Totally agree.

Lifestyle is part of individual standards. I want an equal who brings to the partnership at least what I can. And not just finacially. For me, the emotional standard beats that EVERY time. I know, pretty naive thinking

Then there are those that want to be taken care of

No judgement

Just find someone with the same "standard"

And for the record

I am in no way out for a man's wallet. I can take care of myself thank you very much In fact, simple is better.

What I NEED him to be is upfront and honest

Things I think people have to be up front about are ;

Anything that might impinge on a person's personal saftey. (If you have a "mate, crazy Ex, are carrying contriband, are trying to drive and are "impaired", have acommunicable disease,)are carrying a dangerous weapon, have and extreamly dangerous job. Or if you have a very public personality where I can not have a private life with you without the paperratzi camped outside my doorstep.

If you have the marital status I require. I don't do married, seperated, shacked up, or having a marital relationship with someone while you are trying to go out with me. I do NOT care if it doesn't matter to you it matters to me and lie to me about it I am not going to play nice when I find out. I don't do walking wounded either so if you tell me you are over your ex wheather widowed or divorced or just stopped dating it better be over.

Are you self sustaining. I am willing to date not support someone or feel obliged to someone else for useing your time when you should be focusing on being independent. I don't care if a person choses to live in a rented room and eat on the cheap but I am not going to date anyone living off their family or thier kids entitlements. I do not want to date someone who is morgageing their (and possibly my) future living on credit, cheating on their taxes, or being indebted to a third party for sustaining them once they are a grown adult. I don't care if someone is useing and earned entitlement like social security or a retirement but I have never collected unemployment and and I don't believe in welfare or subsidized houseing unless there is a medical necessity. I don't mind someone useing coupons, wearing handme downs, or riding the bus but I have zero interest in anyone who lays up on their families wealth or survives on hustleing or gambeling.

I personally do not consider dateing an entitlement to ask someone a lot about how much they make or extensuive questions about their medical status. Now if it is more tha dateing and moved into the relm of "courting" then I think a person has the right to have a reasonable education about a person's finances and known medical risks. Especially if it is not readily visable like a hidden illness or a compromiseing emplyment situation where where they could be drawn away with little or no notice; even if it is in service to country or community.

I think a person has the right to know how many legal dependents you have. Especially children. While in the dating situation is not so serious I do think if the suggestion is that "courting" is imminent that the person has the obligation to own up to behavior that might reasonably resulted in a child coming forward at a later time. While it is not currently law in the USA I think a person has a reasonable expectaion to in wanting to know if you have siblings or living parents that could become dependent. there is other stuff but that is my "biggies"