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Topic: Things you should be upfront about
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 04/13/12 01:53 PM
When getting to know someone and starting to date, what are things you think should be brought up? What should people be upfront about?

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Fri 04/13/12 01:55 PM
Well, first off they should be upfront about what they want and what they have to offer in a relationship.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 04/13/12 01:58 PM
What do you mean by what they have to offer in a relationship? Do they need to sell themselves to you in order to get a date? What kinds of things are you looking for when wanting to hear what they have to offer?

mightymoe Joined Sun 11/19/06 Posts: 37362	Fri 04/13/12 02:03 PM
what their situation is, IE: in a relationship, wanting to get out of a relationship, married, single, divorced, separated... thats always nice to know...

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Fri 04/13/12 02:04 PM
Sure, we sell ourselves. That's pretty much what websites like this are all about, marketing ourselves. Aside from the obvious, I look for someone who shares the same morals and values as I do, one who shares a similar lifestyle, etc.

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Fri 04/13/12 02:23 PM
Extra body parts Missing body parts Physical Illnesses or disabilities Mental illnesses Criminal history Drug use (including alcohol and tobacco) Type of relationship desired Pets Allergies

Kimoboy Joined Mon 04/25/11 Posts: 131	Fri 04/13/12 02:51 PM
STD's (especially herpes) straight or bi any unhealthy addictions Secret Russian Mafia boyfriends criminal history marital status drug/alcohol use citizenship status (just looking for a Green card?)

joy4gud Joined Sun 06/05/11 Posts: 3172	Fri 04/13/12 03:01 PM
His pay cheque!

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Fri 04/13/12 03:31 PM
its kind of hard to define 'upfront',, I Think relationships are a process, I certainly believe sometime BEFORE deep feelings develop or substantial time is invested,,,certain things should be shared to give the other a fair chance at an educated decision of how far to proceed things like,, gender confusion, sexual fetishes, sexual preferences, marital status, parental status, criminal status, and extra or missing body parts,,,,,

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Fri 04/13/12 03:36 PM
As I am totally against someone taking away my choice as to whether or not I choose to get involved...I would want to know their: Relationship status i.e. married or cohabiting Dependency issues - drug and/or alcohol Health (general, mental + sexual) issues - (HIV, Herpes, bipolar, cancer etc) Type of relationship he's looking for Orientation i.e. bi or bi curious

mightymoe Joined Sun 11/19/06 Posts: 37362	Fri 04/13/12 03:39 PM
His pay cheque!

Down2earthdebbie Joined Tue 12/05/06 Posts: 6097	Fri 04/13/12 03:57 PM
Well a date is a date.........people need to spend time together as well as text talk getting to know someone b4 rushing into anything!

RainbowTrout Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 13869	Fri 04/13/12 03:58 PM
Ability to change flats. Marksmanship. Purse size. Type of pets they like. Can they drive. How they act under stress. Strange relatives. Will there be any competition. Do they have any pull with law enforcement. Concealed weapons. Music likes and dislikes. Magical skills.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Fri 04/13/12 03:59 PM
Whether or not they are a sociopath.

mightymoe Joined Sun 11/19/06 Posts: 37362	Fri 04/13/12 04:10 PM
Whether or not they are a sociopath. whats a worse path, socio or phsyco?

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Fri 04/13/12 04:13 PM
Whether or not they are a sociopath. whats a worse path, socio or phsyco? They'll both destroy your life.

mightymoe Joined Sun 11/19/06 Posts: 37362	Fri 04/13/12 04:14 PM
Whether or not they are a sociopath. whats a worse path, socio or phsyco? They'll both destroy your life. the bastards...

Peekinin Joined Mon 03/17/08 Posts: 4970	Fri 04/13/12 04:22 PM
His pay cheque! or lack thereof

mightymoe Joined Sun 11/19/06 Posts: 37362	Fri 04/13/12 04:25 PM
His pay cheque! or lack thereof

Unknow Joined Sat 10/21/06 Posts: 3353	Fri 04/13/12 04:31 PM
His pay cheque! or lack thereof Funny but true! Went out with a really nice guy a couple of times only to find out he did'nt work.... that he was on disability...for a few slipped dics in his back....and addicted to pain killers....and he needed to borrow money to pay his phone bill so he could call me...