I got some very nasty e-mails from someone today -- she didn't like the fact that I had some things in my profile about who I would and would not be interested in dating....presumably because she was all of those things in the "would not" category. At least, that's how I interpreted what she wrote.

And this person came at me as if I had deliberately written what I wrote in my profile as some sort of attempt to minimize or belittle or exclude her, specifically -- which, of course, was never the case, seeing as how I never heard of her until today and the profile was written quite some time ago.

But it got me to wondering about why it is that people take this stuff so personally....

Let me flip it around for a second. I see profiles all the time where someone says "I'm not interested in anybody over 35." OK, I'm over 35, I understand what you're saying, I'm not gonna pursue you. Neither am I going to act like I've been personally attacked, either, though.

Because if you're not interested in anybody over 35, that's OK. That's your preference, that's your prerogative. Nobody can stand there and say, "Hey, wait, I'm 42, and here are seventeen reasons why you should date me anyway" if you don't want to listen to it.

If someone says "I don't want to date someone who ________," that's NOT the same as saying "All people who __________ are hellish demons from the depths of some stygian inferno and should be fed to piranhas on steroids." Hey, most of my friends on this site are single/divorced mothers. Why? Because they're all smart enough to know that my standards for dating have nothing to do with my standards for what makes a good person.

That is pretty mean...so many creepers... I still love ya ((((SexyLexy)))) I dont take it personally..I will still fantasize about you.


and stalk you.

Well, good, because that's the sort of behavior I actively encourage!

It's just weird to me how some people make stuff up and act like it's real....she basically reamed me for a couple of paragraphs and then finished it off by talking about her warm and loving family....! You don't often see warm and loving cobras, all full of venom and hostility, on the internet....!

did you ask her out?

No, I actually ended up blocking her after the third one.

It was never going to work anyway....

That is why I dont send you mail...saving myself the BLOCK jk...

There are some very sad, pathetic individuals out there but thankfully they're outnumbered by good, decent people

Pfffft....you would not be blocked....

As a matter of fact, I very very rarely ever block anybody -- a few really persistent scammers (until their accounts get nuked), but for the most part, I want to be as accessible as possible to legitimate people, such as yourself, who I know from the forums....

That is nipping it in the bud, Lex. Save you and them both wasted time. Admirable.

but but lex i was being honest in the emails lol kidding

"stygian" spoken like a true sci fi writer

I think it's just par for the course...I've had guys verbally (in print) attact me for declining their interest.

I even had one person suggest that I needed 'counselling' for having the audacity to say that I didn't want to chat to him...he just decided that because I didn’t tell him to fxxk off that I was interested....people are weird, end of story!

I'm no longer amazed at the lengths people will go to to mess with my inner peace as a way of masking the fact that they have issues.

Absolutely. It just seems like there are a few out there who are actively looking for something to blow up about....

Sometimes it's for the best!

Night..((((SexyLexy))))Stalk you in the morning.

i'm thinking it has something to do with being dismissed so damn early.
it's like you're getting rid of me before you even hear from me!
why don't you like me?!
D':

Hey, I'm quite SURE it wasn't you! This was someone I have never heard of before, and hope to never hear of again!

And it's not like I expect everybody to like me -- life doesn't work that way. Fine. But if they're gonna harangue me, they could at least spell the words right.

Yeah, that's exactly the sense of what I got from her messages.

You know, like, "Hey, it's not MY fault you're so miserable you have to go throw a fit at some stranger on line!"

Not that she would have appreciated the sentiment....

But she was the polar opposite of everything I DO like.

What did she think was gonna happen?

ya i know but i just had to go an say it ya know lol

opposites attract and leads to cheesy love story?