I have looked at does not tell what the actual crime was and I doubt calling the police department will get me anywhere.
I'm sure it's no big deal, but it has raised my fears a bit.


The police can tell you some stuff and resources that may help you feel safer, is what I meant.


You can always ask if he enjoys the way his &^)&**& looks huge in tiny hands

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Tue 04/17/12 01:17 AM
Edited by Chloe23Irish on Tue 04/17/12 02:03 AM

I haven't been on in awhile but I've always been able to rely on my online friends for advice...and boy do I need some now.

Dilemma: Ya know that registry app you can get for your computer or phone that tells you about the sex offenders around your area? Well....

I discovered one and it blew me away. I work with him! I've been trying to figure out just what he did but I can't find that info out. I know some people get falsely accused, or whatever....

So, since i'm sometimes in this little office ALONE with this guy, I would REALLY like to know the specifics here.

I've thought about going to my boss about it, but they have worked together for 20 plus years. (They are actually at lunch together now)

Anyone? Help????


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Tue 04/17/12 06:37 AM
If it doesn't list his offense then that usually means it was minor enough that it's not listed. Probably had sex with a 16 year old when he was 19 or 20. That's the only time I've seen them not list the offense.

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