So...do you ever think before you say something brutally honest? Or do you always say what the opposite sex wants to hear to avoid hurting their feelings? Or do you say it anyway? What constitutes crossing the line with men and women?

wen it comes to expression i never fake it just to cope up with what she (partner). . has been expectin. . . If the truth is brutal i.e if it can bring severe damage. . i ll try to avoid it. . . I lie dependin on gravity of situatn. . . I havnt drawn any line among us. . . Coz that makes us want to cros and b more inquisitive. . . 4m personal exp, . . Its not gud to lie . Eg. . To lie abt yr personal int. And habits coz eventually later we will suffer no mattr hw much u fake yrself. . . I would rather make the opp sex run off than being a fake man. . . Bottom line . . . . Lie but think twice prior to that. . .

I once had an ex bf that I would bicker with all the time...at lot of the things we said to each other would probably have had a more sensitive person in tears as we frequently went for the jugular with our comments...we both knew the other could take it (the comments) and although meant at the time, we didn’t hold a grudge...

I haven’t had that type of relationship with anyone else and I always try to be considerate of another's feelings unless I'm having a heated argument then things tend can get a little blurred.

One simple rule . . . the golden rule. If if were being said to me, how would I feel?

There are many ways to get a message across. There's hardly ever a need to be cruel or rude.

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Huh......

No.....I just say it!!!!!!

I haven't felt attractive in weeks! Thanks

Awwwwww..........Glad I could help!!!!

treat people how I would like to be treated
If I dont have something nice to say, I say nothing.
Unless Im specifically asked my opinion
(With the exception of mingle where the asking of opinion is implied)

thankfully, I Was fairly well educated in the english language so I am able to find ways to be honest without being 'brutal'. I try to think before I speak (or write) and consider how to communicate productively (criticism isnt productive if it shuts someone down or puts them on the defense, in my opinion)


I think criticism should be constructive and aimed at aiding the person in improving something as opposed to just shutting them down completely.

You can be honest and not cruel about it. There is a way to approach any situation. One should always think before just blurting out stuff.

Working on being honest has been a full time job for me for some time. They determined I was a people-pleaser in rehab. I didn't like hurting other folk's feelings. But, yeah a heated argument and the gloves come off.

Most of the time I think being btutally honest is (nuch like sarcasam; or pretending to be funny) a competition to be in control or one up the other person out of a person's own needs not the person they are talking at

On rare occasions it is really in someone elses best interest to let them have it with both feet. Now they better be going toward something that is really going to ruin their life because words can break a lot more than a fall and wound the soul.

It is one thing to crack people in conversations on a website to provide entertainment, or make them think, but in personal relationships if you do then the people will wilt eventually no matter how tough or ceribrial they are. After all in personal relationships one knows the real buttons and when you punch the wrong ones you are really cutting your own throat..

My ex-husband was a people pleaser. He would always say what he thought people wanted to hear,(even when it made no sense to lie) he made promises he wouldn't fulfill, etc. I'd rather be hurt with the truth than comforted with a lie. Of course, there are tactful ways to be honest.

I am pretty much just honest about it... depending on the situation and person I may not be "brutally honest"... but then again, I have been known to do that to, so yeah. I do usually put some thought into it to decide how best to phrase it, but sometimes tact just doesn't work.

I Always stop and think before speaking anything that may hurt another.
You can't take your words back and the echo they leave is never ending.

There is a way to express honesty without being brutal to the other party. I tend to shy away from unnecessary conflict but when needed will be as gentle as possible ~ as I would hope they would be with me.

On here ~ if I can't say anything nice, I move on

I really try to speak my mind in a respectful and honest may; sometimes I can get tongue tied and say things I don't mean, and sometimes I blurt things out without thinking things through - I'm a good candidate for foot-in-mouth disease rehab! I wish I could be more consistent.

I will be honest with you, and let you know the truth, good or bad. I will not sugar coat things, but I will try not to hurt your feelings or anything.

Dang...all the good ones are taken.

<--------- is not taken.

I don't know how many times being brutally honest has cost me..

Now? Who knows, maybe I'll take the easy route and lie my azz off!